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Nugget drama

144 replies

madcol · 04/07/2008 21:15

My mum was babysitting my DS today ; when I asked what he had had for lunch she said ' chicken nuggets' from McDonalds.

She knows my opinions on this type of food. He would never be given these kind of things at home and she knows this very well. He doesn't even eat meat - his own preference.

When I asked her why she said she neede to find something in a hurry but the McDonalds was directly opposite a waitrose and DS would have been very happy with some ricecakes. I personally see no justification for going to McDonalds unless no other food is available.

I know one Mcdonalds meal will not kill him but I am really cross with my mum for going against my well-voiced opinions about DS's food.

OP posts:
pinkyp · 05/07/2008 11:18

when my mum looks after my ds i send him a lunch, if i dont i'll give her ideas. If i've not said anything she'll just give him whatever, sometimes its healthier than others but i dont see this being a problem as i know she was just doing her best. I'm sure your mum didnt think "whats the worse thing i can get my grandson to eat".

Personally i think your making a big deal about this, try and forget about it. Next time she mentions she's taking ur ds out maybe suggest a few things she could get him whilst out that u like him to have/ he likes. She prob panicked a bit and wanted to stop him being hungry. I agree rice cakes are a great snack to keep ds going between meals.

Love2bake · 05/07/2008 11:22

I think you should just let it go.

My mum often does things with my DC's that I wouldn't do, and I just let it slide.

Life is way too short to be worrying about this kind of stuff.

ally90 · 05/07/2008 11:35

Almostblue - loving the

"mumsnet Less Judgemental Than Thou Response Force (Inverse Snobbery Division)"

If only I had the words...

Agree with all you are saying, hope OP is still around to take it in...

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/07/2008 12:05

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colditz · 05/07/2008 12:13

There is a very simple answer to this - make him a packed lunch. Then you can provide the food.

One McDs will do no or negligible harm, but this is just the sort of thing I'd have had a hiss about when ds1 was small.

Now, I must admit, I don't care what they eat when they go out, I am grateful they have been taken out.

cornsilk · 05/07/2008 12:16

Ditto colditz. I think it's bit ungrateful to moan about what people feed your chn if they're doing you a favour.

Saymyname · 05/07/2008 12:18

"nugget drama" PMSL! Great thread title OP.

callmeovercautious · 05/07/2008 12:35

She should not have gone against your wishes. However you are also right that one won't do any lasting damage. I have had to relax a bit about what food my Mum gives DD when we visit. She likes to give her a treat - a biscuit etc. This has led to her knowing that ricecakes taste bad in comparrison to a digestive so now won't eat ricecakes

However after my initial grumpiness I have calmed down and just I make sure she rations them a bit.

DD is a similar age BTW.

BecauseImWorthIt · 05/07/2008 14:24

almostblue - I didn't say it was unreasonable to object to McDonalds, just said that there might be many reasons why OP's mother took the child there.

And then I asked the OP for her reasons why she objected to McDonalds.

It may be that these have never been explained to the OP's mother or that, in the circumstances, the OP's mother thought it was acceptable to go against her preferences on that occasion.

DoubleBluff · 05/07/2008 14:32

get over yourself

squilly · 05/07/2008 14:55

No...please don't get over yourself. It's much more fun if you don't

TheMagnificent7 · 05/07/2008 15:14

Do you think your mum is on gransnet going "Do you think it's unreasonable for me to take my granddaughter to McD's for lunch where I can choose a low salt option with fruit or vegetable bags instead of chips, a choice of fresh juice, spring water, or (bad choice) a fruitshoot? She doesn't want my grand child to have meat so I chose fish, and this was all for £2 with a toy. She wanted ricecakes but i gagged. She wasn't this ungrateful when I was bringing her up with lead toys, One-cal, and 2 packets of Chewitts a day. And the f**king queue in Waitrose was out of the door"

squilly · 05/07/2008 15:20

LOL The Magnificent 7. I like your style!

TheMagnificent7 · 05/07/2008 15:21

And whatever anybody thinks of McD's (I'm lovin' them) their milk is perfect for emregency delays at airports as it is sealed, and survives 24 hour delays, long drives, 3am arrivals, and got me through hell with a toddler. And it fits nicely in the babybag.

What's with this post anyway. Mother knows best right. She Top Trumps any of your decisions

DoubleBluff · 05/07/2008 20:24

LOL Mag7!!

almostblue · 05/07/2008 20:26

TheMagnificent7 - not that the OP actually stated she wanted her child to be vegetarian - or piscitarian - but since when have chicken nugggets been made of fish? And I reckon the OP would be quite rightly annoyed if her mother didn't actually know her grandchild's gender.

Oh, hang on - that's right. It's not about reading what people actually say, is it?

In which case yes, ho ho, very witty. Jolly well done.

