To be annoyed by mothers who make a big show of crying at the nursery but...

[Gateau]

Yes, they can't wait to tell anyone who will listen how they couldn't stop crying for the first few weeks of dropping off LO at nursery. And then, hey, before you know it, they're skipping off on a weekend away with DH - and LO is left high and dry at home with the grandparents. And there is not a word about it.

Thanks WWW

Gateau - are you ignoring my question on purpose?

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MI - ridiculously jealous. Had one night away from DD and DP and went out with firends and just ate toast (lots of it). Such a luxury not to eat veggies and mash food up.

Gateau - I still don't get why you would not leave your children with grandparetns overnight so much fun for everyone involved? Is it a control thing? Are your dcs allowed sleep overs?

I agree also your tone makes it sound as though if you do leave your children overnight you are feckless

My DS is 15 months old. Why the big fuss about us not wanting him to stay places? And why are you all assuming I have DCs?

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15 months and you and your dh haven't had a night without him.
Not good.
Poor old dh.
That is what I mean. Children should be without their parents for an occassional night. Good for children. Fab for parents.

I left my DD with my parents for 11 nights when she was 16 months .

DH and I haven't had a night away from DS. No one has offered and we don't feel we can ask- doing the dinner/bath/bed routine is hard work, as is the getting up at 6am the next day, so we'd only be happy anyone doing that for us if they offered first, as we wouldn't want them to feel obliged.

So anyone who has grandparents near enough/able/willing to do this, I am !

I had a night away myself when DS was 10 weeks. It was a friend's hen do, I left on the Saturday afternoon, due to return mid morning ish the next day.

Despite not getting to bed until about 4am I got up again at 6 and drove home because I missed DS so much . That was at 10 weeks though. I wouldn't do that now - I'd seize the opportunity.

that's quite a long time anna, where did you go?

I left dd1 for a night with my mum - it was my wedding night

well my lo is camping with her gp's atm and i didnt cry. in fact i was over the moon! whoo hoo a night without "can i have a drink?" "wheres my favourite teddy gone?" "my light has gone out" "can i sleep in your bed?" "i want to wear my other nighty" "but i want porridge for breakfast not toast" "go and buy some milk then ill mind the baby" "the tv is too loud turn it down" "i didnt want water i want milk, no not that milk pink milk" "but i want to wear a dress"............

though i felt quite the same about nursery too! i dont get your point though? nursery is quite different from staying with your gp's. even if it is for a whole weekend

My ds spent a week with my parents when he was one. They still talk about it now, eight years later I don't think anyone should have their parents look after their children when they are small, but it is nice all round, and not something to be shocked about, or feel that they should justify to anyone else.

We went to Switzerland and left my daughter with my mother in England. My daughter knows my parents very well so it really wasn't a problem except for my breasts as I was still breastfeeding and it was agony .

I left her with them last week for a few days - she had a fantastic time.

the bf thing is tricky

had to express by hand the night of my wedding

I wouldn't leave my daughter if I wasn't sure she was going to love it. So in that sense I completely understand that some parents have no GPs around that they have total faith in for their DCs and so don't want to leave them. It has to be win win for everyone.

I'm a nanny not a mum, but I still cry the first day "my" babies go to nursery or Big School. It's a milestone and it's totally worth getting emotional about.

AFA weekends away, I'm normally the one left holding the babies, and I do get a bit green-eyed when my bosses swan off to Bermuda or Grand cayman for 5 days. But it's important for the parents to have time for themselves and if they can afford it, then why not? I'm hoping next time they'll take me and the children, I keep offering to share a room with the kids LOL.

i actually don;t understand the point of this OP

yes , YABU

but seem unable or unwilling to articulate why nursery is Bad, grandparents Good, and one night Good, but more than that is Very Very Bad

i would really like to understand

I don't understand this at all. My DD has always spent a fair bit of time with my parents (and would with DH's parents if they were more easily available). I mean, they are her grandparents - of course we want her to have a relationship with them, and we're lucky enough that they're all in good health and love her to bits. It has also meant that when I have DD2, I have no worries about DD1 being babysat by her grandparents as I know that she'll be overjoyed to play with them, rather than boring old Mummy. So I can concentrate completely on me.

I do get a bit miffed at the assumption that nights away from one's children are both Normal and Essential For One's Relationship.

I have no idea what a Night Away with Mr Inferior would be like, because we've never had one. I can't say I madly crave it, though, I get quite enough of his company as it is.

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