Rise in male posters…

[loverrrr]

Ive been on mumsnet about 6 years now & over the last 6 months or so Ive really noticed a massive rise in male posters, or at least posters who call out that they are male.
Has anyone else noticed this & does anyone have an opinion to discuss?
My opinion is probably that I would prefer this to be a female only site & I usually skip over any posters or responses that are obviously male. I understand I dont own the site though, and anyone is free to post!

Gosh busy morning you're having on here....

I'm sick in bed. Shitting every half hour. Not much else to do.

bisous

this.

Saying Mumsnet is a clique is abit like saying Facebook is a clique. It’s a forum containing hundreds of thousands, if not millions of people. Who all have very different opinions, interactions, backgrounds.

Anyway you emphasised my point perfectly 😂

Yes, there's a definite rise in male posters starting threads about their unreasonable wives and partners. It's come from somewhere.

It's not a designated female only place and we'd have to give up our anonymity if we wanted to try to make it one, so it's all within rules and so on. And on the one hand I don't have an issue with men also wanting to participate in a parenting/lifestyle forum (it's not mine to decide anyway) and I know some male posters who just post like normal people and all that.

It does feel like there's been some kind of organised campaign somewhere though, and unfortunately men do seem to take over spaces when they enter them so I'm unsure what this means long term. We also definitely have a cohort of MRAs pretending to be women.

There are a couple of newish male posters I can think of who have been abandoned by their wives to be single parents, a very common theme among women on here, but they have no interest in seeking advice, support or solidarity; their sole MO is to use their backgrounds (assuming they're true, of course) to state that women are just as bad as men, men are such victims, and on occasion to attack other posters with misogynistic slurs.

Apologies to the ones who I know aren't like this, but it really does feel that many of them are only really here to complain about it being female oriented and accuse it of moral degeneracy because it reflects its demographic and isn't perfectly just in all things. Like the wonderfully egalitarian Reddit and manosphere, you know...

It’s a parenting forum, not a woman only one. YABU

I think it was originally intended as a purely parenting website, but it's grown way beyond just that over the years. But once you have a brand, you stick with it.

How long was Carphone Warehouse going for, long after having a massive heavy phone that lives permanently in your car was a thing? How many years were Radio Rentals trading under that name when one of the few things that nobody needed to rent anymore was radios?! Poundland sells a lot of stuff for more than £1 now. This one may be niche, but a new version of Eurovision has started for Asian countries - but they've still called it 'Eurovision Asia' rather than 'Asiavision', because that's the enduring brand that everybody has firmly in their minds.

Agree mumsnet should be a big enough clue, does that tell you something about males?

I think it was originally intended as a purely parenting website, but it's grown way beyond just that over the years. But once you have a brand, you stick with it.

How long was Carphone Warehouse going for, after having a massive heavy phone that lives permanently in your car hadn't been a thing for decades? How many years were Radio Rentals still trading under that name when one of the few things that nobody needed to rent anymore was radios?! Poundland sells a lot of stuff for more than £1 now. This one may be niche, but a new version of Eurovision has started for Asian countries - but they've still called it 'Eurovision Asia' rather than 'Asiavision', because that's the enduring brand that everybody has firmly in their minds.

There is a childfree board here!

I joined because I originally came here as it came up in search results when looking for gynae advice, and then I got interested in some AIBU threads. I eventually created an account when I was laid up recovering from a hysterectomy and passing the time browsing the internet most of the time.

So I was never a member when children would have been a possibility for me

ETA re. men - my husband technically has an account but only because I set one up on his Google when my account wasn't working. He doesn't post but he does do the puzzles.

I joined because I googled a comedy thing and got drawn in. You don’t have to be a parent or aspiring parent to be on AIBU, relationship, tv addicts, various pet boards, holiday boards etc.

If you want a nurturing community of just mothers, then Netmums always used to be the place.

I wish they’d stay off the dating thread, we’ve had two incels and a mansplainer over the past few months.

Is that all? I'm pleasantly surprised.

Yeah @ThatCyanCat it’s not many, but enough to derail the conversation and for them to target a couple of posters making everyone feel uncomfortable. I especially don’t understand the incels, as if they dislike women so much, why turn to mumsnet for advice - which they then proceeded to try to discredit with their red pill arguments regurgitated from the internet.

Me too

Me too. I don't think they say it because they think their view is more important!
And sometimes I like to hear a man's viewpoint. Especially when the thread is discussing why a DH is acting the way he is...it's useful to see how men think!

TBF sometimes the men can't help giving themselves away. On another thread I've just seen a poster saying: "be careful before you take advice from single mothers and old spinsters."

I only realised today, that someone on a long running thread is male. No issues on that thread - quite the opposite infact.

Oh, that was so low effort and boring. He even called himself MotherNurse or something. I couldn't even be bothered to report it. Maybe by tomorrow he'll have fixed his girlfriend's puncture.