Bollocks. I don’t know any woman whose “cup is filled” by loving her children. It’s a different cup. And she will only want it filled by someone who she trusts and wants to drink with! I’m fairly sure most women who go off sex and intimacy with their H while their DC are young aren’t ‘fulfilled’ by motherhood, they’re fucking exhausted by it.
I’m sure the happiest marriages are the ones where both parents have an active role in bringing up their children and all the household peripheries associated with it, giving women the time and energy to want sex with their H.
The type of Neanderthal man groping his wife in front of his kids almost certainly isn’t pulling his weight at home and making her feel emotionally safe and cherished in other ways.
OP you deserved to feel safe from being molested in your own home and bed. We’ve all seen in recent years the terrifying extremes of this situation, where men feel entitled to their wives’ bodies whether she consents or not.
Some of the pick-me posters on here should really have a long hard think about what behaviour they’re condoning when they excuse his groping as a husband wanting intimacy with his wife. He’s immature, disrespectful and doesn’t seem to give a shit what you want as long as he gets to feel up the female body next to him.
You’ve tried asking him not to, I’d tell him he’s not sleeping in the bed with you until he can control himself. If he doesn’t listen then he needs to move out.