Would it be rude to ask cleaner to tidy Dd's room

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I usually keep on top of it and to be fair, she usually doesn't make much mess, but over the holidays with her being at home and having friends over, I've just sort of left it.
So much of the house was messy that I do daily, so I shut the door and don't want to look at it 😂
i'm a really tidy person so it stresses me out.
Cleaners are due on Friday, they always do a big clean of the whole house for four hours. I also leave it exceptionally tidy.
Would they be offended if I asked them if they could poseibly tidy Dd's room and wardrobe (she seems to have got every item of clothing out, it's a pain)
Obviously this would be extra time on top of the cleaning and obviously I would pay more

We've done it together in the past, I don't expect immaculate but i'm not attempting it this time!

Why not, how bad can it possibly be.

If you can't face it, not sure a cleaner will want to do it

Well you can ask, I don't think it's rude to ask.

I do think you and DD should do it together though. You'll be quicker anyway as you understand how everything should be organised.

It's fine to ask her if she'd like to earn an extra hour's pay in return for some additional tidying. It would also be fine for her to say no if she'd rather not do it.

However, the fact that you say you like the wardrobe to be tidied to a specific standard suggests that you might not be happy with the way the cleaner does it either. If I was a cleaner and someone asked me to tidy their child's room, I'd basically just hang all the clothes up and move stuff off the floor. I wouldn't be hanging stuff in a specific order or doing a load of folding, and unless it was completely obvious where things went (eg books on a bookshelf) I wouldn't be spending ages looking for a place for them.

Children won't learn to keep their space tidy unless someone shows them and helps them. Having someone come in might solve the immediate issue (a messy room) but it won't actually help in the long-run.

My cleaners never tidied, i would have to do a big tidy the day before they came so they could hoover, mop, dust etc. Their job was to clean not to tidy. I suppose you could ask but they might say no. When I was little the cleaner would check our rooms and hoover them if they were tidy but leave them if they weren't.

I agree with the last bit! I think as your OP didn't say she's only 7, I'd steer a middle course. She needs to learn to tidy her toys at the moment but e.g. putting piles of clothes back on hangers or sorting drawers I think it'd be OK to ask the cleaner if you can't find time to do it yourself with your daughter. You do need to learn to unclench in anticipation of teen years but a big 'back to school' tidy is a nice way to start the term.

Edited to add: although by the time you've started and regularly updated this thread you probably could have done it yourself!

My cleaner LOVES a good tidy!!

The daughter is only 7 and maybe she and the cleaner can do it together … sometimes a messy room for a 7 year old can be overwhelming

MN has such high expectations of kids… most of us end up as tidy adults!!

Tbf she didn't say from the start her daughter is only 7....

This. It is really the salient piece of information.

How hard is it for you to hang up some of your seven-year-old child’s clothes? She can help you but ultimately, come on.

@KindnessIsKey123I found my current lady through another friend. But when she is away I have others stand in for her and always make it clear what I am looking for and I haven’t yet had anyone who has refused.

Why, what's wrong with you? Can't you spend an hour or 2 together sorting it out? Or as she's only 7, do it all yourself. She's a 7 year old child, you can't possibly expect her to have the tidying ability of a cleaning-obsessed adult which you sound like you are.
Wait till she's back at school and do it yourself when she's not there.

Why on earth should a professional cleaner have to put up with some random 7yo following her about and getting in the way?

Wow! So you’re teaching your teens that it’s ok to be messy and that the paid help will clear it.

What’s the purpose of a paid cleaner? I always find it baffling on here when people discuss them (I don’t know a single person who pays for a cleaner to ask IRL) and say they don’t tidy, only clean. I’m assuming people don’t leave piles of washing up for them to do so what are they cleaning? The bathroom and floors and a bit of dusting? Seems like a waste to pay someone for this. I’d only want to pay if they’d tidy DC’s toys and books up and put my laundry away (the jobs I detest).

I think she does but not to the standard the op likes. Op I think you should work on not letting it bother you as much personally. It sounds similar to our house and I’ve learned to not be Bothered by it as it doesn’t matter. A 16 year old shouldn’t be as bothered as someone who owns the house. If it’s really bad that’s different but I don’t think that’s what you are describing.

full disclosure my mother was mental about my room being a mess and once put all my stuff in bin bags and threw it out so I am very conscious of not giving my child that upbringing.

Op has a case of the lazies by the sound of it.

Oh didn’t see this. Let her be untidy op it doesnt matter . This is a you problem I’m getting flashbacks of my mother.

It's not rude to ask cleaners to do certain tasks like tidying or ironing etc., they can always refuse, but I would never have asked my cleaning lady to tidy teenagers bedrooms - my sons then the grandchildren tidied their room in my house!

It depends on the cleaner.

Most I've known will not tidy and have been very upfront that they are cleaners and not housekeepers. They lift any mess, dust or hoover, and put it back down.

Maybe the OP will be at work while her daughter is at school?

It depends on your cleaner, some will some won’t, I would think a cleaner cleans not tidies. If you can’t be bothered to tidy it then don’t expect someone else too either!

I don’t imagine a cleaner would think it’s rude to ask and offer extra money. I think you would need to be clear on what you want though as it’s tidying rather than cleaning - hanging up clothes etc. However (from experience) I think you should maybe spend some time modelling to your daughter how to tidy. It can be overwhelming and I’ve had two children who I didn’t model this to and we ended up in a mess. So now I’m very much ‘let’s throw away any rubbish 1st, now let’s hang up clothes, next we’ll put books away. Shall we take a small beak so we don’t get overwhelmed?’ Etc.