WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

[DinonneS]

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

In the other mum’s shoes, if I was wondering what the delay was and/or needed the DD home for some reason, I would text my own 15 year old to say ‘did X’s mum pick you up ok, you on your way back’? I’d have zero issue at a detour to drop someone else off and think you were very kind to ferry them all about in the rain. DS’s friend’s mum insisted on giving him a lift home from something once, but they then went off an hour long detour which was a complete pain as we were waiting to go out and DS didn’t have a key, but I wouldn’t have dreamed of complaining to the mum about it!

What’s the problem with “picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car”?

Do you think she knows her daughter is in enclosed spaces with all sorts of other children while she’s at school every day!?

Fascinated to know what the words are that she wants to have with you, @DinonneS

Phones work both ways.
If the mum was worried she could have messaged or rang her daughter rather than being "sick with worry" for 15 mins
It is not ops responsibility and I personally would prefer the person giving my dd a lift not to also be texting/ringing while she did it

15 minutes! If it had been an hour then she might have a point, but 15 minutes is the same as a couple of red traffic lights, a few people walking slowly over a zebra crossing or some people digging up the road causing a tail back!

You poor neighbours daughter will need to invest in some sturdy boots and a good waterproof because she won’t be getting warm, dry comfortable lifts home any more.

Please let us know what her 'reasoning ' is.

Yikes! “How dare you pick up and drop off another 15yr old child, so they didn’t get drowned in the torrential rain. Only my daughter should have been in your car, nobody else”

Is she a helicopter mom? Or, is she just one of those who thinks she’s more entitled than anybody else to things.
I hope you don’t/didn’t let her go in on you.
Tell her not to be so ungrateful and let her know clearly you won’t offer a hand ever again.

Bottom line - Your car, you decide who gets in it.
You asked her permission (like you should) and she gave it. You didn’t do anything wrong.

I would just say - oh sorry youre upset, I couldn't leave a kid out in the rain, if you dont want me to take DD next time then no problem.

If she argues further just make an excuse and leave.

Maybe the DD was meant to be home for activity/music lesson at 3.

I just wouldn't take her again.

Ok well why is this the OPs problem? She offered a lift to a child in the rain and beggars can’t be choosers about other passengers.

Busses, lifts and even flights get delayed all the time. Is everyone this anxious now?

if she was so worried why didn’t she text her DAUGHTER and why does she want to have words with someone who gave her child a lift home in a dry car. She sounds like an absolute head case.

I voted the wrong one!!!
OP your neighbour is being ridiculous!
After you have done her favour too! Some people. Anyway sorry again. I voted YBU but I actually meant to press YANU

This is deranged.