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To laugh secretly inside my head about my nephews awful teeth???

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Twinkie1 · 05/07/2008 15:33

Beacuse after 3 years of being told by my BIL & SIL that I am a bad mum for giving my kids very dilute sugar free juice and I should be feeding them pure juice sraight out a carton I have 2 kids with lovely white straight decay free teeth and her son has just been written off by the dentist in regards to his milk teeth!

I love it when their overly obsessive parenting techniques come along and bite their arses!

OP posts:

flubdub · 05/07/2008 16:26

agree with Quat

greenelizabeth · 05/07/2008 16:29

I know what annoys you more than being called Miss Twinkie, Ms Twinkie

Desiderata · 05/07/2008 16:35

Christ, I would never be that rude!

PinkTulips · 05/07/2008 16:57

what a nasty piece of work

it doesn't matter who your laughing at, your laughing because a small child has a serious and painful dental problem and may never have good teeth

for what it's worth, my kids get through 5 big cartons of fresh juice a week and have perfect teeth.

dp was raised on squash and has had 5 pulled and most of the others filled

either way, it doesn't matter who's right, the fact of the matter is a child is suffering and you're laughing

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 17:13

Sunny?

Where is it sunny?

It's been blowing a gale and chucking the rain here nearly all day - I had to bring in the washing at around 1.

kiskidee · 05/07/2008 17:17

DD just had several teeth removed last week, all at one go because of the state they were in.

just 4 months after she started solids and had never had any juices before save maybe 1 in 5 diluted, her 4 front incisors all started to fall apart. Four had broken and shattered in the space of 2 weeks. Then 2 pre-molars at the bottom did the same. They looked horrible but we waited a while and finally had to have them removed last week to save her toothache and gum disease.

Smug peop0le like you will judge the state over my dd's mouth. It is down to genetics that some children and grownups have bad teeth.

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 17:18

I see your point, Pru, but don't you find it a bit immature, especially given there's no real way of knowing why the child has tooth problems?

I have incredibly bad enamel myself.

Can count on one hand the number of times I had sweets or sweet drinks as a kid, or crips or foods like that. My parents weren't so well off then and we also had to live abroad a lot where there wasn't a lot of processed food on offer back then.

In adulthood, I also have horrible teeth - two bridges, 3 crowns and two molars so heavily filled if they get more decay it will mean another root canal and crown.

My mother has terrible teeth.

My dad has brilliant ones, which my sister appears to have inherited.

PinkTulips · 05/07/2008 17:19

you got to put washing out? you did well

AliceFairfax · 05/07/2008 17:21

I bet they will be laughing their heads off when your dcs have cancer, liver failure, nerve damage and blindness from the sweeteners you give them. Or maybe they are not quite as horrid and bitchy as you are.

windygalestoday · 05/07/2008 17:21

I cannot bear to read any of the answers and i think you are a hard hearted nasty spiteful piece of work .......my eldest ds has severe orthodontic problems requiring major work and if i though any relative of mine were laughing i tell you now id knock their teeth out!!!

your pathetic and low - grow up

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 17:22

I got the first load out at 7AM, PT .

It was already blowing away then, so it dried lickety split.

Second load a bit damp when I had to pull it off, but finished it off on racks on the porch.

FINALLY got all the girls' clothes sorted, cleared out and organised! Whew! Even got a newborn box of gender neutral things for DS1 ready.

It's not nice out now. I feel for hte poor bastards in sailboats I'm seeing out in the loch.

forevercleaning · 05/07/2008 17:22

YABU - you may have issues with the parents, but you are ridiculing a young child.
How nasty

TheFallenMadonna · 05/07/2008 17:25

LOL at "my only judgement of them other than the fact that they have little idea about how to parent effectively as a couple and have brought up a little hooligan who has no manners and is spiteful and spoilt..."

Well, if that's your only other judgement...

Cadmum · 05/07/2008 17:31

i would be devastated if anyone related to our dd2 took similar delight in the state of her teeth. It is very painful for her and incredibly sad for DH and I (FWIW sugar is not the cause of her decay but the end result is the same as with your nephew.)

Do you think your BIL or SIL would take delight if one of your children (God forbid) developed brain cancer linked to consumption of artificial sugar?

This thread is a good reminder that people can be outrageously insensitive to even their own family.

MaryAnnSingleton · 05/07/2008 17:33

your BIL and SIL might be judging you but gloating about their ds,whether or not he's a spoiled nasty brat is equally bad..you'd be a much bigger person if you showed some compassion

cyteen · 05/07/2008 17:36

This thread is also a fantastic demonstration of mass self-righteousness. Honestly, who here can say they've never entertained a horrid or spiteful thought inside their own head? I know I have. In fact I'm doing it right now.

People experience a wide range of emotions, including the sadder and more selfish end. Recognising and not acting on those is key, but let's not try and pretend they don't exist.

MrsTiddles · 05/07/2008 17:38

I think I qualify as a "newbie" but I don't think the reactions to this opening thread would make me consider Mumsnet to be "cliquey".

The OP has shown herself to be mean sprited and when its been pointed out to her she starts a spat like this is a playground. If it were me I think I'd either apologise and fess up or run in shame.

I have seen this kind of thing on other threads and try to stay clear of them, but felt because I was NEW that I should put my tuppence worth in.

stellawasadiver · 05/07/2008 17:40

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

expatinscotland · 05/07/2008 17:41

'This thread is also a fantastic demonstration of mass self-righteousness. Honestly, who here can say they've never entertained a horrid or spiteful thought inside their own head?'

A mature person, however, generally exercises the good judgement to leave it there when appropriate and refrain from posting it on the parenting site when it pertains to a small child's health.

lottiejenkins · 05/07/2008 17:42

Am glad i dont know the op(i hope i dont anyway) I certainly wouldnt want her as a friend!

cory · 05/07/2008 17:42

Ok, I think it's perfectly fine for you to come and snigger on here. As long as it is ok for your SIL to come back and snigger if your dc's ever develop cancer due to the sweeteners you are feeding them. I mean, fair is fair, isn't it?

AliceFairfax · 05/07/2008 17:43

There is a difference between having mean thoughts in your head and trying to validate your mean thoughts on a public forum.

Desiderata · 05/07/2008 17:44

It's the whole notion that good teeth is a benchmark of good parenting that gets to me.

stitch · 05/07/2008 17:44

i really object to the title of this thread.

itati · 05/07/2008 17:45

at OP.

What a lovely aunt you are! It is the child who will suffer because of his parents bad choices. How can you laugh about that?

YABU!

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