To laugh secretly inside my head about my nephews awful teeth???

[Twinkie1]

Beacuse after 3 years of being told by my BIL & SIL that I am a bad mum for giving my kids very dilute sugar free juice and I should be feeding them pure juice sraight out a carton I have 2 kids with lovely white straight decay free teeth and her son has just been written off by the dentist in regards to his milk teeth!

I love it when their overly obsessive parenting techniques come along and bite their arses!

yabu
and very nasty

Wheres Twinkle gone?
Why start a thread in aibu, and then when someone says, "Actually, yes you are.", run off?

Twinkle - have they actually told you repeatedly for 3 years you are a bad mum, or 3 years ago did they tell you once or twice that you were a bad mum over "juicegate"?

Your bro in law sounds a right eejit I agree with you about that, but they are the ones who will pay in the long run for their bad choices. I have many times inthe past been very judgey about things - only for me to have them "bite me on the bottom". So often in fact, it's hard to sit down

I don't think it's a question of being reasonable or unreasonable to secretly take pleasure in the misfortune of others - it's something we all do to different degrees (and anyone who says otherwise is either lying or lacking in self-awareness). What is unreasonable is posting about it on here and expecting anything other than the reaction you've got!! Come on, Twinkie1, remember where you are !!!!

Roobie, I do not take pleasure in anyone's misfortune, thank you!

What about the poor little lad with bad teeth?

Surely you can't be laughing at that.

There's different degrees, itati - you must be a very exceptional person then.

"A mature person, however, generally exercises the good judgement to leave it there when appropriate and refrain from posting it on the parenting site when it pertains to a small child's health."

Hey, I don't disagree. But an ugly OP doesn't make the rush to namecall any less rather unedifying, nor some of the responses any less, dare I say it, immature. My favourite so far is the one suggesting it would be reciprocally fair for the OP's SIL to laugh if the OP's child ever got cancer. Because cancer and tooth decay are so comparable.

Anyway, genuinely not looking for a fight here, I only came back to the laptop to find out the missing ingredient in my lemon drizzle cake recipe

How vile to be pleased about the misfortune of a child.

How vile for family members to tell you that you are a "bad mum".

You sound like you all deserve each other, frankly.

Poor child though.

FWIW, my children have never had artificial sweeteners, and have never had to have any work done on their teeth. They are 12 and 10.

It is down to their genetic luck, as DH and I both have strong teeth, as do our parents.

I would rather risk my children had sugar than artificial sweeteners.

I have a horrible feeling that aspartame has a few unexpected health shocks in store a few years down the line - it already makes DS2 act like a creature possessed.

You can't be held as unreasonable for having uncharitable thoughts, they're your thoughts and have come about for whatever reason. It's actions that count and as long as you are making the appropriate sympathetic noises and not actually vocalising anything to them then that's fine in my book.

No, I am not. I have just had a lot of shit in my life and owuldn't wish bad things on anyone.

It was me that said that about the cancer cyteen . I was trying to emphasis how mean she was being. It is not ok to be so publically gleeful because a small child has been 'written off by the dentist'. Obviously people would rather have tooth decay than cancer and in that sense they are incomparable. If you are being smug about giving a child a carcinogen as oppose to something that causes tooth decay then its a fair comment.

You are being unreasonable but human too. I defy anyone to not very secretly have had such thoughts before. Probably not a good idea though to share them on mumsnet

YABU

I would hate for you to meet my DD2 who has weak teeth, so much so the top front two are yellow, and one is chipped.

The dentist appreciates that is just how her teeth are (mine are weak too) especially since DD1's are perfect (takes after DH)

I am a newbie to this site. Is Twinkle1 for real???
If so, I feel very sorry for you, you obviously have some serious issues with your bil and sil, and you dont seem to understand that it very wrong to take it out on thier children!
Just what we need in the world , another shallow , vicious person. Great!
I know you say its just thoughts in your head , but you seem to take great pleasure in that poor boys misfortune. Pure ignorance.

What an utterly vile person you are, Twinkie.
It matters not if you think your nephew is a little shit, he still doesn't deserve to be laughed at by someone who is supposed to be an adult. And if he is a little shit it's his PARENTS fault and not his.
I hope your gloating comes back to bit YOU on the arse some day!

on a lighter note.. Ive just started giving my DS orange squash (nearly 2) and ive bought sugar free thinking thats right, whats the best one to buyto help pevent teeth decay, sweetner free? sorry to intrude..

I'm following my cousin's example, she brought her 3 kids up (now aged 21, 15 and 8) to drink water and milk only. She says they still don't drink fizzy pop that often, just when out, though I suspect the eldes probably imbibes something a wee bit stronger

bekkaboo - i sometimes give real fruit juice, but treat it as though its cordial ie, a tiny bit of juice, loads of water.

god i never realised any of this, he has always had water but last few weeks wanted juice with friends so thought was doing right buying sugar free!

Okay, I'm ignorant. My three yo DS drinks undiluted fruit juice regularly. And milk. And water.

Is the juice really bad for his teeth? He has it with every meal. Can someone please tell me?

A lot of people don['t realise this. Even the pharmacists assistant tried to push sugar free calpol on me the other day. I said, no, normal please.. She looked at me like i were nuts. just brush their teeth afterwards?!

cyteen on Sat 05-Jul-08 18:08:32
"Hey, I don't disagree. But an ugly OP doesn't make the rush to namecall any less rather unedifying, nor some of the responses any less, dare I say it, immature. My favourite so far is the one suggesting it would be reciprocally fair for the OP's SIL to laugh if the OP's child ever got cancer. Because cancer and tooth decay are so comparable."

The point was not that they are comparable or that we wanted the OPs children to develop cancer. Of course not! Merely to point out that noone has the right to laugh at consequences that affect a child. And also to point out to the OP that her choices may not be entirely without fault either.

Everyone has secret awful thoughts- that may well be true. But if you post them in the AIBU forum, then you are in effect asking to be told whether they are in fact awful thoughts. And the OP has been told. They are.