Nugget drama

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My mum was babysitting my DS today ; when I asked what he had had for lunch she said ' chicken nuggets' from McDonalds.

She knows my opinions on this type of food. He would never be given these kind of things at home and she knows this very well. He doesn't even eat meat - his own preference.

When I asked her why she said she neede to find something in a hurry but the McDonalds was directly opposite a waitrose and DS would have been very happy with some ricecakes. I personally see no justification for going to McDonalds unless no other food is available.

I know one Mcdonalds meal will not kill him but I am really cross with my mum for going against my well-voiced opinions about DS's food.

And it tastes good FFS. F**king ricecakes!

Do you work for Mc Donalds or just beaten with rice-cakes as a child?

I dont feel like the OP was slaggin Maccy D's!
I think she was genuinely miffed that her Mum hadnt bothered to listen or acknowledge her decisions.

Macdonalds, Nestle, Saying Fart on Tracey Beaker, breast feeding, rice cakes, fruit shoots, disposable nappies...

Everyone has an opinion on these things and I feel that Mum to Mum, each should respect the decisions for their children.

Maybe she was trying to justify her decisions when she began to ramble on, sometimes its hard to justify your decisions when they are in the spotlight. I still feel the OP's Mum should have respected what she wanted for her child, defiance is childish.
At least she is trying to get the best for her DC.

I think she said at one point that she didn't want to discuss the merits of various foods cos that was 'inflammatory'. feel a bit sorry for her . People have strayed off the point really. I'm new to all this but it all seems a bit aggressive to me. Might be wrong - not wishing to be provacative.

TheMagnificant7 - that's quite some extrapolation. D'you want me to supersize those fries on your shoulder?

You like MacDonalds - fine. Why must everyone else (in the world)? I happen to think that their cooked food looks like shite, no matter how many shiny PR tracts it comes with - and I also think it verges on child abuse to take a kid into the home of burgers and fries and buy them a bag of carrot sticks.

I am neutral on the subject of rice cakes.

PS - I can see how delighted you were that no one 'started' when you said you loved MacDonalds.

Still, second time lucky, eh?

Nixz I agree with you. Mum has Tink for the weekend, she asked if she could take her out as her birthday is a week next Thursday and Mum is going away next weekend. It's not childcare, it's them having time together. I wouldn't be grateful if Mum went against what she knows are my beliefs (yes, Tink was up till 10pm - that I know - last night, but they'd not long been in and she was playing with her new toys, that's a one off and I don't mind that) about food. Actually I think Mum probably has similar views to me as McD was something we did on holiday.

Mum has raised three children who all have different beliefs about different things, that's good, we're individuals. Our differing beliefs are not a slight on our upbringing, they are testament to it.

I used to mystery shop McDonald's and it's put me well and truly off of them. Whilst they do do a lot of good, there are other things they are falling down on. You can get a days calories in one meal, which I don't think actually tastes that nice and you're hungry again pretty quickly. Plus lots of other things I know from working for them and from other places that you never really wanted to know and can't scrub our your brain!

Thanks for yout input. Ranting on MN helped me calm down and put things into to perspective before talking to my mum. We discussed things rationally and calmly and are better all round for doing so.

Some responses were a little bizarre. Some people seem desperate to turn this into a ricecakes ( poncey) versus McDoanlds( gritty down-to earth food for real people) debate which I never intended.
Also the suggestion that liking/disliking Mcdonalds this was a class thing was strange ; if I had suggested that McDonalds was the province of the 'lower classes' I would have been severly criticised -more than I was and quite rightly I think.

LOl @ 'McDoanlds( gritty down-to earth food for real people)'

A bit like irn bru

it would have made me very angry (I found my mum feeding my then 12 month old a huge choc chip cookie, one of those vast american ones) she jumped, said 'you weren' meant to see this' and then 'she's only had a bit'... cookie was half gone and dd had chocolate all round her mouth!!! This is definitely a trust issue. I think treats are fine, but they have to be in proportion. personally I would cope with the macdonalds, but we all have our bugbears.

it is free childcare though [rueful grin]. you just can't get the staff these days, eh?

It's nice for dc's to have a treat, and a md's won't harm them.
But I agree with Op for being miffed, if she doesn't want her child to eat MD and she has said this, then it is wrong to go against her wishes.

IMO it wouldn't really matter what the products/ thing was.. it was aginst want she wanted for her DC. Had she said I don't want DC being smacked, and Mother had smacked the DC.. nobody IMO would see that as unreasonable to moan about.

I have had similar issues with family members and MD type places.
I am happy for Dc's to have them occasionally, as a treat..etc.. I don't want it to be a regular/over subscribed part of their diet.. and have had family members go against what I have asked for, reasoned by their opinion. ( this is by someone who doesn't have DC.. by choice as she couldn't handle it.. but is happy to go against my wishes on a regular basis... even to the point of saying one thing and doing another.. I have ended up, limiting the time that she "plays" mummy with my dc's.

