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Would it be rude to ask cleaner to tidy Dd's room

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Whycantwatertastebetter · 26/08/2026 14:48

I usually keep on top of it and to be fair, she usually doesn't make much mess, but over the holidays with her being at home and having friends over, I've just sort of left it.
So much of the house was messy that I do daily, so I shut the door and don't want to look at it 😂
i'm a really tidy person so it stresses me out.
Cleaners are due on Friday, they always do a big clean of the whole house for four hours. I also leave it exceptionally tidy.
Would they be offended if I asked them if they could poseibly tidy Dd's room and wardrobe (she seems to have got every item of clothing out, it's a pain)
Obviously this would be extra time on top of the cleaning and obviously I would pay more

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Jaimelefromage · 27/08/2026 07:05

madaboutpurple · 27/08/2026 05:56

Tell your daughter to tidy things away otherwise her clothes will bethrown out. No doubt she will spend time sorting the room. It is good preparation for when she goes away to college.

She’s 7, she’s got a while until college.

Sartre · 27/08/2026 08:20

Coconutter24 · 26/08/2026 22:15

They are paid to clean not tidy

Again since no one answered my previous point, what does this mean? Do they turn up and clean the bathroom, floors, dust a little, maybe clean the windows then leave? Why can’t they pick kids toys up, straighten the beds out, put some laundry away etc? That sort of thing would genuinely help me, I hate those jobs. I pay a gardener once a month because I hate gardening, I can’t imagine him saying he’ll only do the lawns but not the weeds.

Longtimelurker1980 · 27/08/2026 08:31

Whycantwatertastebetter · 26/08/2026 15:01

She's 7. She can and does but it isn't properly tidy as she isn't able to do the wardrobe especially the way I or another adult would. She will be told to tidy before they come, but I know it will still need a proper tidy afterwards

7 is an ideal age to start teaching children the tactics to keep a room tidy. At that age, we had an informal tidy up time while bath was running which kept on top of it.

then they get to teens and it all goes to shit but at least you know they have the skills by then if not the execution. Our lovely cleaner tidies their rooms as well as cleans but I always get them to sort the majority the night before she comes. She’s been with us their whole lives and knows and loves them, as they do her, so it’s her little bit of love to them. She will also leave aggressive notes saying ‘clean your shit up’ etc which they find hilarious.

DooDallyHallie · 27/08/2026 08:31

Your dd made the mess, she shoukd be thecone to tidy it.If its done reasonably but not to your OCD standards, then you go in afterwards.
The aim here is ti create independence and responsibility, not create a showhome!! The system should be such that the child can maintain it herself!

redskyAtNigh · 27/08/2026 09:21

Jaimelefromage · 27/08/2026 07:05

She’s 7, she’s got a while until college.

And when she starts college she can keep her room to our own level of tidiness, not the one her mother deems appropriate
not that my DD keeps most of the things on the floor or anything

Lexibletheflexible · 27/08/2026 12:16

Sartre · 27/08/2026 08:20

Again since no one answered my previous point, what does this mean? Do they turn up and clean the bathroom, floors, dust a little, maybe clean the windows then leave? Why can’t they pick kids toys up, straighten the beds out, put some laundry away etc? That sort of thing would genuinely help me, I hate those jobs. I pay a gardener once a month because I hate gardening, I can’t imagine him saying he’ll only do the lawns but not the weeds.

I answered this earlier as a cleaner myself. It's only a problem when time and/or budget is limited. If you have 2 hrs of tidying before I can even get a wet cloth out, but you only have 2 hours of money you can pay, then we are going to run into unmet expectations.

For the most part people do only have money for 2 or 3 hours per visit so you have to get on the same page about what is realistic at their budget. A whole sinkful of dishes isn't realistic when.you have 2 hours to do a whole.flat.

Stigolini · 27/08/2026 18:00

Cleaners clean. Residents tidy. We spend an hour tidying our flat before our cleaner arrives every Thursday a.m. so that she has a clear run. It's not difficult!

Jaimelefromage · 27/08/2026 18:03

Stigolini · 27/08/2026 18:00

Cleaners clean. Residents tidy. We spend an hour tidying our flat before our cleaner arrives every Thursday a.m. so that she has a clear run. It's not difficult!

Unless you ask them if they’d be happy to do some tidying for extra money and they say yes, of course. Only this particular cleaner can say whether she personally is happy to do it or not, and the OP
isn’t unreasonable to ask.

DraigCymraeg · 28/09/2026 14:06

Whycantwatertastebetter · 26/08/2026 14:48

I usually keep on top of it and to be fair, she usually doesn't make much mess, but over the holidays with her being at home and having friends over, I've just sort of left it.
So much of the house was messy that I do daily, so I shut the door and don't want to look at it 😂
i'm a really tidy person so it stresses me out.
Cleaners are due on Friday, they always do a big clean of the whole house for four hours. I also leave it exceptionally tidy.
Would they be offended if I asked them if they could poseibly tidy Dd's room and wardrobe (she seems to have got every item of clothing out, it's a pain)
Obviously this would be extra time on top of the cleaning and obviously I would pay more

If you will a fair price of course go ahead and ask. But remember they may not have time, if they go elsewhere after your home.
Or it may not be something in their remit.
Alternatively ask them to leave DD's room until next time and get her to tidy everything ready for the next visit.

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