Would it be rude to ask cleaner to tidy Dd's room

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I usually keep on top of it and to be fair, she usually doesn't make much mess, but over the holidays with her being at home and having friends over, I've just sort of left it.
So much of the house was messy that I do daily, so I shut the door and don't want to look at it 😂
i'm a really tidy person so it stresses me out.
Cleaners are due on Friday, they always do a big clean of the whole house for four hours. I also leave it exceptionally tidy.
Would they be offended if I asked them if they could poseibly tidy Dd's room and wardrobe (she seems to have got every item of clothing out, it's a pain)
Obviously this would be extra time on top of the cleaning and obviously I would pay more

I'm not sure why you wouldn't ask your DD to do this. Will she want a cleaner in her room?

We have had a cleaner since my kids we the same age as yours and I specifically told them the kids rooms were not to be touched as they were old enough to keep their own rooms tidy. Still the same rule and they are uni age, until they can afford to pay for a cleaner they need to do themselves. Good life lesson for them.

I would never do this. What does it teach your kid?
I wouldn’t leave your daughter to it, as chances are she wouldn’t do it right. But you’d better believe she’d be helping me to put it right!

How much stuff does a 7 year old have that the room has got so untidy over the course of a month? If they don't have storage boxes and place to put things then address that first (whoever ends up tidying). If they have places to put things, then realistically I can't see how tidying the room is going to take more than 30 minutes. Do it together with your daughter and make it a fun activity. Then institute a 5 minutes tidy up before bedtime so it doesn't get like that again.

It teaches her that when she’s an adult, if she works hard and earns enough money then she can choose to pay for someone else to clean her child’s bedroom too!

I never get the ‘cleaners don’t tidy’ thing- I’ve never had a cleaner, but always assumed they were there to help because things had gotten out of control/ you couldn’t get things done it. It seems insane now that people assume only clean houses should have cleaners!!!

Saying that I think two things that people are saying are the issue here-
1- I think if you explain to your dd that it’s a one off to get things under control (as long as the cleaner is on board) then it’s covering her assuming she can always be bailed out
2- it’s unfair to expect her to be able ti clean ti your standards. One she may not be able to and two she won’t have the experience and speed you will

I am a cleaner and a mother and what I advise is exactly what you say at her age. Get her to tidy the room to her standard, and then ask the cleaner to top up.

I do fully clean some teens rooms but that is because I am paid to and their parents don't expect more of them. However, sometimes the teen or their parent will raise this with me assuming I do the same for my own teenage son and I set them straight. They then assume my son doesnt have the same workload as their teen but again, he does.

This usually motivates them to do a bit more and get to at least where your 7 year old is at.

It's not that we don't tidy, it's just that if you have a limited budget and have too much tidying, we won't have the time to clean. But it depends on your priorities. I've had parents say to leave their room and prioritise the kids instead.

That's great, thank you, I thought that might be a good way of 'Her' tidying it (Dd) but cleaner properly tidying it afterwards

you can ask but i would rather they spend their time cleaning, not tidying

surely this massively eats into their
time. Would rather they blitz the kitchen and bathroom

Why would the cleaner be offended if you were paying them? Surely they'd just be glad of the extra work, no?

I was a cleaner (private) and used to put all bits and pieces, clothes (not dirty) on the bed for the occupier to put away correctly. A 7yo would have difficulty with cupboards and wardrobe tidying.

Teach your kid to tidy up I can't believe a cleaner agreed to that. the laziness is astounding

Why wouldn’t they agree to it? They’re not being asked to do it for free! If I was a cleaner I’d probably rather tidy a bedroom than scrub a toilet.

I’d text the cleaner and ask if she could add on an hour to tidy. She can say no if she’s busy

They do that normally, this would be as extra on top

Why dont you just help your daughter to do it. A lesson in keeping things tidy.
Few hours max I did DS of same age room.
Any clothes and bedding in wash
Wardrobe emptied, sorted and clothes hung or bagged to be taken to charity.
All toys in relevant boxes/storage.
Bed made and room hoovered, skirting boards washed and furniture polished.

I wouldn't expect a cleaner to do the above.

She’s not expecting them to do it. She’s asking if they will do it, for extra money, in order to make her life a bit easier. The same reason lots of us pay people to do the jobs we don’t want to do.

They are paid to clean not tidy

Because they're there to clean and are not housekeepers?

A chambermaid in a hotel tidies and cleans

I still don’t get what is so demeaning about tidying

I think it’s more demeaning to clean a loo

There's nothing demeaning about it at all. People who are not cleaners mistake why cleaners try to keep a balance between cleaning and tidying - it is all about budget/time limitations. It is not to do with pride or job description.

i think at 7 your dd needs to learn to tidy up after herself, or with you together

That's why OP said she will get her daughter to clean first. Bear in mind, she's 7.

Tell your daughter to tidy things away otherwise her clothes will bethrown out. No doubt she will spend time sorting the room. It is good preparation for when she goes away to college.