AIBU to have an an epiphany at 40 years old

[Sillycally]

Hi Guys.
Just wondering where I went wrong in life, the outside looks perfect, house, 2 cars, kids, dog, good jobs etc ....

If life was a box, are you

(A) In the box looking outside the box

(B) Outside the box looking in the box

(C) There isn't option C, you are either of the options above

At 40 years old my epitome is, I have been living as an option A, however, I think I am an option B

YANBU = Clarity
YABU = Delusions / Menopause

[Title edited by MNHQ to fix a typo]

Is this a case of box wine?

I think I’m out of my box. No idea what this is about at all.

Could somebody please close the lid?

Double

There was a duplicate thread, now deleted, where the replies were a little more …robust, and Sillycally’s responses even more gnomic. I think it’s wine o’clock wherever she is, and it’s given her the false impression that she’s making sense.

Doesn't an epiphany normally involve clarity and therefore a freedom from worries/fears/confusion/decision making?!

What on earth are you talking about OP? What are you doing with all these boxes? Was it in fact a box of wine you got stuck in?

Same here. The OP's description of their life is far from my ideal of 'perfect' at 40.

Need more clarity regarding the boxes, OP.

I'm guessing you mean something like "are you participating fully in your life or do you feel like you're watching life pass you by"

But I could be wrong. I'm a very amateur psychologist. Not my area at all.

Do like a box of Malbec myself. Those boxes I do like. 🍷

An epiphany is a sudden, striking realization or intuitive insight that allows a person to understand a problem, situation, or concept from a new and deeper perspective - they do not tend to involve muliple choice or boxes

IME boxes choices are for cats.

I've been ruptured!

Ruptured* *means to burst, break, or tear open suddenly, usually under physical pressure or stress - do you mean rumbled meaing discovered?

Is this I have a house two kids is there more to life moment - cause that's probably just middle age.

I wanted kids cats and a house and have them - I think other things like to live on the moon and to be an international spy/world renounce nobel prizing winning scientist were always going to be out of reach really. Not sure where that leaves me with your box choices.

Schrödinger's midlife crisis is always a fun time.

Is it a box of frogs?

I was going to say the same, except I suspected that cooking sherry was involved.

Not so much with the words today are you OP?

I'm outside and inside the box all at once, and yet I am nowhere at all...

Surely once you are dead you are in the box?

Dry itchy box over here...

Yeah, I want one now.

Little boxes,
On the hillside,
Little boxes,
Made of ticky-tacky

My epiphany at 40 was that if I didn’t get divorced NOW I could spend all my life trapped in a box.

So I did & built the life I wanted instead.

😅😅😅

God I hate that song. Not just because musically it's crap, but because if she objected to cheap identikit housing, it should be because she's angry about commodifying a human need like housing. Instead she decided that if people live in identical houses (likely without much choice) then they must also be identical people. What a thing to judge people on.

....🤭

... 💩

Pete Seeger!

Did you go badly wrong in life, it sounds pretty OK or are you having a midlife crisis and wish you had gone to live on a beach in Thailand as a teenager and never come back.

Life isn’t a box.