TheMagnificent7 · 05/07/2008 22:43

Almostblue. Next week the choice of gift is a sense of humour or this

I think the view from that terribly high horse is getting in the way of a perfectly funny thread. Haven#t you got some tasty ricecakes to finish making after knitting the lentil whale willy warmer or whatever it was ?

mumeeee · 05/07/2008 23:21

YABU. Chicken nuggets fron Macdonalds is a more substantial lunch then rice cakes.

Nixz · 05/07/2008 23:37

"I think it's bit ungrateful to moan about what people feed your chn if they're doing you a favour."

Grrrrr - I hate this, Grandparents being with their grandchildren is hardly a favour or a chore!!

I think the OP maybe a little annoyed at the fact that her Mum chose to ignore her beliefs rather than feed him chkn nuggets!

My parents do the same, I can have a conversation with them where they sit and agree and discuss a subject, only to look completely bewildered when I bring the subject up a few days later!!!

Its the 'parents always know best' thing I reckon....

Nixz · 05/07/2008 23:38

BTW, I dont feed my child rice cakes or weave baskets.

Just my opinion

Jazminpoppy · 05/07/2008 23:48

To start with my son has never had a mc donalds in his life. I hate it! and his father is a chef so there is no chance of us ever taking him. However if someone was looking after my son for me for whatever reason,and they gave him chicken nuggets for lunch. I would keep my mouth shut!! It was a one off, and your mother probably thought it was a treat. Be thankful that she looks after your son , get over it and appreciate the fact that you have help and dont have to pay for child care.

I agree with hecate & lulumamma.
Although personally I am sick of seeing babies being stuffed with rice cakes! cardboard or what?? me and my man hate them. I would be pretty miserable if I was fed rice cakes for lunch.

Jazminpoppy · 05/07/2008 23:53

Excellent magnificeng7!! that has cheered me up!!

Rosesroundthedoor · 06/07/2008 00:12

I thought you were funny Magnificent7.

Fish, chicken, who cares? It was a good joke. You pedant, Blue! (will you correct me that you are actually "almost" blue? .

Anyway, I think it is most obvious that OP's mum just can't take it any more, feeding DGS ricecakes etc etc and has gone straight for the jugular by defiantly taking him to the MacD's. She is trying to tell you something in actions, not words!! Possibly "Lighten up on the food front"?

I love ricecakes but honestly, somehow in your post it comes across as somewhat pretentious... sorry.

Nixz · 06/07/2008 00:29

Just cant take it anymore ---- LMAO!!!!!

What ever you do OP, dont ever tell your Mother that you have heard that you can change car engines to run off vegatable oil - she may force feed your child Diesel, just to be defiant!!!!

FGS! No wonder the OP has fled!

TheMagnificent7 · 06/07/2008 00:40

Thank you. I'm just glad nobody started when I said I love McDonalds. Can't imagine what the Ostrich Brigade would have said if I'd pointed out that McDonalds is one of the most socially aware organisations in the world, with a policy of nutritional balance, information, active excercise promotion, community welfare and employment regeneration, and a breathtaking charity that puts many to shame. I bet they'd totally ignore the active promotion of 100% ingredients like chicken breast and beef. I expect they'd poopoo the organic milk they provide, turn their noses up at the menus being available in braille at every restaurant, fart in the general direction of their website giving a complete GDA menu planner to ensure that you are giving your child and yourself a totally balanced meal. They would fall off their trusty steeds at the Ronald McDonald charity which provided over £30 MILLION pounds last year as total donations without ANY of it going to admin as McDonalds themselves provide free housing to parents of sick children in good accomodation near every hospital with a childrens ward, and use the donations from the boxes by the till to provide extra comforts like TVs, good furnishing, and appreciable art to ease the pain of a scik child. I expect they will throw rotten fruit at the fact that McDonalds has provided a complete unit-by-unit guide for diabetics for their menus for over 20 years, which I am totally grateful for. They will wee wee all over the notion that you are a complete pube for eating a super sized McDonalds morning noon and night for 30 solid days without excercise and of coure you' die you f**king idiot. And I expect they'd cough all over the fact that McDonalds is one of the 5 UK companies working with the government to provide total employment and work skills for the whole country. I bet they would write a letter to the BBC about the zero-tolerance to neighbourhood litter policy they have which they pay people to deal with. It's a given that they'd quote some out of date 1970's information about what goes into a McDonalds as a joint celebration with the last time they shaved their armpits.

McDonalds. I'm lovin it. Get over yourself and realise people can change. Or stick your head in the ground and ignore a positive, socially aware, globally changed and change leading provider of healthy, informed choice food.

Oh, and do give the coffee a try as it's now ground freshly Kenco Arbica beans and it's very much cheaper and community friendly than Costya or Starbores