To think I can make this work even though he’s so small?

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Can’t actually believe I’m posting this. Been seeing someone for two months, first couple of weeks it was a couple of coffees and then it became more. I am fast falling for this person, he is everything I have been looking for in someone and has shown nothing but kindness, decency and care.

But I do love sex and it’s a big part of a relationship for me. We’ve had some fumbles and I can tell he is very small even when erect. It’s not thin as well as short, mainly just short. I feel a bit ridiculous saying this as of course size shouldn’t matter if you truly want to be with someone and I think I actually could ignore that part of it if I needed to, but I’m wondering if anyone else has a man like this but sex is still good and fulfilling as in the penetration? I know there’s plenty of other stuff to do but this is new territory for me as I think it is much below average size!

ps NC for obvious reasons but been on here for years!

I'm just hoping she has unusually fat fingers and not thin elegant ones

How wide are your fingers?! Surely it’s about half that

When I was younger, it would have bothered me but in my 40s, if he ticked every other box, it wouldn’t be a problem. I can’t come through PIV anyway (need oral/lots of stimulation). However, it’s very much a personal decision for each woman.

OP:
Just tell us roughly how long you think it is and how wide.

Using CMs

If you really like him maybe he is great at oral sex, different types of play, get a sex toy.

Worth a try

If you don’t find out you’ll always wonder!

and also I am nosy and want to know how big it is for real too so please do report back

you can over think these things, the worst that can happen is a disappointing sexual experience and that’s hardly unusual.

but for the sake of solidarity I did briefly date a guy with a tiny penis, less than four fingers so when you put your hand round thinking you were helping him to get it up you were putting your hand round all of it and then realising that it was up. You couldn’t feel him when he was inside. And he never gave me my James blunt cd back.

If you really like him then don’t rule him out yet. But probably sensible to skip to an intimate date, so you can find out and avoid wasting your time if it’s a no go.

I dated a bloke with a small penis and I couldn't feel it at all. First time we did it I was about to ask 'is it in yet?' then I realised it was but I just couldn't feel it. Even though I can't come through PIV I still enjoy that side of it and it just wasn't satisfactory. Even though he made me come other ways I just got the ick and didn't see him again.

good point

I actually have measured. Don’t ask. It’s Sunday 😂

mine are 5cm which is just under 2inch

Tho pic doesn’t actually do the size justice 😂

I must have really fat fingers, or not know what an inch is 😆I'd say my middle three fingers together are about 3.5 inchs.

I’m with the posters mentioning humiliation fetish. Gosh, some folks are naive.

I just measured mine and got 5cm as well! So it turns out I don't know what an inch is 😆I'm so embarrassed but what can I say, I'm a metric gal.

Me too
I'm confused

At this point I'd just be glad they're a nice, decent person 😂 I wouldn't want to throw them back over something superficial / something they can't change about themselves. There are lots of other ways to enjoy intimacy together if that is what is important to you.

So did I. Too pokey.

Of course you're absolutely 100% entitled to want standard penetrative sex.

DO NOT give that up because you're being told to bE kInD or have lots of HIMpathy. Fuck that sideways.

If you don't care that much about it and are willing to make the compromise, all good. Only you can make that call.

And you will have done NOTHING WRONG AT ALL if you decide you can't have a sexual relationship with a man with a tiny penis, or a giant penis - or a penis you just find unappealing.

Just as men are allowed to only want whatever things they want, you are definitely allowed to want standard, penetrative sex.

We have the perfect response, nailed it 👑

😂

What size are your fingers? Is 3 fingers length not massively long? 🙈🤣

So I am guessing 5 or 6 centimetres. I encountered a micro penis in the wild, years back, when I was dating after being a single mum for a few years. It was actually horrible and I found it completely off putting and honestly kind of repulsive. Like a white worm.

Of course I didn't say that to him, we just did not go on to have sex as it really wasn't possible, we talked for a while, fell asleep and the following week I just ended the relationship as kindly and nicely as I could. Don't really want to give more detail about it than that, but it sticks out as a really unpleasant experience that I wish he could have found the courage to warn me about. Because I would then have said no and spared us both the embarrassment and bad memory.

He didn't tell me. He asked me a couple of times if the reason I was dating an older man (he was ten years older than me I was mid 40s at the time) was because sex didn't bother me. I was confused and said no I was happy to have sex. I realised later he was hoping I'd say yes, I am just looking for companionship.

Looking back, he was reluctant to get to the sex stage, despite claiming otherwise. I made a comment about how big his feet were once and he said something like "well, sometimes men with big feet have tiny dicks!" I thought he was joking.

He was not joking.

I did and do feel sympathy for him and it would have been fine if I had not also been hoping for standard, penetrative sex and if he'd let me know. It's not odd, unkind or any other pejorative to expect a man to have a functional penis within a standard range when entering into a sexual relationship, and yes it was incumbent on him to let me know.

But I do actually get why he didn't, and don't hold that against him.

I just will absolutely not have anybody try to hold my natural preference against me either. Absolutely not.

People are allowed to want whatever they want. If my husband's penis suddenly shrunk to that of a white worm I'd still love him, stay with him, and would never tell anyone or do anything to make him feel less about it, better for worse, sickness and in health and all that.

But a boyfriend is quite different. The reality is, you probably won't know until you see it and are in bed with him. I wouldn't pursue the relationship, but that's just me, maybe you'll be different.

Or use it as a toothpick 🤔

Honestly, you have to try it and see. It might be different when it's actually out, and it might not be fully erect if you're just messing around through clothes.

But. I have an ex who was really quite small. He was my first boyfriend so I didn't really have much to compare it to, but when he got it out for the first time I actually thought "Oh, is that it?" Obviously I was more enthusiastic than that out loud. But I could never feel it properly during sex. He did other things to satisfy me but I really wanted that closeness of proper sex. I always heard people joke around about saying is it in yet, but genuinely sometimes I couldn't tell if he was in, or if he was still teasing. I know that sounds awful.

My partner now is bigger (not ridiculously so, but anything would seem big in comparison haha) and it makes SUCH a different to sex. I do still need extra stimulation if I want to orgasm, but luckily he's good at that, too! But I absolutely love the feeling of him being bigger, and it makes me realise I was missing out. Orgasm isn't the only thing that feels good during sex. G spot stimulation still feels good even if it doesn't end in orgasm. In fact, I've never been able to end that way, although I've been close once or twice.

It's not a make or break, and if he's an amazing man otherwise, and can satisfy you with other methods, it might be something you can get past. But you really do need to try things out and see what it's like - because it IS an important part of life, and there's no point in pretending otherwise.

You need to get your hands in those jeans and report back. Good luck!

Made me laugh, thanks

Ahahaha! What did you say to him??

I guess the best option is to have a go on it and then decide.