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Neighbour calls at 8:30 am on Saturday to tell me she is stressed?

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Kate011 · Today 10:29

And by neighbour I mean lady in my building two floors above me. Who says hi and stops to make small talk/chat with me sometimes.

I answer phone call at 8:30 am because I think it’s an emergency.

she starts telling me how she’s under a lot of stress right now because she lost her keys?

I ask if she wants me to let her in building, she says no, she’s in her flat, she had spare key to her flat and someone let her in building.

and asks me if Tesco does copies? (Tesco is like 3 minutes away by bus) And where she can get replacement?

I tell her council does replacements as it’s a council building. she then asks how to contact council to get replacement.

She knows I rent privately in this building from private landlord so don’t have contact with council and been living here much, much less than she did? So how would I know?

she lived in building 16 years, how does she not know how to contact the council about lost keys?

and what does she expect me to do?

Or was she expecting me to offer one of our keys while she waits for council key replacement??

She keeps ranting and complaining about how she’s so annoyed.

She has a close couple friend living in the building. They always hang out together.

why not call and tell them this?

she also has a daughter and two 18 year old grandkids who she says are super close to her living nearby.

she told me she has so many friends. Why contact me this early out of all people??

sometime ago I remember she knocked on January 1st on my door asking if my daughter can help connect her to/figure out her problem with her tv. I barely knew her then.

another time she kept complaining how she has no heating nearly all winter and doesn’t know how to complain to the council repair team. And asked if I knew how to. When she asked I suggested she ask her daughter for help she said “oh I don’t want to bother people, they have their own lives and problems” .

but calling at 8:30 on Saturday is bit ridiculous no?

OP posts:
Lotsofsnacks · Today 15:32

Kate011 · Today 10:58

I have let this stuff go before.

it ended with my colleague calling me at 11pm telling me she can’t poop and another neighbour calling me asking me to how to delete her Facebook photo she uploaded by accident a 1am.

it also ended up with neighbour coming in to chat and sitting in my living room for 8 hours!

Edited

WTF you let an unwanted random guest stay 8 hours?

also you are overthinking this neighbour dilemma too much; your first mistake was giving her your number; now just block her; as you say she has close friends in the building, she is young, and not abandoned with no mates. Did u tell her on phone what u said here; you’re not council, so u won’t know about their lost key policies and she’s lived her longer so u know more than u?

user1471538283 · Today 15:35

She's probably worn her friends and family out with the expectation they solve her problems so you are next on the list.

It's not your job to sort this out. Before you know it you'll be managing her life.

butterpuffed · Today 15:37

Kate011 · Today 13:00

It’s not just people in my building. I don’t get why.

i always been happy to help. But I’m just feeling used now and like people are taking advantage of me. My family even calls me a push over

Edited

But you're not a pushover as your family think , going by the incidents you've posted .

Umbilicat · Today 16:01

Don't write posts using AI it's annoying

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