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AIBU?

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Flirty or just friendly?

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crushy42 · 06/10/2026 08:01

Dad on the school run. Comes over to talk to me every time. Notices/comments on what i am wearing ("did you work out?" noticing my gym wear, or "i am trying to figure out what type of birds is on your dress"). Friendly always, lots of interested questions and lots of eye contact and smiles.
Our kids are friends which each other so to me it seems natural that we gravitate towards each other (more than to other parents i mean).

I am ND and don't find these behaviours necessarily flirty but then again i have had instances where I have acted like this and men thought I was flirting, so I was wondering if i confuse friendliness for flirtiness and vice versa more often.

What would you think if this happened to you?

AIBU- he is just being friendly

YANBU - he is being flirty

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Oliveoy · 06/10/2026 13:06

AbsintheMakesTheHeartGrowFonder · 06/10/2026 10:27

This is such bollocks.

It's an inconvenient truth.

BoredZelda · 06/10/2026 13:23

Waterfresh · 06/10/2026 08:30

I'm not sure this is true.

I think largely it’s true. It’s human nature. Women are the same.

Waterfresh · 06/10/2026 14:20

BoredZelda · 06/10/2026 13:23

I think largely it’s true. It’s human nature. Women are the same.

I don't think so. Do you really only pay attention to people you find attractive? I do not.

GrillaMilla · 06/10/2026 15:09

crushy42 · 06/10/2026 09:46

I read your comment three times but still don't understand what you're saying, sorry. What did you mean?

Ah I was being cynical.

I doubt he'd be rushing across the playground to make small talk with Grandma.

crushy42 · 06/10/2026 19:22

GrillaMilla · 06/10/2026 15:09

Ah I was being cynical.

I doubt he'd be rushing across the playground to make small talk with Grandma.

Ah i get it now. Well, I think someone who was a genuinely friendly/warm person actually would!

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