Who was wrong

[PerhapsPerhapsMaybe]

I’m in the supermarket with my boyfriend and looking for a self serve till. I spot a free one and am about to start scanning when a woman walks up and “tells us off” for queue jumping. She points at a large line which I hadn’t noticed and rants on about it. So my boyfriend tells her to calm down which makes her even madder. I start laughing at her ridiculousness. Then a member of staff comes over and apologises - to her!

I mean I get that we didn’t realise there was a queue but talk about an overreaction!

Was me and my boyfriend wrong to laugh at her?

𝐀 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐌𝐍𝐇𝐐.
𝐓𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐟𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐎𝐏 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐬𝐨 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

Me neither.

@PerhapsPerhapsMaybe you and bf were in the wrong. You should have simply said ‘sorry, I didn’t see it’ and walked towards the end of it.

This situation happens regularly at self checkouts and people generally politely correct their mistake.

You saying it's a reverse only makes me think this is either a creative writing exercise, or you wanted people to tell you what an angel you were but were too cowardly to just ask for validation. Either way it does not reflect well on your character.

Next time pick up something essential from the shopping they haven't paid for and walk back to the queue with it. They've inconvenienced people, so can have a bit back. Yes, I've done similar in RL. A lot of young women don't get sexist behaviour until they are older.

Are you ok?

I fucking hate reverses 😡

She points at a large line which I hadn’t noticed and rants on about it

Having noted this is a reverse, this means by your own admission, you 'ranted' at them - that wasn't necessary. We don't know how they would have reacted if you'd spoken to them calmly.

They were in the wrong and should have apologised, but you didn't give them a chance if you went straight in with a rant, rather than calmly saying: 'Excuse me, there's a queue for these tills."

But you didn't just give the facts. You used phrases like ranting and ridiculous, which are very loaded words. So it gives a very distorted point of view. Which is why reverses are annoying and pointless.

Annoyed to find I've commented on what turns out to be a reverse. Really do not like them.

So you can't trust the replies because everyone just wanted to lay in to the woman and her boyfriend. They didn't actually think you were in the right.

A reverse is such an odd thing to do.

What does it prove?

Is it so the op can protect themselves by gauging the majority opinion as favourable before they reveal themselves?

I don’t really mind reverses as sometimes it does give unbiased replies but it can get a bit confusing sometimes, especially ones with polls as some posters read just the OP and done read all of the posts.

But I do think sexes should be removed when possible.

A man angrily ‘telling off’and ‘ranting’ because someone made a mistake is not going to get as much sympathy as when a woman does it.

And the fact that it was a man who told OP to calm down, has got posters backs up, even though she was much ruder and ‘started it’.

Do you really think there's no relevant difference between a man angrily ranting at a woman and a woman ranting at another woman?

And how do reverses give unbiased replies? If you believe posters are biased against OPs then the responses are still skewed.

So once again the OP has disappeared when they realise the thread hasn't gone quite the way they wanted...

True but it's quite hard not to get defensive when you're being yelled at. They jumped a queue by accident, it's not like they kicked the lady's puppy. Turns out it was all a reverse anyway!