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AIBU to question Reform's plan to prioritise married couples for social housing?

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QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 14:01

Reform have proposed to prioritise social housing for various groups : 'Rules would be changed to reserve at least half of all social homes in England for British-born workers aged under 35, with prioritisation also given to married couples, veterans, victims of domestic violence and care leavers.'

I agree with DV victims, those with children, care leavers : veterans are also at high risk of homelessness. But why prioritise married couples over single people? I'm not convinced that's fair. I assume it's to encourage marriage which is a good aim but I'm not convinced if this is the right decision.

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friedaklein · 24/08/2026 15:42

Dweetfidilove · 24/08/2026 15:17

Statistically, British Asians sit at the top of the marriage pole, so this may cause a bigger problem than the one he's pretending to fix, no 🤔.

Mixed and black ethnic groups also have the highest reported rates of domestic violence, so again...

Is there a large number of homeless veterans and care leavers or is that a myth?

Either way, I'm sure his supporters will be okay with him 'giving away more of their homes'. Excellent 'will never happen' housing policy 👏🏾.

That would be fun. All the decently married British Asians getting social housing.
But probably they will find a way to exclude them. Housing only for people tracing their last 3 generations in the UK, maybe.

Mycatisreal · 24/08/2026 16:02

BlueSlate · 24/08/2026 14:11

I'm not convinced that's fair

Well of course not. It's Reform. They're very good at taking an issue of public interest (uncontrolled undocumented illegally arriving migrants; high welfare bill; lack of social housing; youth unemployment) winding people up with absurd claims and then proposing 'policies' that are largely unworkable and 'unfair'.

YABU for expecting any different.

Yep. Just the usual populist sound bites. They have no real policies just goady ramblings. Take no notice.

dustabsorber · 24/08/2026 16:07

Perhaps they want to sell off the social housing and need tenants who could afford to buy

Mountainpika · 24/08/2026 16:08

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 14:57

No because they’re pretend / wannabe MAGa Jesus loves married people don’t live in sin types

Now why doesn't that surprise me,

T1mTum · 24/08/2026 16:13

Meadowfinch · 24/08/2026 15:36

Social housing provision already prioritises children, so no change there.

I suppose married couples, on average, stay together longer, so less work when houses are allocated to them, which also creates more stable communities. It encourages marriage which is supposed to create a better environment for children. Maybe not such a daft idea.

As a single mum and product of an abusive father who was married to my mother, I rejected that life model decades ago and have raised a polite decent, well educated son in a house I bought by myself with no help from anyone.

But I guess policy needs to be based on statistics rather than anecdotes.

So they’re only going to prioritise married couples not unmarried couples. That's outrageous. Who are they to dictate what people do?

Witchergeralt · 24/08/2026 16:13

IMHO Reform are in gaga land. Would you believe a word Farage or Tice said after they're both under investigation by parliamentary standards? They seem to think there actually are houses to allocate in the first place!

aliasfrog · 24/08/2026 16:18

Obviously it's because they hate women, yet again. The quiet part they won't say is that they don't want single mothers to be housed in social housing. Anyone who thinks reform will be any good for women is delusional.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 16:20

aliasfrog · 24/08/2026 16:18

Obviously it's because they hate women, yet again. The quiet part they won't say is that they don't want single mothers to be housed in social housing. Anyone who thinks reform will be any good for women is delusional.

Or single women without kids.

Maddy70 · 24/08/2026 16:26

Why veterans ? They have big forces pensions

aliasfrog · 24/08/2026 16:27

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 16:20

Or single women without kids.

Quite. They likely hate single women without kids much more than they do single women with kids.

QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:35

Meadowfinch · 24/08/2026 15:36

Social housing provision already prioritises children, so no change there.

I suppose married couples, on average, stay together longer, so less work when houses are allocated to them, which also creates more stable communities. It encourages marriage which is supposed to create a better environment for children. Maybe not such a daft idea.

As a single mum and product of an abusive father who was married to my mother, I rejected that life model decades ago and have raised a polite decent, well educated son in a house I bought by myself with no help from anyone.

But I guess policy needs to be based on statistics rather than anecdotes.

Yes, I can see reasons to do it but I still feel uncomfortable. I wholly believe that children should be prioritised and care leavers, but I'm not sure being married should mean people should wait shorter. Unsure re veterans either if, as pp said, they are not actually at more risk overall.

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QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:36

Maddy70 · 24/08/2026 16:26

Why veterans ? They have big forces pensions

Yes, I'd like to know more about this. Maybe veterans should be prioritised but I'm not fully convinced.

Probably Reform is trying to motivate people to join the army?

