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AIBU to have an an epiphany at 40 years old

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Sillycally · 14/10/2026 13:58

Hi Guys.
Just wondering where I went wrong in life, the outside looks perfect, house, 2 cars, kids, dog, good jobs etc ....

If life was a box, are you

(A) In the box looking outside the box

(B) Outside the box looking in the box

(C) There isn't option C, you are either of the options above

At 40 years old my epitome is, I have been living as an option A, however, I think I am an option B

YANBU = Clarity
YABU = Delusions / Menopause

[Title edited by MNHQ to fix a typo]

OP posts:
JaneJeffer · 15/10/2026 16:27

Put the box into the car
Drive the car around the world
Until you get heard

QiBengong · 15/10/2026 18:04

Sillycally · 14/10/2026 14:43

@QiBengong

Wow, that is a class response.

I've never heard of the Schrodinger's cat, you are clearly very intelligent😊

I suppose I am metaphorically speaking within my AIBU

The "box" is your mentality, and the A or B options are how YOU conform to societal expectations.

For example....

m.youtube.com/watch?v=o8BkzvP19v4

Sorry to disappoint OP, there was absolutely no intelligence there at all, just devotion to flippancy and puns 😳

I hope you got what you needed out of this thread

AntikytheraMech · 17/10/2026 17:19

Definitely option B. When a person has that epiphany and looks back on previous existence it was in a box. People living within it cannot understand. It's like 2D flatlander trying to understand three-dimensional existence. Well done!

AntikytheraMech · 17/10/2026 17:34

Sillycally · 14/10/2026 13:58

Hi Guys.
Just wondering where I went wrong in life, the outside looks perfect, house, 2 cars, kids, dog, good jobs etc ....

If life was a box, are you

(A) In the box looking outside the box

(B) Outside the box looking in the box

(C) There isn't option C, you are either of the options above

At 40 years old my epitome is, I have been living as an option A, however, I think I am an option B

YANBU = Clarity
YABU = Delusions / Menopause

[Title edited by MNHQ to fix a typo]

Is what you understand to have experienced something like a kundolini awakening? Disassociation from the ID and the ego? Look up doctor Steve Taylor from Leeds Beckett to see whether you fit into that bracket. ❤️

MoistVonL · 17/10/2026 17:39

If it's a box of Maltesers, I want to be in the box face first.

NotCaesarAugustus · 17/10/2026 17:45

My box is warm and cosy. I try not to look outside too often😴

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