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How can good looking children have not particularly good looking parents?

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smyshna · 09/10/2026 16:43

Genuine question, just curious if anyone else has noticed this.

DH is very conventionally attractive. His two sisters are also very pretty and both modelled when they were younger. DH has been scouted too but wasn’t interested.

His parents are lovely people, but neither is what you’d call conventionally attractive. Even looking at photos of them when they were younger, you wouldn’t say either was particularly good looking.

I know genetics is a lottery but it seems quite remarkable that all three children turned out good looking. They’re all genetically related. Has anyone else come across this?

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Washingupdone · 09/10/2026 19:46

Didn’t someone try to a good looking master race but not all children made the mark because genetics can’t be controlled.

MyManinCaracas · 09/10/2026 19:46

Then there’s Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz, producing Zoe. That’s just a gorgeous family.

familyissues12345 · 09/10/2026 19:47

DS1 is a nice looking lad, I was asked if I’d considered him modelling as a child (hell no) and he’s grown up into a handsome man. Neither me or his Dad are that good looking, we’re not ugly , but definitely nothing special. He’s a definite mix of us both though and I guess has got the best bits of each of us

boredsmored · 09/10/2026 19:48

MyManinCaracas · 09/10/2026 19:46

Then there’s Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz, producing Zoe. That’s just a gorgeous family.

Zoe has had a bit of work

Shrewsburywithanoo · 09/10/2026 19:50

Sartre · 09/10/2026 16:51

It can go the opposite way too with beautiful parents making not so beautiful children. The Beckhams aren’t exactly bonny kids and Michael Sheen’s daughter - sheesh. Also Bruce Willis and Demi Moore’s daughters.

To be fair I think Cruz and Romeo are attractive and they look more like Victoria
David has that doughy, white, Celtic type in his family- I've seen pics, he's the outlier!
So I think that's more where Brooklyn and Harper's genes come from- not that they're awful looking, just average.
I say all this as a squat, doughy Celt myself.

XelaM · 09/10/2026 19:50

Katie Price and Peter Andre producing Princess. 👸

TealHacks · 09/10/2026 19:51

cuddlebuckets · 09/10/2026 19:44

My eldest DS is classically handsome. He was a cute child who’s turned into a very good looking man. DH and I are both, frankly, very average. DS looks like both of us (more like me) but somehow out featured have merged to create a lovely looking human. I do sometimes just look at him and wonder where it came from 😂.

This is a really mean thing to say but I’m always shocked at how Brooklyn Beckham has turned out, looks-wise. Until he ruined his looks with Botox I thought his dad was one of the most handsome men in the world. Clearly it didn’t filter down to BB!

BB is the best looking out of all 4 kids IMO, the other 2 brothers have unusually small heads, with the youngest being most unfortunate looking.

The daughter is plain but has clearly undergone a glow up with the blonde hair etc.

Odd family, but it was David with the looks, that didn't translate well with VB's genes through their kids.

boredsmored · 09/10/2026 19:52

I agree that Kaia looks more like her dad & doesn’t have Cindy’s X factor

boredsmored · 09/10/2026 19:52

I think Brooklyn is the best looking boy too, he may still grow into his looks a bit like his dad did.

ClaudeHopper · 09/10/2026 19:53

TealHacks · 09/10/2026 19:51

BB is the best looking out of all 4 kids IMO, the other 2 brothers have unusually small heads, with the youngest being most unfortunate looking.

The daughter is plain but has clearly undergone a glow up with the blonde hair etc.

Odd family, but it was David with the looks, that didn't translate well with VB's genes through their kids.

I think Romeo was briefly attractive in his early teens. The others are as plain as the day is long, like their mum.

Calliopespa · 09/10/2026 19:55

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2026 19:37

Maybe, but Johnny Depp and Venessa Paradis were always far above average if you ask me

Well I'm not going to argue about Johnny! I have not seen him in the flesh but have frequently mentioned him on celebrity crush threads.

He just has tremendous appeal.

I'm not sure Vanessa is any more beautiful than her daughter is she?

In reality, I think I'd find Johnny disappointingly short in real life? But let's not spoil the fantasy!

Aquasoap · 09/10/2026 19:57

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 09/10/2026 16:45

Some people look cuter and more conventional as a child then grow out of it and become the parents

All the ‘odd looking’ kids I knew turned into fairly stunning adults

Did you read the OP?

Calliopespa · 09/10/2026 19:57

ClaudeHopper · 09/10/2026 19:53

I think Romeo was briefly attractive in his early teens. The others are as plain as the day is long, like their mum.

You see I see Victoria as the one with any looks the children may have.

David is not my cup of tea at ALL.

And I agree with PP who said Brooklyn probably got the best of the looks. He was really a cutie as a baby.

