Who was wrong

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I’m in the supermarket with my boyfriend and looking for a self serve till. I spot a free one and am about to start scanning when a woman walks up and “tells us off” for queue jumping. She points at a large line which I hadn’t noticed and rants on about it. So my boyfriend tells her to calm down which makes her even madder. I start laughing at her ridiculousness. Then a member of staff comes over and apologises - to her!

I mean I get that we didn’t realise there was a queue but talk about an overreaction!

Was me and my boyfriend wrong to laugh at her?

𝐀 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐌𝐍𝐇𝐐.
𝐓𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐟𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐎𝐏 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐬𝐨 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

She probably needed a ciggie
Tone or anger as a store assistant isnt cool
How could you not see a large or long queue for real.
Oh well.

Whether you were mistaken, or not, you were in the wrong so you needed to opologise.

Laughing was very rude.

Oh just seen it's a reverse. What a waste of everyone's time

It was interesting to note that the girlfriend backed up his mocking attitude by laughing and getting lippy with me rather than see it as a deeply unattractive and unpleasant quality in a man. She actually said “well why was the till empty then if there’s a queue” which was quite an astonishing response given that I had made her aware of the MASSIVE queue behind the aisle line??

But where did she think all the people were coming from? If you see the tills are all busy you don't linger in the middle of them looking for one to opportunistically grab, you look for a queue to join. Right? Right??

I don't know how they'd both reached adulthood without learning basic supermarket conduct, this is 100% a them problem not a you problem.

No, you were extremely rude. You queue jumped and when challenged about it, you mocked her.

Shameful behaviour.

FFS. Your OP was obviously rage bait in the way you posted yet I still engaged.

Why, why do a reverse over a minor interaction. So unnecessary and a waste of everyone’s time.

opportunistic is the word. It’s like drivers who go onto the hard shoulder of a motorway to bypass a long back up of vehicles and nipping in at the very front. CFuckery

How childish. You both need to grow up and act like fully functioning adults.

and all you did was spoil your day by getting wound up about such a non-event. How have you managed to survive in life?

No, you didn’t. Because you posted about it in a way that made the other person come across like a petulant child.

Which is exactly how they behaved

People hate reverses because they only really want to tell off the op. Just provide your comments, why does it matter which side did what?

You were probably in the wrong but forget it, she probably has by now

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Oh come on. Regardless of how they behaved you know you posted in a way that would wind everyone up.

So why bother doing a reverse if you’re not at least going to try and do it properly.

I’m not sure why you were so angry?

Surely just saying “oh btw there’s a queue” is better than being angry.

I hate being told to calm down and so I feel your pain but if an angry man was rude to me then it would have got my back and I probably would have told him to calm down.

I was in a petrol station and a man was angry at me as he didn’t see my car - I told him to calm down and watch where he was going in future.
I didn’t shout or swear but I was a bit condescending because he was incredibly rude.

You were rude to them and they were rude back, so it cancels out.
You did start it but I’d say all of you were in the wrong.

Reverses are annoying because you are in effect telling the story from your angle, not theirs. That woman might have said for example, 'We pointed out the huge queue to a couple of queue jumpers and one of them went off into a tirade of abuse. We asked her to calm down and stop making a fool of herself , which made her even worse, then I unfortunately got the giggles'.
Not saying that this happened, just pointing out that you don't know how they perceived it so your reverse doesn't prove anything.

It's impossible to for you to give an unbiased view in a reverse, which is why they are fucking ridiculous and a waste of everyone's time. You can't tell a story from a stranger's point of view, you have no idea what's going on in their life, and you naturally tell it in a way that puts you in a better light.

Exactly - the OP and the first few posts were so biased and badly written I actually wondered if they had been written by a teenager trolling on MN!

Had I been her I would have said "excuse me, there's a queue" and pointed at the queue, you would have then said "oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realise" and gone and joined said queue. The fact that she was so rude because you made a genuine mistake means she gets what she asks for.

Do I think you were rude? Yes of course ... but also do I think you would have responded different has she taken a different approach? Yes I do.

In this world you sow what you reap.

It’s not impossible. I gave the facts. They queue jumped in a busy supermarket. I don’t know if they were unaware or just being CFers but in any case I let them know - without raising my voice but quite clearly annoyed - that there was a massive queue. He then told me to calm down with exaggerated hand gestures whilst she laughed. Then she asked why there was a free till to which I replied that it takes a moment or two to walk from the front of the line to the free till. They then walked off giggling as a shop assistant came towards us and he apologised to me saying that they were out of order. That’s it. That’s what happened. That is no different to my OP reverse or not.

It’s interesting you were so angry. Why not just say there’s a queue . It’s not really the customers job to manage but I get that there’s probably not enough staff to do so.

I knew there was something up with this thread when I read it first off

Good I did read all OP's posts first

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her boyfriend sounds horrible

edited as now caught up

OP, if you do a reverse thread, no one actually believes you weren’t the queue jumper.