to secretly think that my wedding was better then other people's?

[moulesfrites]

Got married 6 months ago. Been to a few friends' weddings this summer and so far get really annoyed at myself when instead of focusing on the bride and groom's happiness I find myself momentarily lapsing and considering minor details like entrance music, orders of service, dress etc and thinking "ours was nicer". Does this make me a terrible person or is it natural? I suppose it's a good job that I liked my own wedding!

he's now teetotal.

LLGE we aren't all like that, comparing weddings.

I actually think my wedding was not as good as some others I have been to. But it is not the wedding itself that counts really, is it? It is the marriage. We celebrate 14 years of marriage on Wednesday. Now that is something to be mildly smug about in this day and age.

I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking your wedding day was special and wonderful. Mine was the culmination of a 10 year courtship and to have such a special day with our close family and friends was bliss to us.

We both laughed and cried and still look back to this day with affection another 10 years on.

Maybe this makes me sad or a me me, but i don't care. It was the best wedding in the world cos it was ours, and i think the op deserves to think hers was the best too, cos it most likely was.

dumbledoresgirl, i agree on that point. congrats for being married for such a long time. says a lot in this day and age you are right!

Only read OP. I think it's a bit odd.

Plus, how lavish or perfect your wedding was has no bearing on the success or happiness of your marriage either.

My parents got married in a registry office and had some sarnies back at my nan's house after. There are no photos of the wedding whatsoever and my mother wore a 'normal' dress, I think she might have made it herself.

They are still married 36 years later, unlike someone people who have big posh dos and last all of about 6 months.

I suspect I've repeated what others have said though!

good point there gobbledigook, thats more or less where i'm coming from. not interested in all the details of the perfect wedding, who cares, its the actual marriage that's important.

Let's all cuddle!

Cod, come here, sausage!

YABU. Relax, it's not a competition. My wedding was ace (until a drunken guest vomited on me). Carnations and wine are not a good combination.

Aye, but we all know you're sad, Fio .

Argh, the friggin bat!

not read it all.#

i just think thats so bizare to be thinking like that!

not my normal. but who's o say i'm the normal one

Thanks for all the responses, serious and otherwise! I accept now that everyone's day is uniquely special to them. I took my marriage vows incredibly seriously (hence my emphasis on the actual marriage service rather than the party afterwards) and was not solely preoccupied with the aestethic features of the day - but we did have fun choosing all those details, though some people might find that shallow.

Weddings are so ephemeral. One of the poshest, swankiest, 'nicest' weddings I ever went to is ending in divorce after less than 4 years. I just don't get why people obsess about what colour their chair swags were.

went to a wedding in a castle,harps and champagne on arrival.ceilidh band.divorced 14mth later

ostentatious tosh

LMAO at this thread, I personally loathe weddings, all that worrying about whether you might fart in church during the quiet bits, the tedious hymns that you've forgotten all the words to, the being nice to Auntie Maud who you personally can't stand but she's family, even worse when the wedding is a friends and not family because their Auntie Maud is 10 times worse and will spend 10 minutes regaling your husband with tales of 'how you've grown' and the time you were sick in her rose bush.

Marriage is much better (well the second time round, I've found) than an actual wedding anyhoo.

Hahahahahaha

Everyone on MN is arsey about weddings and everyone posts about how you should get married in the rain in a bog in jeans because then you truely love each other so you will get no sympathy for killing yourself for a year trying to make it look fabby.

I am going to my partners brother's wedding next weekend and I know ours (in October) will be better - prob not tbh, it will rain and nobody will turn up but I dream...

Jeepers ............

I feel like our wedding was the best one because it was - I married DH .

And the weddings of our siblings have also been brilliant.

Totally natural imo. Weddings are never the same again once you've had you own!

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god i hate weddings, they go on and on and on