To be REALLY annoyed that my sister is still smoking at 25 weeks pregnant?

[Mamatastic]

I am just home from visiting my parents and sister and even though she said she was going to give up she had a packet of 20 in her bag and was outside smoking quite the thing. I said 'I thought you had given up?' to which she replied 'It's fine!' erm....no it's not! She doesn't think she is doing the baby any harm even though her midwife said baby is getting the equivalent of 10 fags a day. I asked if she was planning to keep smoking once baby is here and she said 'that will be fine then as I'll go outside' but she then went on a rant re her DP cos he dares smoke in the bathroom inside! I have told her about SIDS etc but it's in one ear and out the other. She honestly does not see a problem with it.

I know how hard it is to quit as I smoked years ago but you would think you would certainly knock it on the head once you were pregnant would you not?

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

There was some research that said smoking only harms babies when they're past 5 months (inside the womb). I'll try to find it. It would be easier to get her to quit if she thought she could stop now and still have a good chance of avoiding health risks... When you smoke, you have a feeling of, "It's too late, I've done it now, might as well carry on" which that research might help with.

Please bear in mind that 30 or so years ago huge numbers of people, including mothers-to-be, did smoke. And the babies didn't all die. While smoking is not good for anyone it is not an automatic immediate death sentence for everyone or every foetus either. And women, pregnant or not, still have the right to do whatever they wish with their own bodies. Foetuses can't be given rights without taking rights away from women, and that can't be done, because women are people and foetuses are not yet people.