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Nugget drama

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madcol · 04/07/2008 21:15

My mum was babysitting my DS today ; when I asked what he had had for lunch she said ' chicken nuggets' from McDonalds.

She knows my opinions on this type of food. He would never be given these kind of things at home and she knows this very well. He doesn't even eat meat - his own preference.

When I asked her why she said she neede to find something in a hurry but the McDonalds was directly opposite a waitrose and DS would have been very happy with some ricecakes. I personally see no justification for going to McDonalds unless no other food is available.

I know one Mcdonalds meal will not kill him but I am really cross with my mum for going against my well-voiced opinions about DS's food.

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madcol · 04/07/2008 22:09

SaintGeorge - not that I am in court but I will reiterate .
It is all getting a bit boring now but anyway. If I was out and it was leading up to lunch and DS was grissly I would look for a decent lunch whilst out or head home having given him a snack such a rice cakes / apple etc.

My mother did not chose to do this but instead for a reason a the moment beyond mem chose to give him a type of food that she knows that I personally am opposed to him recieving.

Riceckaes or not - the point is other options were available other than going against a mother's expressed wishes.

Wheher you agree with me or not , this, and not the merits/demerits of particular foods is my point.

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Uber · 04/07/2008 22:14

sounds like he was grisly, she took a quick option (one thing you have to say in McD's favour is that you get the food QUICK) and FED him which was what he needed.

I imagine with a howling, grisly toddler, her main focus was on pacifying him not on meeting your food standards iyswim.

I think if that makes you uncomfortable, then you need to either make a packed lunch or explore other options.

Personally, the fact that she was thinking of your ds first and foremost would be heartening I think. And she was honest with you.

rookiemater · 04/07/2008 22:15

Look it's chicken nuggets at McDonalds, she didn't make him eat eye of newt mixed with sheep droppings.

You do things in a certain way, your mother chooses to do them differently. Perhaps she thought it would be fun for your DS to have a meal out, or strangely perhaps she didn't fancy trekking round Waitrose searching for a suitable snack with a grizzly toddler and then having to head straight home to make up a nutritionally acceptable lunch.

I must admit I'm not worked up anymore about what DS eats, so I'm probably starting from the wrong point of view to empathise with you, but you do appear from your posts to be a bit rigid.

If it bugs you that much then as others have said, you should provide a lunch box.

MmeBovary · 04/07/2008 22:15

Sorry - now you just sound poncey! You should be glad to hacve a mum nearby who is happy to look after your child. God knows I wish I did...

rookiemater · 04/07/2008 22:15

Great minds think alike uber !

Quattrocento · 04/07/2008 22:17

Oh dear oh dear

Half the world is starving, living on less than a dollar a day and food prices escalating

Meanwhile here on MN we are having hissy fits over one meal at mcdonalds

Blardy hell

fishie · 04/07/2008 22:17

sorry madcol but i must pedant. it is to grizzle. grizzly.

is it the macdonalds or the meat which is upsetting you more?

MmeBovary · 04/07/2008 22:18

Quattro - very well put!

rookiemater · 04/07/2008 22:19

Did you ask what he had to drink. Because, whispering now, it might have been a FRUITSHOOT !

SlartyBartFast · 04/07/2008 22:20

perhaps she was tired and fancied a coffee and this was a good deal.

MmeBovary · 04/07/2008 22:20

LOL fruitshoot!

SaintGeorge · 04/07/2008 22:21

No need to take a tone, as my old ma would say.

People kept referring to the rice cakes as lunch, you kept correcting them.

But the meal in question, from your OP, was lunch.

You need a reason for why she chose that? Maybe she had her hands full with the free childcare she was providing and didn't fancy standing in a queue in a supermarket to buy one item when she could get a fast alternative elsewhere.

Next time provide the rice cakes or a packed lunch up front or accept that your mum's alternatives are not always going to be to your liking.

