To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

[Helenaslide]

I was having a bath last night and he came in and used the loo (no.2). I shouted and asked what he was playing at and he said he has always done this with partners and vice versa as have plenty of people he knows. He stayed for a couple of minutes until he had finished and left laughing.

For context - together 4 months, he was staying at mine last night.

He has said he won’t do it again but I feel a bit humiliated by it tbh.

Yikes - horrible boyfriend……have a glass of wine and watch (and smell) me poo!!

Disgusting, whats wrong with him?

It has never happened to me. What else would he expect you to put with? Make sure you tell him why you’ve gone off him.

My ex-husband had a some serious faults but having a poo when I was in the bath would not have been one of them.

He's an uncouth pig!

Wtf. No way ever ever.

I know loads of people who do this.

I know more women who do this (but I have more women as friends).

I would never do it and would hate it done to me though.

Just tell him not to do it again.
If he does, then it’s over.

One of my favourite episodes but in real life…. NOOO!! Think it would be enough to dump him (pardon the pun).

We've been married over 40 years and I have never seen DH have a wee never mind a poo.

He would never set foot in my house again.

I actually think they might. I recall my family dog hiding under the kitchen window when going for a poo in the garden, if she looked and saw us watching - she would also sometimes look over at us sheepishly, as if to say "ffs why are they watching me".. obviously, so we knew when to call her back inside, not some weird fetish.

Animals, especially dogs, do seem to feel shame. I recall the look of guilt when another dog destroyed something of mine. Or when they had run off and not come back when I called. The body language said it all. Or when the dog accidentally knocked me over and hung its head low afterwards, as if by way of apology, and then refused to leave my side because I was limping. That was a big deal because that dog loved running off and exploring everything, chasing anything that moved.

Fucking nasty. He's lying about having done it with other partner, or maybe that's what ended those relationships.

The only way this could happen is if he was ill or plain bursting and told you first so you had the option to vacate.

Honestly this makes me sick and angry at his blatant lies on top of his foul thoughtlessness.

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No not the norm. Only under dire circumstances and if no other loo in the house. We have been married for 30 years and have never done this.

This has got to be a wind up right. No sane human being would ever do that.

He had 2 other toilets he could have used and still went to the one in your bathroom. That’s even worse. Grim.

Who has voted YABU?! And why?!

that is revolting.

So you have three toilets and he chose to do that in front of you!?
Thats weird. And horrible.

What were his motives I wonder?
That would seriously make me think twice.
YUK

This makes it sound like he offered the wine just so you would leave the door unlocked and he could do this. He knew what he was doing. It sounds extreme but I wouldn’t want to be with him, he enjoyed subjecting you to that the underlying psychology is effed up

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She has 3 toilets

No. Unless he had raging diarrhea (I can never spell it), there is something very wrong here. My husband has never had a poo in front of me and vice versa and we have been married for 18 years. Back in the day when we first lived together and only had one bathroom, we would each say to the other something along the lines of 'I'm going in the bath / shower now. Do you want to use the loo first?'

To be fair my dog did look embarrassed at times. She honestly didn’t like me looking at her.

No

He’s a pig and if you have 2 other toilet’s available then he was definitely testing boundaries. I wonder what else he does that he thinks is “funny”.

Now I wonder if this was intentional. Him suggesting the wine then coming in and doing that AND you have other bathrooms available??

Did the wine ever appear while you were in the bath?

Time to have a ponder on if he's tried to push boundaries before that you gave him the benefit of the doubt for but now see differently.