AIBU to be frustrated by my husband interrupting me while I work from home?

[Messydesks]

Am taking a quick coffee break as have been working since 8.

I am just feeling frustrated as DH is off this week but kind of mooching around the house with the teens. The teens know to leave me in peace when I am working but DH is constantly popping his head round the door to tell me some random thought hes had or ask me some random question

My work involves periods of intense focus (hence the coffee break!) and it really stresses me out to be interrupted. I have tried telling him so many times. I don't get why he can't respect it

Just want to hear from both people WFh /people at home while their spouses WFH about how to handle this

Nb I don't mind them being noisy in the house etc. I shut the study door and I am good at zoning out from background noise

You need to get a lock.

Before that you need to find your voice and when he next pops his head round the door to tell you that the postie has been/ next door's cat is in the garden again/ the milk is off...

"Ben! I. Am. F@cking. Working. Show some bl@@(by respect and stop unterrupting me!"

Then tell him you're buying a lock.

@mathanxiety DH genuinely has no idea that his presence has a detrimental impact (when working.) He doesn’t see it. But NJ irrespective of that I can’t have friends over for play dates; I can’t listen to the radio or music; it’s possible I am sure in some types of wfh roles but for a lot of people (I accept not everyone) the presence of someone working does massively change the atmosphere of the house no matter how considerate that person is.

^This. My DH mostly WFH and when his office door is shut I don’t disturb him. Even my DD1 (17), who has additional needs and challenging behaviour, actually gets it (she has her moments but usually leaves him alone to work).

That does sound frustrating. My DH’s office is in our extension and not in the main house, which I think makes a big difference. He gets peace to work and life goes on as normal in the house.

I guess if he interrupted a colleague, it would have been work related?

You have a DH problem then. He's not respecting your right to live in the house while he works in the house. You need to figure that out. It's very unfair.

I'm understand and recognise the part about changing the atmosphere, but you can work at getting over that, but not with your (D)H sat in the middle of the fucking house. That's working for no one, except maybe him.