AIBU to object to sleeping on the sofa at 20 weeks?

[PrincessNads05]

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. My DH and I live in a 2 bedroom apartment, and plan to have some relatives stay over for one night. They’re a family of four with two children aged 10 and 15. I’m happy to have to them stay over, and we’ve been making arrangements to make them feel at home. Initially, we had decided to sleep in the guest bedroom (which is a little smaller) and ask the guests to stay the night in the master bedroom, which sounded like a good plan. Our couch is big enough to sleep one person comfortably, and we’ve also got a floor mattress to use in the living room. I was under the assumption that the visiting couple would stay in the master bedroom and the kids would take the living room, while we sleep in the guest room. AIBU for getting annoyed at the suggestion of my husband that we offer the guest room to the kids, and that I sleep on the couch if they agree? At 20 weeks pregnant, I’ve already started developing discomfort when sleeping and I’m just irked by the idea of my husband not considering my comfort over that of the guests. I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable, but does that mean I put my comfort aside? I don’t know if I’m wrong, but I need an outsider’s perspective. It is just one night, and I may be blowing things out of proportion. I haven’t voiced my concerns to my husband, because I don’t want to seem rude but it’s just internalised annoyance at the moment.

I think your husband is coming from a place of generosity, but no totally not unreasonable of you to want the proper bed. Kids in the living room sounds completely reasonable to me.

You should not give up your bed. Guests in the guest room. Children in the living room.

I would be ashamed to make a pregnant woman sleep on the sofa and take her bed! I would put the guests in the guest room and the kids in the living room.

Tbh I'd be expecting the guests to bunk in one room. With 1 or 2 on an airbed on the floor. Kids in the living room is hard as that means they're up until adults want to go to bed.
SSo2nd choice would be potentially kids in guest room. Adult guests in the living room.
Pregnant homeowner definitely gets a bed- your choice which one!

Often at 20weeks bumps are small and that can mean other people, especially men don't understand the physical strain you already feel.

Guests in a hotel.

I don't even understand why you're planning to swap to the guest room. Your guests don't seem to have mentioned it. The kids will be fine for one night on blow up mattresses etc.

Absolutely no to you being on the sofa at 20 weeks pregnant! As I guest, I would never allow my host to do that.

You aren't a guest in your own home @PrincessNads05, sleep in your own bed. Kids will be fine on floor and sofa.

What’s the point in having a guest room if guests aren’t allowed to use it? They don’t want to sleep in your bed.

Sleep in your own bed, the guest room is for guests tell him to stop being silly , you are pregnant and need your own bed

I agree. No reason to give up your room. Your guests must know you have limited space.

I'm not even pregnant and I wouldn't be giving up my own bed. The adult guests can take the spare room and the kids can sleep on the sofa and floor. If they don't like it, they don't have to sleep at yours. 'It's only one night' works both ways.

I probably wouldn’t mind sleeping on a couch at 20 weeks if that made the most sense logistically but I don’t see any reason why you would need to in these circumstances

Why would you give them your bed? I don't get it. They are a couple, you're a couple? Why move into the guest room yourselves and give them your bed? As a guest I would hate it if my hosts did that, so awkward. And of course the children should have the sofa and airbed! If it's not comfortable enough for the guests they can pay for a hotel!

Guests in the guest room, kids in the living room.

I would keep my room amd the guests could arrange themselves in the spare room and on the sofa.

Keep your own room with access to your stuff. I would be really uneasy staying in someone's room, and absolutely not if they were pregnant. Is he expecting you to sleep on the sofa after you've had the baby and his relatives invite themselves round?

You sleep in your own room and your guests have the guest room. Kids in the lounge. If you have to give up your bedroom you’ll be in and out of it all day getting clothes/brush/face cream, etc. I’d never expect someone to give up their bedroom for me, especially not a pregnant woman. Your DH should not be putting other people’s comforts ahead of his own wife’s.

Agree. Stay in your room and be comfortable. The visitors can use the guest room and the blow up beds where there is some room -maybe in the lounge or the floor of the guest room if there is room.

Definitely don't give up your room. They're guests... they sleep in the guestroom and in the lounge.

If just let them know in advance - "Hey, as you know we only have one guest room so we've arranged for the kids to bunk in the lounge on the couch and an airbed".

Tbh it's doubtful a 15yo will want to share a physical bed with a 10yo anyway.

Why are you not putting the guests in the GUEST room?! Kids on the sofa is also perfectly normal.

I don't see why this is even a conversation that needs to be had unless there is some backstory that it's DHs family who are demanding/difficult or whatever

I slept on the floor for the 9 months of pregnancy as the movement of my dh in bed used to make me vom (hyperemisis).

As others have said why would you have a guest room if that's not where your guests would sleep?

Also do these relatives actually want to squeeze into your house for the night? Wouldn't they rather have their own beds in a hotel?

Sleep in your own bedroom! I don’t understand why you’d give up your room for another couple unless the room was so big it could fit in their children in as well, which it clearly isn’t.

Keep your master bedroom, give the kids the guest bedroom and have the adults in the living room so you can still have an adult evening when the kids have gone to bed.

Unless they’re at the age now where you’ll all go to bed at the same time. Then it doesn’t matter who has the living room vs guest room.