To think I can make this work even though he’s so small?

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Can’t actually believe I’m posting this. Been seeing someone for two months, first couple of weeks it was a couple of coffees and then it became more. I am fast falling for this person, he is everything I have been looking for in someone and has shown nothing but kindness, decency and care.

But I do love sex and it’s a big part of a relationship for me. We’ve had some fumbles and I can tell he is very small even when erect. It’s not thin as well as short, mainly just short. I feel a bit ridiculous saying this as of course size shouldn’t matter if you truly want to be with someone and I think I actually could ignore that part of it if I needed to, but I’m wondering if anyone else has a man like this but sex is still good and fulfilling as in the penetration? I know there’s plenty of other stuff to do but this is new territory for me as I think it is much below average size!

ps NC for obvious reasons but been on here for years!

The size , shape and appearance of male and female genitalia are completely random and not something we have control over ( unless surgically modified of course)

Perhaps he has experienced rejection and humiliation many times over the years , and would be psychologically prepared for this if you were to refuse sex on grounds of his penis size .

Or , perhaps he had learnt to compensate for this ( so to speak ) in other ways in terms of his sexual technique.

Maybe give him the benefit of benefit of the doubt and see what happens…?

"The size , shape and appearance of male and female genitalia are completely random and not something we have control over ( unless surgically modified of course)"

Thank you for blessing us with this knowledge, wise one

You're not going to know until you actually have penetrative sex and see. If you orgasm with penetrative sex then it will matter to you, if you don't maybe not. I think sex has to work for both of you in a relationship or resentment sets in if your needs are not being met.

It's tricky if they have one like an acorn, I mean what can you actually say?

OP, have you considered doing kegel exercises?!

I voted YABU as I’ve been in a similar situation and could not make it work. Depends on the individuals concerned though, he was only really interested in PIV.
There’s probably more info in the Sex topic and you might get better advice there.

Given the size described here, I'm not sure that would help. 😂

Just have sex with him and see how it goes. You can’t second guess it…

I've totally lost track of who's being ironic here ...

I encountered one about 40 years ago that had the same dimensions as a cigarette........

😳

Was it a superking at least?

depends whats important to you; a happy relationship or a big penis

Male response..

I feel like that is two very different things though.

breasts have a job.. to provide children food. Yes men do like them but the size doesn't make any difference to how sex actually feels.

I am told that the size makes a difference to how sex feels, I can understand that changing things if someone is unable to perform in the bedroom for whatever reason that will affect a relationship.

I haven’t encountered a small one, but I did have an ex who was extremely large (which you never would have guessed as he was very average height). Tbh, I didn’t enjoy having sex with him as it was always uncomfortable and sometimes painful, so it definitely put me off him.

I don’t think you can compare to female breast size as breasts don’t affect sensation in the same way. It’s very different being penetrated by something!

Much more to a relationship than sex. Yes resentment might set in but there are lots of others things that need to right too.

You might find a man with a bigger dick but he's an arsehole, cheats on you and gambles for example or tries to control you.

Nobody gets everything they want in a relationship.
If you find a man that you like and you get on well and he treats you well surely that's important.

Jesus awful reply . Presumably she wants a nice relationship not just sex.

What if Lenny long length is a violent abuser or a drunk or both is that ok because he can give her good sex.

It's a horrible hard world out there. If you find a nice man today you grab the chance of a nice relationship.

Meet people where they are and OP is posting on a public forum that her new boyfriend has got a small cock when she felt him up through his jeans!

Sounds like the start of something beautiful!

It's not that deep, and neither is this discussion!

That's why I always have sex as soon as possible. OP, try it, it may be fine. Don't postpone things.

I think everyone else has covered it all already.... Don't second guess him, you don't really know anything yet. Once dated a guy with one like a button mushroom, literally didn't even know I'd HAD sex until he said so!! And then opposite to that a guy who was so big it was horrible. I think we're all different, no-one is a standard size whether male or female. Give him a chance. Hope it goes well x

Woah, very sweeping statements here....I am not 'Asexual' like you inaccurately assume, and it's got nothing to do with caring about sexual intimacy....which can still be a thing regardless of someone's penis size!!
I just feel sorry for this poor bloke having something judged that he cannot do anything about.The OP says she is very keen on him in general so I just feel like it would be really unfair to put him back on the shelf for something like that.There is more to sex than the penetration anyway.

‘Button mushroom’ 🤣

Yes, I think you need to see the goods OP. You never know, you might be surprised.

Absolutely. People out there thinking they are going to find their perfect partner., 😊

His knobs exactly the right size
Hes not violent .
He dosent take drugs.
He's kind.
He's caring
He gets on with their kids
He works
He dosent take drugs.
He dosent gamble or drink a lot
He dosent cheat
He's not lazy
and so on.

You get the picture .
It really makes people come across as ridicolous and shallow when there are so many other things to get right and that make a relationship and all they can mention is his penis.

Absolutely some people in here sound about 14 not mature women.

Of course they have such fantastic bodies themselves dont they?????