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madcol · 04/07/2008 22:23

We might as well be bothered about nothing whilst Mugabe's on the loose; North Korea is testing nuclear weapons and half the world is starving. Ideal but probably not going to happen. Ifyou're trying to tell me not to wory about life's trivia fair enough but you would close down most if not all of Mumsnet.

No-one would post about green-poo or chaffed nipples or SATS because the world is polluted, starving and dying.
Most people's reality is hte life they are living not the lfe the rest of the world is subjected to.

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madcol · 04/07/2008 22:23

We might as well be bothered about nothing whilst Mugabe's on the loose; North Korea is testing nuclear weapons and half the world is starving. Ideal but probably not going to happen. Ifyou're trying to tell me not to wory about life's trivia fair enough but you would close down most if not all of Mumsnet.

No-one would post about green-poo or chaffed nipples or SATS because the world is polluted, starving and dying.
Most people's reality is hte life they are living not the lfe the rest of the world is subjected to.

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bobbysmum07 · 04/07/2008 22:29

What's the problem with McDonald's? It's not that bad - you can get carrot sticks, fruit, bottled water, and the nuggets are made from chicken breast. It's probably healthier than most pizza restaurants but no one seems to moan about them.

orangina · 04/07/2008 22:29

poor old madcol... i can completely see why you might be irritated with your ma re: giving your ds a macdonalds nugget meal, BUT, I can also understand that why, in a bit of a hungry toddler panic moment, she took him to McD's.... perhaps just ask her not to do it again and suggest a waitrose alternative in case she's ever in that position again...

(and don't mention rice cakes!)

MmeBovary · 04/07/2008 22:30

Oh bollocks - it's not fair to brng the state of the world into the trauma you are in because your dc was "forced" to eat at McDonalds!

rookiemater · 04/07/2008 22:32

Yes Bobbysmum, I always wonder why so much poisonous venom is particularly reserved for McDs.

Granted their food is high in fat and salt, but no more so than most of the childrens meals offered in any family restaurant or pub.

I think, whispers again, it might be a class thing.

seeker · 04/07/2008 23:34

My children will do anything for a McDonalds. But my very precious dd will only eat the chicken caesar salad. She is a PFB - but as a pretty autonomous 12 year old, she seems to be perpetuating the characteristics all by herself!

mashedup · 05/07/2008 07:55

Hi. You're lucky to have a mum who looks after your child - my family used to run a mile if I asked for childcare, but always expected me to do favours for them.

I don't think the odd slip-up regarding a childs meal is too bad, at least she told you about it. As the others have said, why don't you make a packed lunch for your child - it would be a lot easier.

Also, regarding macd, my kids will eat the chicken caesar salad, it's healthy and they love it. Macd has changed a lot in recent years.

Teuch · 05/07/2008 08:14

Very precious, I think...regardless of the food in question. Had you said 'Mum keeps feeding my DS despite my continued requests to give him ' I may have understood better...

Anyway, she may have been hungry herself, too, and thought it was a good option to stop them both going into meltdown

HappyMummyOfOne · 05/07/2008 09:10

I think you are being a bit poncey too. You have free childcare where your DS is ared for by a loving relative. A Mcdonalds wont kill him once in a while.

If you trust your mum to look after your DS then you have to let her do it rather than moan over something petty.

As for DS's preference not to eat meat - he's 20 months and not a teenager lol.

TheHedgeWitch · 05/07/2008 09:16

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periwinkle · 05/07/2008 09:20

When my first child was little, I used to get unreasonably upset over the most bizarre things, but looking back I was a bit over the top about things, luckily most of my thoughts stayed in my own head, so noone else witnessed the madness.
Could it just be you are being a bit protective and over-sensitive about things?

ally90 · 05/07/2008 09:29

Madcol - I hear you its about your mum not respecting your rules, not about Md's and ricecakes (ffs...why do so many people get the wrong end of the stick...???)

What would happen if you mentioned it too her?

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