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AIBU to question Reform's plan to prioritise married couples for social housing?

317 replies

QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 14:01

Reform have proposed to prioritise social housing for various groups : 'Rules would be changed to reserve at least half of all social homes in England for British-born workers aged under 35, with prioritisation also given to married couples, veterans, victims of domestic violence and care leavers.'

I agree with DV victims, those with children, care leavers : veterans are also at high risk of homelessness. But why prioritise married couples over single people? I'm not convinced that's fair. I assume it's to encourage marriage which is a good aim but I'm not convinced if this is the right decision.

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mishmashmess · 24/08/2026 17:34

It is a load of cobblers. But then again, they are being influenced by James Orr, who has US evangelicals pulling his strings alongside sweaty ham faced billionaire Peter Thiel, who's a pro-natalist, obsessed with making women parp out as many babies as possible, whether these are wanted or not. But hey, our role in life as women is just to be a vessel, isn't it, and never mind any other ambitions we might have.

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:34

Mountainpika · 24/08/2026 17:27

Why should couples have to go through some sort of formal ceremony approved by the state? It's no-one else's business if they want to live together. Nothing to do with the state (or the church). Some chose to have a ceremony of some sort, others don't. entirely their choice. If they don't want a formal marriage, they can still make wills etc. to cover future situations.

They shouldn’t have to, however if they want their relationship to be recognised by the state in other ways it’s sort of part of the deal, no?

Somersetbaker · 24/08/2026 17:36

They could make a start on the housing problem by making Farage give up 4 of the 5 properties he owns. Perhaps he could live in Clacton.

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:37

So a disabled adult being housed by the council? Not sure how that’s disproving my point.
Disabled adults already receive additional appoints when trying to claim housing vs an able bodied single adult, and rightly so. That doesn’t mean an able bodied single adult “deserves” to be housed in a 2 bedroom at the expense of the council.

Bringemout · 24/08/2026 17:37

How would people prioritise? However you do it someone is going to be aggrieved .

Livelovebehappy · 24/08/2026 17:37

Mountainpika · 24/08/2026 14:55

What about unmarried couples? Or doesn't Reform count them as equal to married couples?

I would say, as is frequently pointed out on MN, that if you intend to have children, it’s always advisable to get married to protect your rights should you ever separate.

saraclara · 24/08/2026 17:38

Winter2020 · 24/08/2026 16:48

I think the point with veterans is that their homelessness can stem from difficulty reintegrating into civilian life and trauma/PTSD/ physical injury from their service to their country so we have a duty to look after them.

Veterans already get priority over almost everyone. The homeless ones on the street have problems that prevent them settling into a secure home. It's all very sad, but it's also very difficult to help them.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:38

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:34

They shouldn’t have to, however if they want their relationship to be recognised by the state in other ways it’s sort of part of the deal, no?

www.theguardian.com/law/2017/nov/28/unmarried-woman-wins-legal-battle-over-bereavement-damages

Anarchy99 · 24/08/2026 17:39

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 14:07

It’s tosh- said people never get near the social housing register as in areas of high demand it will almost exclusively be people with disabilities, vulnerabilities and multiple children who willl secure social housing in the first please. In areas of London no one else has got near the top of the list in a decade.

they don’t even mention children- so we’d have a single mum of 4 in a hostel whilst a married couple take priority over the children?! Who would want to live in that world

They said on the lunchtime news that it was married couples with children - Reform want everyone to have lots of kids anyway

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:40

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:37

So a disabled adult being housed by the council? Not sure how that’s disproving my point.
Disabled adults already receive additional appoints when trying to claim housing vs an able bodied single adult, and rightly so. That doesn’t mean an able bodied single adult “deserves” to be housed in a 2 bedroom at the expense of the council.

he needs adaptations which have been refused. and its not bloody subsidised.

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:41

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:40

he needs adaptations which have been refused. and its not bloody subsidised.

Of course council housing is subsidised, otherwise everyone in them would rent privately. What a ridiculous claim.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:41

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:34

They shouldn’t have to, however if they want their relationship to be recognised by the state in other ways it’s sort of part of the deal, no?

Well it seems to be recognised by the state when it comes to council tax JSA Universal Credit. but im sure you didnt mean to be hypocritical

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:44

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:41

Of course council housing is subsidised, otherwise everyone in them would rent privately. What a ridiculous claim.

Well thats part of being in a society isnt it. Child free ppl subsidise parents People with big careers get subsidised by care workers on minimum wage caring for their elderly relatives so their career isnt disturbed. then theres childcare

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 24/08/2026 17:46

It seems strange that Nigel Farage is not announcing this considering his massive win the other week. Come to think of it I have not seen him do an interview since the by-election. Where is he??

