To think some people are just miserable for the sake of it?

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I’m on holiday in Milan. I have spent the day sightseeing and my hotel is right by the Duomo so I grabbed dinner there.

I was sat next to a table of five British women who did nothing but complain. The view wasn’t good enough, the drinks were too small, the drinks were too big (!), too sweet, too much ice. The food wasn’t “cute Italian food” (well, no shit Sherlock! You’re not going to get a little Italian nonna cooking you food at a tourist trap restaurant!), the KFC around the corner didn’t have what one woman wanted, just endless complaints.

AIBU to think some people just look for things to complain about?! You’re in Italy, in a gorgeous city, eating relatively cheap food! That should be enough to make them happy, no?

Perhaps they genuinely enjoy moaning ?!?

I always go to McDonald's in Spain or Italy because they have gluten free buns which is a rare treat - all other food that is eaten is in keeping with the local cuisine though. I'm not aware of KFC doing anything special though 😆

That would have me judging them for sure.

Is that not a statement of fact rather than, as you accuse, a moan?

Totally wasted on them, Lamzarote is a lovely place to explore with a car, the supermarkets have lovely food, the place is a joy.

Envy the thief of happiness. 🤣🤣🤣

Vienna - too cold, too far to walk

To be fair, if she's going there from the UK and not taking a plane or a car like most people do, she's not wrong

It does seem paradoxical that, for some people, being miserable is the only thing that actually makes them happy. Everything going just perfectly for them would be their worst nightmare ever.

Oh I totally plan on having a McDonald’s before I leave because the menu looks so different to ours, but not before I’ve tried the local food!

That’s handy to know ( ticket thing). 🙂

Some people just love a moan fest.

My parents are like this - went to our nearest city yesterday, it rained. They knew it would rain because of the forecast, went anyway, complained. There were school kids everywhere, I'd already told them that lots of schools were still on summer break, still complained. They go to the same Costa every week, complain about the same thing every week. Took them out for a theatre trip, they complained about the seats, about the other people. I actually think they can't let themselves have a nice time.

I catch myself doing the misery spiral sometimes and put a stop to it!

Our last holiday was a gorgeous hotel in Greece. We had zero complaints or even niggles yet we heard an older couple complaining about “the sunbed situation” as they could never find 2 together. This baffled us as we’re a family of 5 and had had no issues around 3 of the 4 pools. One pool we avoided as it was the party pool and loud. complainers love to complain. my parents have become very glass half empty people so I’m determined to avoid that.

I never understand the people who identify TV programmes that they hate and then still tune in to watch them every week/day... only to perpetually complain that they hate them!

This is true in so many cases. I had an ex who suffered terribly with bipolar, and you could tell when he was on a downward slide because he started complaining about random stuff and his use of the word "shite" suddenly leapt up.

However, to a degree it's a state of mind (not referring to people like my ex, who was very unwell and trying hard to get better). I used to suffer from low mood, and to a large degree I managed to gee myself out of it and have a generally positive outlook on life nowadays.

Ww always taste local maccies or kfc special 😁

Yes. Some people are misers like it's a sport or personal achievement

I've often noticed they have utterly no interest in anything which doesn't directly affect themselves too.
The self absorbed rarely make good company!
I believe there may well be a 'happiness setting' in life!

A great example is the street where I live. Newbuild housing association properties. They are genuinely lovely houses, and the HA is very responsive and fast with repairs and niggles.

You wouldn't believe the bellyaching from my neighbours when we moved in. "This is wrong....that is wrong....bloody HA, just bloody typical...."

Mate, we've got brand new social housing- in 2016. All of us in this row were in expensive, insecure, cramped private rented accommodation beforehand. We've effectively won the fucking lottery and you're still complaining?!

This is exactly what I was thinking! Mad…

I came across a man like this on the last cruise I was working on. We had only been on board about 2 hours and I was helping hosting a table for singles at a social gert together and he just moaned about everything - he didn't like his cabin, the bed was too hard, the bathroom too small, he wanted a port cabin and they gave him a starboard, the prices were expensive, they didn't have his preferred brand of gin at the bar, the entertainment started too late, he didn't like the dress code, the weather forecast looked poor, he didn't like the choice of shore tours - it just went on and on and on. Much eye rolling from the other guests on the table.

We were on holiday in Spain in a beautiful 5 star all inclusive this summer. At dinner there was a large multi generational family on the table behind us and then they had a huge bust up. The adult son started laying into his dad saying you’re ruining everyone’s holiday with your complaining, the dad was refusing to eat, saying he is not eating this foreign food and not going to eat dinners that aren’t proper dinner that you have to get up and walk about for (they literally had every food you can imagine and show cooking different questions, fresh steaks and fresh fish cooked for you and in front of you) then the son stood up and said very loudly ‘I wasn’t going to tell you this but the hotel manager took me aside yesterday and said your attitude towards the staff has been upsetting them and is wrong’ and then the whole family stormed off to another table leaving the older dad and his poor, poor wife just sitting there. They sat there in silence for about an hour and then left. So yes, some people are clearly miserable fuckers.

Did they really have a privileged lifestyle though? Really? I'm sure they did materially, but I often ponder on women of my mother's generation (so, the women who would be in their 70s/80s now).

There was a huge amount of societal pressure to become a revolving satellite around some man, even if it meant giving up their own them ams and ambitions, and I don't think it made thm all happy.

Ooh, can you please do an AMA about working on cruises, I’d be fascinated!!

Should read "dreams and ambitions". My phone is 6 years old and starting to go haywire- now shopping for a new phone and setting it up, that's guaranteed to make me miserable and grumpy! 😆

I agree with a pp that increasing numbers of people have decided they are “foodies” which enables them to criticise meals from a Michelin starred place to MaccyDs to - worst of all - food in other people’s homes.

I couldn’t have shuddered any more than when someone I knew ostentatiously tasted the wine in an ordinary Indian restaurant and then declared the curry “not flavourful” - CRINGE.