Nightmare situation. But try and relax as much as possable about it.

You're right, a little over the top. But that's the point. You were brought up by mothers who feel exactly as we all do about their children. So to hear one of the young (well) whippersnappers getting her panties in a bunch about such trivia. She probably couldn't give a flying one about the chat, much as you won't when your children turn around and try and tell you what's what after you've put so much care and effort into them. You'll all turn round and be mumbling "What a f**king liberty!"

Grannies are there for children to put a bit more fun back into the reichcake world. Mine was a bugger for that, and I loved her to death for the secret treats. My own mother did exactly the same sort of things, and I overheard her telling someone what a load of tosh my wishes were when they were such crap. I was livid, especially when she would show her off to people I didn't like. Then after she was killed I'd have given anything for the chance for her to go against my bullshit, inconsequential wishes. It's just nonsense. Next time, take her back to McDonalds, with the child, and find something on th menu that doesn't assault your senses, then just have a nice family moment. Take a reichcake packed lunch if it's that big a deal. Just enjoy the family time. It's far, far more rewardning than sitting at your PC moaning about something that I'd bet everything that the mother is going to do again anyway. I will with my children. They know nothing.

Persoanlly, I cook, and love cuisine. And I love McDonalds. I Find Indian food is just curried slop. Chinese is lovely. Pizza tastes good but is the devil. All restaurants, IMO, willl have some sort of horror stories. And Le Gavroche is the worst restaurant in town. It's not, for me, a food thing. Just fed up with the blind belief that its shit, whilst nobody examines anywhere else (Nando's much worse for you than KFC anyone?). Real junk food - recipes packed full of butter such as Ramsay, Rhodes, etc. Cake shops everywhere.

Really. Get over it. Spend time appreciating the family. And wasn't going to say anything, but if it's free childcare then please be grateful. Don't listen to the head-up-the-arse they should be grateful for time with my darling...brigade. That's just plain rude.

Now don't start me on Tracy f**king Beaker

I'd just like to add that since I have been on a wonderful diet of ricecakes, i have lost 2 stone.
Therefore, my head could not possibly fit up my arse anymore

Thanks Magnificent 7 . I have a good relationship with my mum and don't let things like this get in the way ; it doesn't mean I don't get cross with her and her with me. And both of us with my DS.

Knowing my DS I know that time spent with him is not reward enough. He is bloody hard work like most children and it can only get harder as you get older. She doesn't really spoil him at all probably because she see's him so often.

I think I will change my name to reflect my adoration of ricecakes.

TheMagnificent7 - so why couldn't you say that in the first place? Why disguise genuine passion and commitment behind mock sangfroid and rabble-pleasing sarcasm?

If what you wanted to say was, 'for fuck's sake, people, appreciate your mother, because one day she will be taken from you and you have no idea how much that will hurt you, and your children, and how you will suddenly be made to regret every time you spoke harshly to, or about her, or forgot to say how grateful you are for everything she gave to you and every time she looked after the kids at the last minute, or put off telling her how much you loved her till the next mother's day card, and really, really, really - nuggets and rice cakes will have no place at all in what you and she did or didn't do...' - then why not say that?

I'm still not going to share a bonding moment with mine in a MacDonalds, mind. Nor am I going to give the company a medal for putting a fraction back into the community compared to what it's taken (so it bloody should!)

Nor will I back off from expressing my discomfort if and when she does something whilst in charge of my children with which I don't agree.

But I will give her an extra large hug when I see her on Wednesday. And remember how lucky I am that I can do so.

Ta.

Oh g'wan, Magnificent7, do get started on Tracey Beaker! Make sure it has plenty of mock sangfroid and rabble-pleasing sarcasm too or I will be disappointed!

You certainly know how to write a great winning speech. I get your humour!

a MacDonald's directly opposite Waitrose ? Are you sure? [shocl]

Because AB, it wouldn't have been funny. Der!

Now let go of the McDonalds thing. Moove on. If you have to hug your Mum in McD's then just do it. You'll enjoy it, and all those years of hate for a big clown will breeze away. Just be comforted in the image of her sticking two fingers up the second your back is turned, just like i'll do ot mine when they start this s**t with me.

Glad you get what I mean though. Life's too long, really.

Now Tracy Beaker...what a twunt. I found my kids upstairs playing "Social Services takes the child from the parent" the other day, and using my bedroom as the childrens home! Tracy Beaker is like some f*ked up Viz show. What's next in the gritty childrens drama line up ? Uncle Piddler, Kiddy Fiddler. Accidently sticks his finger up your bum in every episode but gets a community order for good behaviour. Gritty f*king realism. Send them all to eat reichcakes in

LMAO @ Uncle piddler!!!!!!!

Ha ha Auntie Asbo in her RS turbo and her Pitbull - Diesal!!!!