Anarchy99 · 24/08/2026 17:49

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:44

Well thats part of being in a society isnt it. Child free ppl subsidise parents People with big careers get subsidised by care workers on minimum wage caring for their elderly relatives so their career isnt disturbed. then theres childcare

Sadly it is.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:50

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:44

Well thats part of being in a society isnt it. Child free ppl subsidise parents People with big careers get subsidised by care workers on minimum wage caring for their elderly relatives so their career isnt disturbed. then theres childcare

Then those same care workers get vilified for living in social housing told its subsidised and that they should be grateful

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:51

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:44

Well thats part of being in a society isnt it. Child free ppl subsidise parents People with big careers get subsidised by care workers on minimum wage caring for their elderly relatives so their career isnt disturbed. then theres childcare

You’re the one who claimed it wasn’t subsidised.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:52

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:51

You’re the one who claimed it wasn’t subsidised.

Do you have a cleaner? do you pay her enough so that she can buy her own property

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 17:57

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 17:52

Do you have a cleaner? do you pay her enough so that she can buy her own property

No I don’t have a cleaner. What’s your point? Are you going to try to claim it’s some moral failing that I won’t hire a cleaner so they can buy a house?

Rubydobydo · 24/08/2026 17:59

I’m in my late 60s and when I was a child many people, especially widowed women, took in lodgers. Paid the bills, people had a cooked meal to come home too, and was company for all.
Now people often live alone. One space, one person.
I was in a smallish Wiltshire town today, which had a noticeable amount of above shop property empty. Imagine is there was some encouragement to make this housing.
There used to be police houses, nurses homes, hotel staff living in….
there world wouldn’t be so difficult to change.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 18:00

Perhaps childcare should double in costs so child minders can afford to buy a good property.

See how bringing up subsidies was a gotcha But not in the direction you thought it would be @Midnightmoonface

TheFairyCaravan · 24/08/2026 18:01

DH is a veteran, The military covenant is already in place so, theoretically, they take priority on the social housing list. I disagree with it as a general rule.

When you leave the forces, after a full career, (I’m not sure when it kicks in) you get a tax free, lump sum of three times your annual pension. Whenever they attend housing briefs in their final years they’re told they should be thinking about using that rather than running straight to the council.

I know one family, who lived in service families accommodation for his whole career but didn’t save a penny. Instead they had 12 children. When it came to him leaving they couldn’t get a mortgage, obviously, she didn’t work, so they went to the council. They did get given a 6 bed house, not in the area she wanted, but she had no choice to take it. It was that or be made homeless. He has a very low paying job, now, she still doesn’t work, but they want to move back “home” to where their parents live. They can’t afford a private rent or a mortgage so he’s been to the new council expecting them to use the military covenant, again, and push him up the list. Every single week he moans he hasn’t been given another house and it’s not fair. It literally boils my blood. Meanwhile he was given around £45k around 3yrs ago which they pissed up the wall.

So many people think that veterans are chucked out of the military on their last day, completely penniless without any help at all but it’s really not like that.

Winter2020 · 24/08/2026 18:02

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/08/2026 17:29

Paramedics have higher rates of PTSD . Coroners. Frontline healthcare. All higher. They also serve us. I'd argue in a way that affects us all day-to-day. Nurses have high rates of occupational injury. As do care workers.

It would be far better to have decent PTSD treatment and disability provision for everyone. Rather than specifying armed forces.

Personally I agree with the policy to prioritise veterans. Not many legal jobs you go to accepting that you might not come home, or come home with serious physical disability. Not many jobs I'd less like my child to sign up for as a mother. I agree all those other occupations are admirable/dangerous too though.

BermudaRhombus · 24/08/2026 18:03

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 24/08/2026 17:46

It seems strange that Nigel Farage is not announcing this considering his massive win the other week. Come to think of it I have not seen him do an interview since the by-election. Where is he??

There’s something going on with Farage. Didn’t he have an operation recently? Perhaps he is still recovering. Their difficulty is that Reform is still a one man show. It’s game over for them if Farage quits.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 18:06

TheFairyCaravan · 24/08/2026 18:01

DH is a veteran, The military covenant is already in place so, theoretically, they take priority on the social housing list. I disagree with it as a general rule.

When you leave the forces, after a full career, (I’m not sure when it kicks in) you get a tax free, lump sum of three times your annual pension. Whenever they attend housing briefs in their final years they’re told they should be thinking about using that rather than running straight to the council.

I know one family, who lived in service families accommodation for his whole career but didn’t save a penny. Instead they had 12 children. When it came to him leaving they couldn’t get a mortgage, obviously, she didn’t work, so they went to the council. They did get given a 6 bed house, not in the area she wanted, but she had no choice to take it. It was that or be made homeless. He has a very low paying job, now, she still doesn’t work, but they want to move back “home” to where their parents live. They can’t afford a private rent or a mortgage so he’s been to the new council expecting them to use the military covenant, again, and push him up the list. Every single week he moans he hasn’t been given another house and it’s not fair. It literally boils my blood. Meanwhile he was given around £45k around 3yrs ago which they pissed up the wall.

So many people think that veterans are chucked out of the military on their last day, completely penniless without any help at all but it’s really not like that.

I did not know this @TheFairyCaravan

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