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QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:38

T1mTum · 24/08/2026 16:13

So they’re only going to prioritise married couples not unmarried couples. That's outrageous. Who are they to dictate what people do?

I wonder also where civil partnerships fit in.

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Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 16:38

Mountainpika · 24/08/2026 14:55

What about unmarried couples? Or doesn't Reform count them as equal to married couples?

Why would the state recognise a relationship when the couple have chosen to leave the state out of their relationship by not marrying or entering into a civil partnership?

BlueDillieDillie · 24/08/2026 16:41

I take this as an opening bid. At least they have said something that might improve the way of life for working people not the benefit claiming experts.
It will have to be modified in the two years before the next Gen Election.
The final plan that goes into their manifesto will be so different it is pointless getting in a froth about it now.

QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:41

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/08/2026 15:09

veterans are also at high risk of homelessness

They aren't. Everyone extrapolates from US data and philosophy and runs with it. Even the US has mostly put into place measures for dealing with their issue. If you correct for sex and age, veterans aren't more likely to be homeless in the UK.

As for prioritising married couples, as someone who has worked in social housing, fuck that. Fuck that all the way.

DV yes. But also single men. Because the way you stop a lot of DV is to house hobosexual violent men. So they don't glom onto single mums for housing.

Thanks,, this is important info. I hadn't realised this about veterans. If they are not more likely to be homeless then I don't think they should be prioritised. I agree US data can also confuse things.
Good point also re violent men trying to get houses through single women with kids.

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T1mTum · 24/08/2026 16:41

They’ve also said they’d bring back right to buy of the little social housing stock we have. They’re are absolutely useless.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 16:44

aliasfrog · 24/08/2026 16:27

Quite. They likely hate single women without kids much more than they do single women with kids.

They arent the only ones

x2boys · 24/08/2026 16:46

I thought it was working couples with young families over single unemployed people.

Minasama · 24/08/2026 16:46

Wow, that’s interesting.

As far as I can tell, there has been an almost total breakdown of marriage outside wealthy, educated people who married late.
The state then picks up the bill in a lot of cases and the system so far has incentivised separate living in some cases.,

So any societal nudges back in the direction of stable two-parent families seems like a good idea. I guess the point here is that if there are two of you together and you still can’t earn enough, you must really be in dire straits.

I would love to see some proper analysis on the projections and thinking here though. I do think it’s just so
sad how many of my daughters’ friends have no dads. Something surely has to give.

Winter2020 · 24/08/2026 16:48

I think the point with veterans is that their homelessness can stem from difficulty reintegrating into civilian life and trauma/PTSD/ physical injury from their service to their country so we have a duty to look after them.

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 16:50

QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:41

Thanks,, this is important info. I hadn't realised this about veterans. If they are not more likely to be homeless then I don't think they should be prioritised. I agree US data can also confuse things.
Good point also re violent men trying to get houses through single women with kids.

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All that does is flip reverse it Desperate single women without kids may be tempted to move in with a man they have only been dating for five mins cos women without kids are such low priority.

See also the sex for rent scandal from a couple of years back

XenoBitch · 24/08/2026 16:51

The demand for social housing where I live is so great, it is means tested. A couple with a joint of income of £40k wont be eligible... so even a couple, married or not, both in FT NMW work would not get a look in anyway.

Midnightmoonface · 24/08/2026 16:52

JenniferBooth · 24/08/2026 16:50

All that does is flip reverse it Desperate single women without kids may be tempted to move in with a man they have only been dating for five mins cos women without kids are such low priority.

See also the sex for rent scandal from a couple of years back

Is there any actual evidence that single women with children would be lower down on the list than married couples though?

QueenSophia · 24/08/2026 16:52

Minasama · 24/08/2026 16:46

Wow, that’s interesting.

As far as I can tell, there has been an almost total breakdown of marriage outside wealthy, educated people who married late.
The state then picks up the bill in a lot of cases and the system so far has incentivised separate living in some cases.,

So any societal nudges back in the direction of stable two-parent families seems like a good idea. I guess the point here is that if there are two of you together and you still can’t earn enough, you must really be in dire straits.

I would love to see some proper analysis on the projections and thinking here though. I do think it’s just so
sad how many of my daughters’ friends have no dads. Something surely has to give.

'. I do think it’s just so sad how many of my daughters’ friends have no dads. '

  • this is really sad. I definitely think something needs to be done : I'm just not convinced prioritising married couples for social housing is it.

Can I ask : what are the main reasons (I understand you may not know) why your daughter's friends' dads are absent? Because they are uninterested? Feel they would be worse off financially if they committed? The mothers didn't want to commit? Other reasons?

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