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To laugh secretly inside my head about my nephews awful teeth???

125 replies

Twinkie1 · 05/07/2008 15:33

Beacuse after 3 years of being told by my BIL & SIL that I am a bad mum for giving my kids very dilute sugar free juice and I should be feeding them pure juice sraight out a carton I have 2 kids with lovely white straight decay free teeth and her son has just been written off by the dentist in regards to his milk teeth!

I love it when their overly obsessive parenting techniques come along and bite their arses!

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expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 15:35

Yes, YABU. And spiteful and mean-spirited, tbh.

You're giving your kids a bunch of rank arficial sweetners that more and more research is showing has the potential to do a lot more damage to them long-term than dental.

Would you like for them to laugh at your kids' misfortune, even if only secretly, because you were obsessed with the natural substance that is sugar?

OverMyDeadBody · 05/07/2008 15:35

It's never nice to have horrible teeth

You sound very insensitive. The quality of your teeth is more down to genetics than diet anyway.

Desiderata · 05/07/2008 15:35

Nice post.

OverMyDeadBody · 05/07/2008 15:37

and if you're feeding your kids artificial sweeteners you don't know what the potential long term damage could be. It could come back to bite you on your arse.

YABU

cheesesarnie · 05/07/2008 15:39

ummm yes yabu,surely you know that?
my dd is having problems with her teeth,i am one of those 'overly obsessive parents'and shes still having problems.but if it makes you giggle go ahead and laugh at my dd because ive well and truly been biten on the arse!

FabioTheWhisperingCat · 05/07/2008 15:41

It's never nice to laugh at children's misfortune.

Just thought I'd let you know.

Your poor nephew.

WigWamBam · 05/07/2008 15:42

Problems with teeth aren't always caused by excessive sugar intake - sometimes they are just caused by the teeth being weak.

You are coming across as a spiteful, vindictive person - have you really nothing better to do than post in such terms about a child needing (probably very painful) dental treatment?

Desiderata · 05/07/2008 15:43

Somehow, I doubt this Miss Twinkie will be returning to her own thread.

I feel sorry that your nephew has you for an aunt.

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Twinkie1 · 05/07/2008 15:43

Yes I am evil - I cannot stand them and have been told for the last 3 years that I am a crap mum by them - my only judgement of them other than the fact that they have little idea about how to parent effectively as a couple and have brought up a little hooligan who has no manners and is spiteful and spoilt is the fact that they feed their child pure, undiluted, fruit juice from a carton and the acid in the juice has rotted all his teeth.

Now I know I shouldn't be mean but this man has also spent the last 5 years telling me how stupid I am as he is an 'intellectual' and subtely putting me down at every available opportunity - I just want to swim about elegantly revelling in the fact that for once he is having to eat humble pie!

But hey I am sure you guys are all perfect and never feel a little selfrightiuos about anything eh???

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minster · 05/07/2008 15:44

YABU & a complete bitch frankly.

I avoid sugar free juices like the plague.

cheesesarnie · 05/07/2008 15:46

so you punish the child(by laughing)for the adults behaviour/treatment of you?
its not nice that they treat you in this way but its not the child fault.

duchesse · 05/07/2008 15:46

Poor little boy. Some people are born with poorly enamelled milk teeth. Mine had neat fruit juice on many occasions and their teeth are absolutely tiptop (one filling in one of my 15 yr old's milk teeth last year- he hasn't quite finished losing molars yet).

Agree with expat re artificial sweeteners. They are far far worse than sugar imo...

OverMyDeadBody · 05/07/2008 15:47

it not about being perfect, it's just about being mature and grown-up and showing a bit of empathy for fellow humans.

2point4kids · 05/07/2008 15:47

It might not be down to the juice!
Its not nice to laugh at a child's misfortune anyway. Poor boy.

My son has mostly water, but also pure juice as its a lot better for him than sugar free squashes I think.

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 15:48

'But hey I am sure you guys are all perfect and never feel a little selfrightiuos about anything eh???'

Your issues are with your BIL and SIL. But somehow you think it's okay to laugh at a child's misfortune and that anyone who tells you how bitchy that is is self-righteous and perfect?

Grow up!

Original poster
Twinkie1 · 05/07/2008 15:48

And please Desiderata don't call me 'this Miss Twinkie' - it is terribly patronising and rude - and I have no shame and am willing to come back on here after being bollocked by other mumsnetters - it has happened quite often over the last 6 years!

Now if I were a newbie your post would make this site seem terribly cliquey and not a nice place to be (Miss Twinkie indeed!)so I probably wouldn't ever post again but hey I have been here long enough to know what mumsnet is like and some people are under the impression that they can speak to other people like this because they class it as their own private members club or something - get over yourself would you.

Just going to feed my wonderful kids with the perfect straight white teeth some more artificial sweetener!

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daftpunk · 05/07/2008 15:49

think this thread might bite you on the arse twinkie..perhaps you should have just laughed secretly inside your head, rather than sharing it with 1000's of people.

WigWamBam · 05/07/2008 15:49

Sorry, but you are still sounding like a bitch.

It's not fair to take your hatred of his parents out on the child, he doesn't deserve that.

Call them all the names you like, but it is mean-minded to gloat at this child.

FabioTheWhisperingCat · 05/07/2008 15:49

It's one thing to dislike your BIL - who may well be foul - but it's another to use his poor child as a focus of your hate.

I don't believe many people will perceive you as 'elegant' if you continue to cackle gleefully at the state of your nephew's teeth.

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 15:50

'Now if I were a newbie your post would make this site seem terribly cliquey and not a nice place to be (Miss Twinkie indeed!)'

But posts like your OP wouldn't put anyone off?

cheesesarnie · 05/07/2008 15:54

just another aibu thread where op expects everyone to agree with them.[yawn]you asked a question every one said yes,you dont like it so get your knickers in a twist and say people are ' cliquey 'and 'patronising'.

FabioTheWhisperingCat · 05/07/2008 15:54

We're speaking to you this way not because this is our own private club, but because we're revolted by your nasty OP.

And implying you're being bullied is a piss poor deflection imo.

Prufrock · 05/07/2008 15:55

Hang on - she's laughing secretly inside her head and anonymously on a website - horrid would be laughing in the boys face. I think if people have been critical of your parenting in the past and acted like they know it all it's perfectly acceptable to feel a bit happy when it's shown that they don't. Especially if you temper that tiny bit of glee with the self-knowledge to recognise that you are being a bit evil, and the tact to publicly commiserate and sympathise with them.

Desiderata · 05/07/2008 15:56

Well, for the love of fuck, woman! did you honestly think that we were all going to say, 'Good on you. Way to go, Miss Twinkie!'

You sound like a nasty piece of work.

Prufrock · 05/07/2008 15:57

Having said that Twinkie - my kids have never to my knowledge had any artificial sweeteners - I do think they are the devils work, and they drink only pure fruit juice (though usually dilute and from a cup). BUt I respect your ability to make your own decisions, even if I think you're wrong