to cringe when parents call thier children.....................

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sexy, well am I? i was waiting at a bus stop today and heard a mother call her baby son "sexy", as in "come here sexy man". It suddenly occurred to me how much i hear this and how much it irritates me. It just doesn't seem right to refer to your child as sexy.

AIBU?

no i hate it.

Ds is a handsome boy, and his girl friends I call pretty, or lovely. never sexy.

but I do say to DS - wootwoo! lol. and rudeydudey!

I did call DS 'horny' once, but not meant in the term adults use obviously. (he kept beeping the car horn so I said come on horny' regretted it straight away after.)

God yes, DTM, I'v heard mothers say horny too.Not car horny - horny horny horny.
Tis amazing what you hear on buses.

`DTM ' that´s funny!!

i do call ds babe or babes but thats cos i call it everyone. i accidentally called the chef at work babe the other day CRINGE!!

wasn't funny was right by the entrance to the gym door when I said it and an old bloke walked out lol.

I don't call him babe either - not really the word for a little boy.

Eeeeeeeew. Sexy? Really? Highly inappropriate.

DTM ' do you mean inappropiate cos it is a word used more towards females or inappropitae for both a little boy or a little girl

No YANBU. It would never occur to me - it's disgusting.

Very inappropriate. btw Feud got it all wrong about Oedipus. The Greek point to the story was about Oedipus overreacting when he discovers (many years later) that he had killed his father and stabs his eyes out so he can't see his children (that might also be because Jocasta hangs herself when she hears). As Oedipus kills his father in a fleeting moment of road rage and is given the hand of Jocasta as a reward for defeating the sphinx the inference that Freud gives the story is entirely his own.

i was just giving a very short explanation of where the word came from and i wasn't sure if freud coined the term for his own use.

Eurgh. I have a friend who calls my 13 month old DS "sexy" and I hate it. I know she doesn't mean it like that but I think its wrong and... chavvy

Eww no you are definitely NBU.

Completely inappropiate. I would be distictly unhappy of my ds were referred to in this way.

nappy addict - to be totally honest I feel that words such as 'sexy, horny (in my case but not said how it sounds lol), babe, etc' is not really suitable for a little person - either boy or girl. something like 'poppet, sweetie, fruitgum, handsome, pretty (when used to describe a child) is fine.)

to an extent I feel parents are not exactly making their child into sexual beings at an early age, but if you ask me, in some respects by saying to a little girl for example 'you're sexy' and she's say 4 - do you mean she looks sexy or is acting sexy?? there's a fine line I feel there and tbh it's not a line a child should be anywhere near. unfortunately heard in the wrong context around the wrong person and who knows where it might end up. iycwim.

ugh, yanbu, it's wrong, wrong, wrong.

I do call DS gorgeous boy though.

not ever heard anyone else refer to a child as horny tbh

Never heard anyone say sexy or horny to their kids - sounds revolting. But I have to admit to calling ds (just 4 months) 'big boy', and often say 'come to mummy big boy!'. I would like to think that when I say a similar phrase to MrP (without the mummy bit obviously) the tone of voice and smouldering look I give him puts it into context.

I might stop calling ds big boy after this.

Mrs pickles - both DH and I have done the same without thinking - once - and were completely shocked at hearing ourselves say it. I think it is to do with the change from being a couple to a family. DH is the only person I would call sexy or gorgeous and vice versa - so in our brains it was interchangable until someone joined our family who was gorgeous but not sexy IYKWIM.

Where do youepoel live??

Where do people call children, or thier friends sexy??

Very weird. Never heard it.

Sexy to child is inappropriate in so many ways.

'do you fancy a coffee sexy?' from your friend should just elicite the response 'no thank you.'

A friend did go through a brief stage of using the term 'baby girl' to growm women. eg. 'hey babygirl', made me feel most uncomfortable.

Also my neighbour (male and single) calls me 'playmate', is that odd? or is there something I don't know and this is general friendly term?

YANBU.

I loathe, hate and detest hearing people describe children or anything to do with children 'sexy'. It's vile.

sexy - marked by or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest

Nice way to describe your child.

It's bad enough that according to jo public and some tv programmes and magazines - cars are sexy, furniture is sexy....everything is bloody 'sexy' it seems. Is it that some people are so stupid they are unable to make proper use of the language?

I think YABU (OP) sorry. You don't have to use the term - it may sound wrong to you, that's your perogative. They only mean "gorgeous" as someone else said - the comment has nothing to do with sex clearly and to feel so strongly as to post about it kind of makes me feel as if you might think those parents behave inappropriately towards their children in some way, which is not fair I'm sure. I expect their mostly perfectly good and loving parents.

No offence intended really.

they're sorry not their!

I dont like it, but hey least their not saying, "come here you little s*&t"

But shiny - the word means arousing sexual desire. There is NO other meaning for it. You can't use a word and decide that it doesn't mean what it means. That's like me calling my neighbour ugly and deciding that the word ugly in this context means happy. "Hi Neighbour, you're looking ugly today, going somewhere nice?" Doesn't work like that. Sexy = Sexual desire.