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to secretly think that my wedding was better then other people's?

109 replies

moulesfrites · 27/07/2008 20:21

Got married 6 months ago. Been to a few friends' weddings this summer and so far get really annoyed at myself when instead of focusing on the bride and groom's happiness I find myself momentarily lapsing and considering minor details like entrance music, orders of service, dress etc and thinking "ours was nicer". Does this make me a terrible person or is it natural? I suppose it's a good job that I liked my own wedding!

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Bumdiddley · 28/07/2008 14:39

I have been to three weddings (one was mine)

I would give my left tit to be go to a wedding any wedding.

Nice meal, drinks, and dancing - mostly free. Hmmmm bliss....

Upwind · 28/07/2008 17:09

solidgold brass

LOL at the horsehair tampon wearers

Communion · 28/07/2008 17:27

I LOVE weddings.

When else do you get to dress up, sing hymns, have a little cry, see all your old mates, start drinking in the afternoon, get a meal and then dance all night.

Never anymore, unless it's a wedding.

I couldn't give two hoots though about the entrance music, colour scheme, cars, cakes etc, and would certainly not compare wedding on those pointless criteria.

I personally find that my enjoyment of a wedding is usually highly correlated to my affection for the person/people getting married.

If it's someone you really care about you get caught up in the excitement and emotion for them, and cry more, sing louder, get generally drunk by 5.00pm and dance like a mad thing all night, whilst periodically telling your mate/sister/neighbour how beautiful they look/how happy you are for them/what a wonderful wedding this is (repetively and with incresed emotion as the night goes on).

I may make comparisons about speeches, as some go down in the hall of fame for emotion/humour or cringabilty, but all are usually good, I love the speeches.

what's not to love?

To the OP though, enjoy their wedding, their day and stop focusing on the crappola minutae, which NEVER matters and certainly doesn't make a wedding.

imo.

bran · 28/07/2008 17:47

I've thought much worse things at weddings, including mentally estimating the likely length of the marriage during the boring bits of the speeches. So long as you don't say anything it doesn't really matter what you think.

kerala · 28/07/2008 17:53

Think the same rule applies to children - you just cant help but think yours are the absolute best, sweetest, most gorgeous and I can tell all my friends think the same about their own.

allgonebellyup · 28/07/2008 18:38

agree with cod

wanky wank-stain of a thread

blueshoes · 28/07/2008 19:28

I am not sure why brides obsess so much about the details of the wedding. I (and certainly dh) don't notice a thing.

Our own wedding was very short in length but a simple and chic city wedding. I am sure no one remembers

Perfectinpink · 28/07/2008 19:30

weddings - they are all the same tbh...

pamelat · 28/07/2008 20:03

I believe that my wedding day was fun (I loved it anyway!)

I expected to get stressed out but surprisingly I was relaxed and totally totally loved every second of it - except for the 5 mins when DH and I arrived at reception ahead of everyone else, felt a bit weird in my dress!

I am glad you enjoyed your day.

You are probably still in wedding wedding mode. I didnt stay in that long as I went baby baby baby very quickly!!

A few friends of mine are getting married this summer and have made a big effort to RSVP properly, buy gifts in a timely fashion (those online gift lists date when people buy you stuff) - yep its shallow but at the time it really really mattered to me - bridezilla .. ?!

I dont think I would compare material things, but its great you enjoyed your day. Would be horrible to go to a wedding and rate it as more fun than your own .. !

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