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To think I can make this work even though he’s so small?

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Taoffg · 18/10/2026 21:31

Can’t actually believe I’m posting this. Been seeing someone for two months, first couple of weeks it was a couple of coffees and then it became more. I am fast falling for this person, he is everything I have been looking for in someone and has shown nothing but kindness, decency and care.

But I do love sex and it’s a big part of a relationship for me. We’ve had some fumbles and I can tell he is very small even when erect. It’s not thin as well as short, mainly just short. I feel a bit ridiculous saying this as of course size shouldn’t matter if you truly want to be with someone and I think I actually could ignore that part of it if I needed to, but I’m wondering if anyone else has a man like this but sex is still good and fulfilling as in the penetration? I know there’s plenty of other stuff to do but this is new territory for me as I think it is much below average size!

ps NC for obvious reasons but been on here for years!

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Ghht · 22/10/2026 22:59

Netcurtainnelly · 21/10/2026 21:11

You also I presume like a good man too though who you get on with and who has a long list of good points

Your prepared to keep going then until you find a man that ticks every box and hope you can last together?

What happens if this man becomes unable to have penetrative sex through an accident or illness do you dump him then?

I have a great man who ticks ALL the boxes.

He’s the love of my life, we have a child and we are expecting another. I’m very lucky, and if his dick fell off tomorrow then I’d be there for him. He’s more to me than his phallus.

I would not provide that level of dedication to a man I’d just met. It’s fine for women to have standards and preferences.

the80sweregreat · Yesterday 04:33

Beanie bobbins
was it ‘ back to bedlum’ cd. Not a bad album tbf !

Illjusthavethebreadsticks · Yesterday 08:46

I was seeing someone who was very attractive apart from the fact he was extremely small. Sorry but it was a dealbreaker for me.

MasterBeth · Yesterday 16:11

arethereanyleftatall · 18/10/2026 22:54

You cannot seriously not be aware that pretty much every single man on the planet judges and (if they have a choice) chooses women based on their looks including their boob size! And for women, cock size isn’t really about looks, it’s about the woman’s pleasure too. Whereas boob size doesn’t affect anything other than visuals.

Oh, Ok. Not breasts.

How about:

"I have met a gorgeous woman. She is attractive, intelligent and funny. I am fast falling for her, she is everything I have been looking for in someone and has shown nothing but kindness, decency and care. However, she has much bigger labia than average so I can't have proper sex with her..."

We would all think a man posting that was a shallow misogynistic creep, wouldn't we?

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