Would it be rude to ask cleaner to tidy Dd's room

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I usually keep on top of it and to be fair, she usually doesn't make much mess, but over the holidays with her being at home and having friends over, I've just sort of left it.
So much of the house was messy that I do daily, so I shut the door and don't want to look at it 😂
i'm a really tidy person so it stresses me out.
Cleaners are due on Friday, they always do a big clean of the whole house for four hours. I also leave it exceptionally tidy.
Would they be offended if I asked them if they could poseibly tidy Dd's room and wardrobe (she seems to have got every item of clothing out, it's a pain)
Obviously this would be extra time on top of the cleaning and obviously I would pay more

That’s not fair. She may be a 50 hour a week professional. I struggled to keep on of housework when I worked full time as a teacher. I kept the bathrooms and kitchen clean but things quickly got messy.

If it’s a one off, there is no reason why you can’t ask if she would mind giviing it a tidy for you? Just be fine if she says no.

If she can make a mess of the wardrobe why can't she put stuff back.? If the cleaner has 4h to clean and u want her to do ur daughter's tidying, what is she not going to do if time is spent doing tidying?

The difference being that the OP is offering to pay the cleaner extra for doing it.
And surely that would apply to having a cleaner in general? I have one because I can’t be bothered to clean. I pay someone to wash my car because I can’t be bothered to do it. And my oven. Luckily those people can be bothered, and they get paid for it.
It’s not rude to ask someone to do something. It’s rude to expect, or demand it. The OP can make an offer, and it’s up to the cleaner whether to accept or not.

I think you are looking for a ‘housekeeper’

Not at all, go ahead. It's not rude, because you're prepared to pay them for their time, so no issues at all. They might not have time to do it, but if they do, it's extra money in their pocket. Win, win.

My cleaner would be totally happy if asked in this way and offered more pay, too. She knows I usually insist that the kids (LOL they are 18/21) declutter and tidy their rooms so that she can get to floors etc and do her magic without stumbling across a pair of DSs boxers.

If you have a respectful relationship and ‘ask’ rather than demand or leave blunt post-it notes, you’ll be fine. My cleaner has shown me texts from some of her clients - my god, they are 2 sides of A4 with every single thing listed for each room.

You aren't asking for parenting advice, which seems to be what most posters are offering you.

You can absolutely ask them, and they may well be able to fit it in to their usual shift, especially if you have some jobs which aren't weekly which they can delay. They are not likely to be offended if you ask, any more than you will be if they refuse. It is a bit strange to ask cleaners to tidy rather than clean, as they will have to make guesses where everything goes. If you are offering to pay more I'm not sure why they would have the slightest problem.

I suppose it depends on the relationship. Ours is very friendly and likes being involved with the family.

If your cleaner doesn't usually tidy, it's probably an unreasonable ask, especially if it's super messy. She might not be cool with picking up a 7 year old's mess.

Box or bag up your kid's stuff, put the boxes or bags on the bed, and the cleaner can clean. Make your daughter put her stuff away one box or bag at a time and if it's not done by a reasonable date you set, that stuff goes out.

I wouldn’t be paying someone to tidy up after someone who can’t be bothered to do it themselves. If the room isn’t to your standard tell DD to keep the door closed. I just used to leave clean clothes on the landing outside their bedrooms and they knew where the clean sheets were if they wanted them.

It’s fine to ask as they are professionals but it’s a bit strange of you to say you can’t face tidying your own DDs room. How do you expect her to learn the skill? Put some music on and spend some time with her tidying up, I used to quite enjoy doing that with my kids.

Why is it strange? I hate tidying, especially if it’s not my mess. Add on a full time job, caring for 3 kids, cooking meals, hobbies etc and I often can’t face tidying. I don’t think it’s particularly unusual.

I still don’t understand why it’s insulting to ask a cleaner to tidy. After all, as a PP pointed out, the very nature of having a cleaner is because you can’t be bothered to hoover/mop/clean the bathroom/iron etc yourself

If the tidying is within the cleaner’s regular hours and you are prepared to lose that time which might otherwise have been spent cleaning OR you’re paying extra for tidying, then I can’t see a problem. We’re talking clothes and toys here, not soiled bedding or anything. In many ways it’s an easier job than scrubbing limescale off a shower!

There's a difference between being involved with the family and not being able to do your job properly because a 7yo is following you around all day, though.

Couldn't you help DD do it, show her how you like it? It shouldn't take more than half an hour unless the wardrobe is huge or extremely messy.

Nothing wrong with asking … just depends if they have the time before the next job.

Why not … surely you pay a cleaner to clean because you and your family can’t be bothered to do it?!?

Sounds like someone a bit jealous. If OP can afford to pay for the help, then why not. Extra money in someone else’s pocket too.

I really hate tidying and cleaning! I work my butt off at a stressful job, shop, clean, kids...cleaning and constant tidying is something i'm willing to spend my hard earned cash on

My cleaner is specifically told not to clean my step-sons room if it's not tidy. The same applied to my own children when they lived at home. If the children wanted their rooms cleaned, they needed to make sure the rooms were tidy enough for the cleaner - no floor-drobes, no crockery and glasses laying around etc.

My cleaner, who I value highly, is employed to clean, not to tidy up after lazy teens. To do otherwise teaches young people nothing.

Cleaning is not the same as tidying, though I know they often mean the same across the pond. Here they usually mean different things. Rooms may have to be tidied, before they can be properly cleaned.

I don't think it'd be rude to ask your cleaners to deal with your daughter's room, but whether you should,is a different matter.
How would your daughter feel about strangers going into her bedroom? If I were you,I'd continue to keep the door closed unless it gets to the point of being unhygienic; your DD will either get fed up with the mess and tidy up herself, or you may have to acknowledge and accept that she doesn't have the standards as you do

Far too precious for such menial tasks!!

As long as you offer to pay for any additional time it may take, it’s absolutely fine to ask a cleaner to tidy as well as clean.