To be creeped out and upset by this?

[Janos]

Sorry, it's about porn again. Yawn, yawn, yawn I know.

But I could really with some perspective here.

Porn doesn't generally bother me, I have no problem with it and have used occaisionally. I know some folk don't and have strong views otherwise. Just acknowledging that and asking not to have a go at me, please!

Anyway have watched it sometimes with my partner, I enjoyed it.

But last night he was up for a while looking at stuff, don't know what - I feel straight to sleep. So I teased him about it this morning and told me the titles of some stuff.
Well it was things about women being 'forced' to do stuff and 'taken advantage of'. Now to me - sorry to be blunt - that is basically euphemism for rape/assault. I feel angry and upset with him, because he knows this happened to mee and how it made me feel.

What's worse is he doesn't get why it has upset me. he says he wouldn't do it, I know he wouldn't, that's not the point.

I feel hurt and if I'm being honest quite angry.

AIBU? You may think yes but please be gentle.

Yes, but still, thinking anyone's (mutually consenting) kinks is wrong is being prudish

It's nothing to do with being prudish, believe me without going into detail I am not prudish. But watching other people have sex makes me cringe!

Hear Hear dittany, I thought I was the only person on the plant to find it revolting! You are right, many of the people especially women in these videos are being treated terribly, even if they look like they are loving it. It is the only way some of them can earn enough money to feed their drug habits. You cannot say that some porn is ok and some not, the director of a film you enjoyed might also be the director of a really awful film involving animals or children, you are lining his pocket either way. You don't know the history of these people being filmed.

I disagree, Sim, you can be an actor in a porn movie but the moment you start saying someone else's kink is wrong you are a prude. I'm far from a prude, but there are things I wouldn't ever do but I would never say they're wrong, they're just not for me.

I'm not talking about the video the OP's husband found because then you're removing the mutual consent (even if it's acting, it's not implied as it would be in a D/s film) and that's the only thing I will ever say is wrong.

Again, the argument that because some individuals are abusive to others and may (or may not, the police being 'pretty sure' of something is not exactly proof of anything) distirubute films of real assault, all porn is wrong is like saying that because some men beat and abuse their wives, marriage should be outlawed. Actually, that's an argument with more logic and history behind it...

dittany, that was exactly what I was saying I said D/s is different to rape and assault porn which is never right. So what was you disagreeing with me about? And why am I a "porn-defender"?

Tinkerbells mum, so porn with animals is which you obviously never do is .. "not wrong, just not for me" Of course some porn is wrong whether you bloody like it or not. I don't care whether you are a prude, not a prude, a sex fiende or a bloody porn star, you simply cannot declare that all porn is ok when some of it quite simply is wrong.

There are some weird people out there.

SIm43, but you started off saying all porn is wrong. Sex with unconsenting partners is wrong, so where porn which features actors acting as though they are not consenting (but in reality they are consenting to act and being paid) is not necessarily wrong (any more than, while it's wrong to kill, watching a film where actors are acting being killed or even an episode of eastenders where a character is 'killed' is not wrong), sex with animals, who cannot give consent, is wrong whether or not it's being filmed.

Wot she said (I was about to say exactly the same thing). Consent is key word.