AIBU to feel second choice when my mother spends Christmas with her husband?

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My mums husband is muslim so didn't celebrate Christmas at all until he met her. Now he partakes in celebrations but doesn't believe in the meaning behind it.

Every Christmas he works 6am to 6pm and so is out until 7pm but my mum refuses to come to me for christmas because he will be on his own 7pm to 10pm (bedtime). This means I am on my own at my house each year, no other family and can't travel to her as I have pets and the distance is far. She has said she will be round to stay for new year. I found out this is because her husband is away back home during this time.

Aibu to think she puts her husband first and I am merely second choice?

Are they adults?

Most of us prioritise our children over our spouse when they are actual children but then they are adults and have homes and lives of their own things change.

If your husband would leave you alone on Christmas Day to go to your adult child’s house knowing you could not go as well because he puts them before you then I don’t see that as a good thing really.

But Christmas means something to her mum, and her mum wants to be with her husband to enjoy it. OP isn't the only real character in this play.