My wedding, AIBU?

[JustPearlLurker]

Hi there!
Long time lurker, first time poster! I am engaged and am super excited! Wedding is booked for next year and I couldnt be happier! I am a bit confused and would like to know if this is a thing and I am just out of touch. Wedding date is confirmed and it is the day of a friends husbands birthday. The friend in question has asked if I can get the people making my wedding cake to do a special cake just for his husband since it’s his big day and it will be missed otherwise by the wedding! My gut quite frankly is fuck off, he can have his special forty something birthday the day before or after our bloody wedding! Would appreciate some thoughts.
Many thanks

That is utterly bonkers. He's not a child. Birthdays aren't a big deal to me - I celebrate them but I wouldn't expect someone to give a shit about it if it was their wedding day!

Don’t forget to contact your friend next year before her man child’s birthday and ask her to supply a separate cake to celebrate your first wedding anniversary 😆

Hi Friend. Sorry that won't be possible, perhaps he could celebrate on a different day this year, though I completely understand if he doesn't want to do that and you guys can't make it to the wedding.
Sincerely, Notabridezilla

I got married on my own birthday and didn’t even arrange a birthday cake for myself 🤣

yanbu. I assume she’s expecting you to pay for it? Absolutely not.

You're not being a bridezilla AT ALL. What your friend is suggesting is the absolute height of naff!!

I'd be so embarrassed if I was her DH unless he is as much of a child as she's making him out to be.

Pathetic!!!

Thanks for all the responses, it’s a big group of buds so I didn’t feel able to say anything to anyone in the group because it gets back to people/makes people uneasy etc! The other thing is while I can laugh at it because it is a bloody strange request, I am also a bit hurt, he’s a close friend, I was fully part of his wedding, engagement party, stag dos (more than one) have shown interest and tried to be helpful ( at times there was some serious eye rolling from me, he is fairly high maintenance) but he’s a good friend and I was happy, same courtesy doesn’t feel like it’s being extended!

@JustPearlLurker

No….no…..& fuck, no!!!

Absolutely not. Cheeky twats. Tell her you assume she’s joking & do not cave!! If she’s that bothered about her husband’s birthday then maybe she can stay home & celebrate that instead of coming to YOUR special day!!!!!!!

Is the husband a three-year-old? They're weird and definitely CFs.

'No' is the only answer you need.

Wow! 😆

You really can't be serious?

It was a CF request and not the done thing
The wedding cake can be expensive and is cut by the pair of you
Asking the caterer to make another tier/birthday cake on top is a massive imposition and expense
However if she is a v.close friend any of the following gestures are a decent compromise

1. Helium happy birthday balloon tied to his chair/happy birthday placename or card at his table
2. Whoever does the thanks all for coming bit could mention it e.g. especially Barry, who's 44 today, happy birthday Barry (cheer, move on)
3. Wedding DJ plays Stevie Wonder or Altered Images in his set
4. Evening reception separate buffet/hog/supper pending your arrangements, you have a Tesco choc birthday cake then
5. You ask the caterer, give your friend the cost and she pays for it

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