To end a relationship over weekend cocaine use?

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I can’t decide if I have massively overreacted or if my gut instinct was right to end it over this
For context I have ADHD and find decision making really difficult - often changing my mind multiple times before making a final decision
I’ve been divorced 5 years and with DS now off to uni I began dating and all were terrible until this latest one
He is 55 so 10 years older than me, has his own flat ( rented as couldn’t afford a mortgage after his divorce ) and seems to be a great dad to his 2 kids although they are adults
We met the first evening for dinner and he was charming, paid for the meal and was lovely - he did seem quite loud and chatty but mentioned his kids both have ADHD so I thought maybe this was why
The second date was longer as we went for drinks after a meal and he suddenly starts sprinkling cocaine into a roll up cigarette as if this was completely normal behaviour
I made my excuses and left early although continued to talk and message before he asked why I was avoided meeting him again and I told him - he said it only happens when he drinks which I believed then as didn’t see any signs on date 1 and if he wanted to hide it altogether I thought he would have sniffed it rather than smoked it in front of me?
Anyway date 3 rolled around and we went to a film, all nice but he wanted to go for drinks after and I didn’t want the topic to come up so left early
Date 4 he booked a hotel - he started smoking it again after a few drinks at the bar and I found the sex really weird
It lasted a very very long time and all felt quite detached on his part
Weirdly straight after was very loving and close and he had bought me a beautiful necklace for my upcoming birthday which he gave to me early
He holds down a high powered job and works very long hours and says this is just his way of unwinding - for me cocaine is to get high and have a buzz?
Ive never taken drugs and don’t know if I’m considering ending a really good thing over a weekend habit or whether this is what addiction actually looks like and I’m being an idiot
Any help very gratefully received xx

I wouldnt be interested either. If it was a one time thing then I could get past it but hes doing it all the time. I know lots of people now take it rather than drink these days but it would put me off. It doesnt sound like you connect intimately either. Keep searching because your person is out there.

He holds down a high powered job and works very long hours and says this is just his way of unwinding

At the cost of thousands of lives, destruction of human and animal habitats, and the reign of terror by gangs. He doesn’t deserve you, OP. He doesn’t deserve anyone.

Any kind of addiction is bad, whether is drugs or alcohol or something else. Addicts often have underlying mental health problems too and use alcohol/drugs to self-medicate. Stay away from him for your own good.

Has he actually called it cocaine? Because it has no good effect smoked. If it is cocaine, it's crack cocaine - but that's not usually put in a rollup. Alternatively it's a bit of cannabis bud. What does it smell like?

He is a crack user if you like, smoking cocaine is a baby step from a crack pipe.
💯 end this relationship. Why on earth would you second guess this. He’ll be begging for money or robbing your jewellery before you know it.
End It.

Some people smoke cocaine in a roll up similar to a joint.

Especially when it's wrong.

I would absolutely not continue to date a drug user. I can't even tolerate normal tobacco / vaping, hell wpuld freeze over before I chose to be in the company of someone who would happily use illegal drugs, especially so offhandedly.