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AIBU to think most people have something sweet after dinner daily?

386 replies

QuickPearlFox · 10/09/2026 18:00

To have something sweet/ pudding every day after dinner?
kind of thought the majority did this but after talking to friends maybe not. So for example after dinner every night will have something sweet eg bar of chocolate, biscuits

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Burgerboo · 10/09/2026 19:12

I always have a kit Kat/ chocolate bar at bedtime! Never bake desserts apart from a special occasion.Am not overweight.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 10/09/2026 19:13

I have something but it's small. Like a couple of bits of chocolate. Today I had a date. Confirm im not fat!

Mixymaxymoxy · 10/09/2026 19:13

Never, unless a second glass of wine counts? DH has skyr and honey.

SlugJam · 10/09/2026 19:13

walrushurricane · 10/09/2026 19:11

I agree. I have always had something sweet every day and I am pretty sure most people do.

I do too, but not after dinner.

Swissmeringue · 10/09/2026 19:14

Once or twice a week maybe but not every day.

Bikergran · 10/09/2026 19:14

I might have dessert if we go out, (if I have room) but very rarely at home, and it is never chocolate or biscuits, but yogurt or fruit. Exceptions are if we have friends over for a meal, or occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas.

I do love cake and desserts, but gain weight very easily, so if I do have them I will generally eat them instead of lunch.

EvelynBeatrice · 10/09/2026 19:14

No one in my family does. We sometimes have fruit - especially children - but not otherwise. Maybe on a sunday if visiting extended family of friends for a more formal meal, but not otherwise.

TheBlueKoala · 10/09/2026 19:14

ALWAYS !!! DC have a youghurt and some dark chocolate and so do I.

ratatouillemousesqueak · 10/09/2026 19:15

I do usually fancy something sweet. Sometimes even just a square of chocolate or a scoop of ice cream. Some days more though

kids will often have yogurt, fruit or maybe some ice cream. They have quite a bit of fruit in the day so although it’s technically healthy it is still sugar.

we tend to have a bigger more special pudding on a Sunday. Like a cheesecake, crumble or sticky toffee.

Jojobees · 10/09/2026 19:15

I wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s a pudding daily- kids usually have a piece of fruit or a yogurt after dinner.
In the summer it might have been an ice lolly.
Ice cream is usually only a once a week thing or proper winter puddings after a Sunday lunch.
I enjoy biscuits with my coffee mid morning.

ratatouillemousesqueak · 10/09/2026 19:15

Oh to add - sometimes dates work for me or tried apricots. I try to have just a couple and that’s enough.

JeanSimmons · 10/09/2026 19:16

SlugJam · 10/09/2026 19:08

That’s not to say I never eat anything sweet, it’s just not after dinner! I tend to eat enough for dinner that I don’t want anything afterwards. If I have something sweet it’s usually mid afternoon.

Same here. I'm not an orthorexic teeny tiny, but I find having a rich pudding after a satisfying main too much, so I can't really enjoy the pudding.

AlexandraPeppernose · 10/09/2026 19:16

We ever have pudding except when entertaining

jay55 · 10/09/2026 19:16

i do, even if it’s just a couple of haribo.

Reinventedblanket · 10/09/2026 19:16

Yes always. I don't necessarily think these replies are representative. I'm currently trying to ween myself off my daily ice cream habit to something a bit less calorific but still.

TheBlueKoala · 10/09/2026 19:17

AnOldCynic · 10/09/2026 18:27

@QuickPearlFox YABU. It’s a bad habit your parents got you into. I was the same growing up but I rarely have anything sweet after a meal because it’s incredibly bad thing to do.

Wrong. In order to control blood sugar and limit damage to your teeth it's much better to have a dessert rather than a snack.

SwanUpmanship · 10/09/2026 19:18

I like a yoghurt after dinner.

junebirthdaygirl · 10/09/2026 19:19

Growing up my Mom made dessert every single day for a large family. Apple tart, bread and butter pudding, rice pudding etc. Every day! None of us were overweight as we had a long bus journey to school and back ,light lunch in school so hungry for our home cooked dinner every evening. Never any chocolate or sweets.
I rarely bake so haven't kept the tradition going but l think if you have healthy meals its OK.

Wineryvinery · 10/09/2026 19:20

I did growing up - but I did not introduce the habit with my kids. Even on Christmas Day we'll have a pudding available but it's rare that anyone wants to eat it till much later.

Konstantine8364 · 10/09/2026 19:22

Not day to day at home! But if I'm cooking for friends and family then yes, so probably once or twice a week

NattyKnitter116 · 10/09/2026 19:23

Used to growing up and until a few years ago but OH diabetic now so we only do pudding if the kids come over. I don’t miss it really as I’m full after dinner anyway and I knit while watching telly so that seems to quiet the noise.

I think if I lived alone I’d probably be overweight and diabetic with high bp and all the heart pills like my mum and sister as I don’t think I’d have the willpower !

OnlyYellowRoses · 10/09/2026 19:23

The kids (aged between 17 and 9) always grab themselves a piece of fruit, yoghurt or an ice lolly for their pudding. DH will always have ice cream or some sort of sponge and custard as he’s on a very high calorie diet (fortified) so needs the extra calories daily to maintain a healthy weight. I don’t usually have pudding but when I’m due on, I’ll have a couple of squares of chocolate or fruit and cream. We do tend to eat more puddings in the winter like sticky toffee pudding, apple pies etc as I find it warms them up a bit before bed.

Auburngal · 10/09/2026 19:23

I don’t at home. Though may have a yoghurt, fruit, biscuit etc about 1.5 hours after my meal

seahorsessky · 10/09/2026 19:24

Usually fruit but not always.

ShakingAndCrying · 10/09/2026 19:25

Candlesniffin · 10/09/2026 18:06

No, I'm fat so can't afford to routinely have pudding :(

I was until this year and never really ate sweet things and didn’t really eat much at all.

I started SW and going to the gym and started eating more and I’ve lost a lot of weight.

I use my SW syns having a few little treats in the day or dessert and I’m eating so much more than before with carbs like pasta, rice and potatoes.
I didn’t expect it to work but it somehow has.

I do a lot more exercise now with the gym and swimming but lost 3.5 stone in the past with SW alone and no exercise. I was younger so it came off much quicker and that’s why I didn’t expect it to work when I was eating so little before.

I think it’s a case of everything in moderation and denying yourself things never seems to work.