To ask for your best responses to ‘gender disappointment’

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How do you deal with other people's gender disappointment? I recently announced my pregnancy, it's two of the same gender, and some of the comments I've had are wild. "Are you upset you didn't get the other one?" "Oh I was hoping you'd have one of each!" "Are you okay with not having a boy/girl?"

I've only told a handful of people, so for this many to be openly commenting feels really weird to me.

The funny thing is I'm actually happy they're the same gender, it was my preference! But now I'm starting to wonder if there's something I should know that should make me less happy about it?

And what if I actually was struggling with it? Do people really think they're helping by saying this stuff? Why is pregnancy and having kids the one area where people think they can get away with being so rude?

Has anyone got any good replies to basically tell them to f off (politely 😂) when they come out with this?

For the most part I think it's just crappy filler conversation. However when I found out I was having a second girl my mum said 'oh, are you disappointed?' and my dad said 'oh well, you'll just have to try again for a boy' ...!!!

As the older sister to a clear favourite younger brother these comments from my parents really bothered me.

Anyway, Im due my third girl any day now, which I'm delighted about. I'll even admit it's partly because I know they'll be disappointed which is immature of me but I don't care!

Use your voice! Say that!
We are so grateful to be here at all, we don’t care if it’s a boy or a girl, as long as it’s healthy!