ETA I don't think you could call any of the children plain. Not saying they are devastatingly attractive but they aren't "plain."

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2026 20:01

XelaM · 09/10/2026 19:50

Katie Price and Peter Andre producing Princess. 👸

Both parents were good looking, Katie was naturally beautiful before all the surgery.
Princess is stunning. A good mix of both of them.

EasternStandard · 09/10/2026 20:04

boredsmored · 09/10/2026 19:52

I think Brooklyn is the best looking boy too, he may still grow into his looks a bit like his dad did.

Yep David was a bit dorky when younger early 20s, then got better looking.

boredsmored · 09/10/2026 20:10

I’ve seen David Beckham in real life in the 00s. I never was into him but he was very, very good looking in the flesh. Without sounding like Hannibal Lector he had beautiful skin, the colour, the eveness, etc.

Nomorebullshitnotavailable · 09/10/2026 20:13

My husband and I are average in terms of attractiveness. I have one friend in repeated disbelief as to how we’ve bred two such beautiful kids.

But my daughter facially looks the spitting image of me as a kid except for her build (long and lean like her dad) and her eyes (beautiful like her dad although I would argue mine are also quite nice).

Our son has my build, dad’s eyes.

Unfortunately for both children they’ve inherited my mop of uncontrollable hair.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 09/10/2026 20:14

SmallDFartyCarNRG · 09/10/2026 18:03

Plenty of people have liked my post, so I don't think I was the only one wondering if they were genuine.

That's not the win you may think it is.

You made assumptions about the OP that were not true in the very least. Just sad.

Shrewsburywithanoo · 09/10/2026 20:17

It's quite interesting to see that others think Cruz and Romeo are not good looking and that it's Brooklyn who has the looks. Just shows the subjectivity involved sometimes.
I was pretty in my youth and I was lucky that being short wasn't such a thing, I feel that it is now. Also the aesthetic was a bit more towards conventionally pretty rather than striking and good jawline- I've definitely never had that.
I've lost my looks. As I said before, I'm Celtic and doughy, and we do not age well!
So I tend to rate those well supplied with melanin and jawlines above my own phenotype (if that's the right term).

CordeliaNaismithVorkosigan · 09/10/2026 20:17

DH and I are both ordinary looking - not hideous but nothing to write home about. DD was a very pretty small child, it's too soon to say what will happen to her as an adult (currently in a gawky, spotty teenage phase).

Puffalicious · 09/10/2026 20:18

ApplebyArrows · 09/10/2026 17:07

Different beauty standards for each sex. A trait that might not be terribly attractive in a man might be very attractive in his daughter.

I was just thinking of this funnily enough: a male friend of mine is attractive, not model-like but very attractive; his wife is very pretty. Their eldest daughter, 21, looks exactly like her father but as a female is very unusual looking & not conventionally attractive: the youngest daughter, 18, is drop-dead, head-turningly beautiful, like her mother but on steroids. Genetics are wild.

pinck · 09/10/2026 20:18

Somethinggg · 09/10/2026 17:22

Photos aren't a great way to judge.

I'm assuming your DH is at least in his 20s to have multiple adult siblings, so the photos you're talking about of PILs youth are probably no later than the 90s. Cameras were just much shitter then. It's a great deal easier to take good photos now even without all the filters. Plus some people aren't particularly photogenic.

Lol, what are you even talking about? I was recently looking through my grandmother's wedding album and she'd be 101 now and the photographs were all perfectly good quality, as are my parents' wedding photos from the early 80s. What, do you genuinely think everyone was wandering around looking like a blurry potato until digital cameras came along? Film photography was perfectly capable of producing beautiful, sharp photographs decades before the 90s. It's genuinely hilarious how some people talk about the 1990s as though we were still waiting for electricity to be invented. You can absolutely tell whether someone was attractive in an old photograph.

JuliaAgrippina · 09/10/2026 20:18

WestwardHo1 · 09/10/2026 17:33

The same as extremely attractive parents with very ordinary offspring.

Well quite. Look at the Queen and Prince Phil. Two notably good looking people and their children...well, not.

I always thought this.

Though have seen some photo since that suggest the kids did have some moments so may be images we actually get shown- but seen it described as the mountbatten aging like milk effect.

I do think some people grow into their looks - my Mum looked better old though when young she had a stunning figure her face looked odd- Princess Ann I think has - and the actor who played the orginal bones in StarTrek seemed to age into his face better.

My siblings look nothing alike - but both look like me - one same colour other same face shape features. My own DC - everyone remarks on how alike they look.

itsgoodtobehome · 09/10/2026 20:19

It works the other way too. I know a couple who are undeniably attractive. Their oldest daughter is.....shall we just say 'plain'

Constantrunner · 09/10/2026 20:19

You see it the other way too. Very conventionally attractive parents having less attractive kids.