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Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:40

I have recently made the decision to stop using fabric conditioner and those scent pearls on our laundry.

I believe fabric conditioner over time causes build up and damages the fabrics and also causes build up and gunk in the machine draw and pipes ( a washer guy from Hotpoint said this )

The scent pearls just add an overpowering floral fragrance and fragrance doesn't mean it's clean as clean doesn't smell of anything.

My routine is just Ariel pods or liquid and that's it and our clothes are clean but I just question AIBU to only use detergent and nothing else?

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SwingAndRelax · 06/11/2026 19:42

YABU not to put any indication on your thread title that this is about fabric softener Grin

Deathspren · 06/11/2026 19:43

Why do you need validation about your laundry....?

And could you be lazier with your thread title?

Ohidontknowblahblah · 06/11/2026 19:44

SwingAndRelax · 06/11/2026 19:42

YABU not to put any indication on your thread title that this is about fabric softener Grin

Yep!

fost · 06/11/2026 19:44

of course you're not being unreasonable, you know fabric softener is bad for the clothes and your appliance, and the scent stuff has nothing to do with cleaning, so it's perfectly sensible to not use them... the only unreasonable thing is the fact you needed to ask

66babe · 06/11/2026 19:45

I think you can do whatever you want with your laundry
Personally , I love all my laundry to smell lovely and as my machine is 12 years old and doesn’t owe me a penny , if and when I need a new one , I’ll do the same and use both

BringBackTheLight · 06/11/2026 19:45

Its your washing you can do what you want with it!
I don't use it.

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/11/2026 19:45

SwingAndRelax · 06/11/2026 19:42

YABU not to put any indication on your thread title that this is about fabric softener Grin

Indeed. I had no idea what to expect. Laundry. Meh 🤣

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:45

fost · 06/11/2026 19:44

of course you're not being unreasonable, you know fabric softener is bad for the clothes and your appliance, and the scent stuff has nothing to do with cleaning, so it's perfectly sensible to not use them... the only unreasonable thing is the fact you needed to ask

I asked because it's become a topic of debate in the household

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Lookingforwardtospringnextyear · 06/11/2026 19:46

I've never heard of scent pearls OP.
I used fabric conditioner for many years. And then quite a long time ago stopped using it. And tbh I don't notice any difference in my laundry. I do try and hang my clothes outside whenever possible but even if I have to dry them inside they are fine.

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/11/2026 19:47

I have never used the pearls and haven't used fabric softener for decades

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:47

Lookingforwardtospringnextyear · 06/11/2026 19:46

I've never heard of scent pearls OP.
I used fabric conditioner for many years. And then quite a long time ago stopped using it. And tbh I don't notice any difference in my laundry. I do try and hang my clothes outside whenever possible but even if I have to dry them inside they are fine.

They are called unstoppables, the lenor ones are anyway

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DuckFilledPlatitude · 06/11/2026 19:48

Out of interest @Jules766 do you live in a hard or soft water area?

behindtheanimalhouse · 06/11/2026 19:48

For a Friday night thread, this is depressingly tame OP 😀

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:48

DuckFilledPlatitude · 06/11/2026 19:48

Out of interest @Jules766 do you live in a hard or soft water area?

I would say it's medium

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WilmaaFlintstone · 06/11/2026 19:49

Goodness.

behindtheanimalhouse · 06/11/2026 19:49

I don't think I've ever used fabric softener, just bung the washing powder/liquid in!

Lookingforwardtospringnextyear · 06/11/2026 19:52

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:47

They are called unstoppables, the lenor ones are anyway

Oh I just googled them. I wouldn't want to use them. I don't like artifical air freshers and highly perfumed things so I would find these overpowering and unpleasant

DuckFilledPlatitude · 06/11/2026 19:52

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 19:48

I would say it's medium

I was just wondering if part of your issue could be limescale build up. We used to have similar problems when we lived in an area with hard water, but we moved to an area where the water is very soft and it never troubled us again - and within a couple of months our limed-up kettle we'd taken with us was sparkling like new with no effort from us at all!

InterestedDad37 · 06/11/2026 19:52

Scent pearls contribute significantly to plastic pollution, so YANBU to stop using them.

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 20:27

DuckFilledPlatitude · 06/11/2026 19:52

I was just wondering if part of your issue could be limescale build up. We used to have similar problems when we lived in an area with hard water, but we moved to an area where the water is very soft and it never troubled us again - and within a couple of months our limed-up kettle we'd taken with us was sparkling like new with no effort from us at all!

Ah yeah I hadn't thought of timescale

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Hankunamatata · 06/11/2026 20:42

Always just used persil non bio powder. Smells clean, not too strong and.doesnt clog machine like liquids or pods.

Hankunamatata · 06/11/2026 20:43

If you want a certain smell. I sometimes put couple drops lavendar oil in the fabric conditioner compartment

Jules766 · 06/11/2026 20:43

Hankunamatata · 06/11/2026 20:42

Always just used persil non bio powder. Smells clean, not too strong and.doesnt clog machine like liquids or pods.

It does, just like pods or liquid, it's called soap scum which any laundry detergent causes if you don't put your washer on a clean cycle regularly

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Brightbluesomething · 06/11/2026 22:13

I have always used fabric softener, my ex doesnt. Kids bring their laundry to me as he ruins their branded clothes and they feel like cardboard with next level pilling. You do you, but be prepared for the consequences.

Softmover · 06/11/2026 22:23

It’s bad for the environment, your washing machine and your health, I hate chemical fake scents but each to their own! YANBU