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AIBU to object to sleeping on the sofa at 20 weeks?

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PrincessNads05 · 20/08/2026 00:43

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. My DH and I live in a 2 bedroom apartment, and plan to have some relatives stay over for one night. They’re a family of four with two children aged 10 and 15. I’m happy to have to them stay over, and we’ve been making arrangements to make them feel at home. Initially, we had decided to sleep in the guest bedroom (which is a little smaller) and ask the guests to stay the night in the master bedroom, which sounded like a good plan. Our couch is big enough to sleep one person comfortably, and we’ve also got a floor mattress to use in the living room. I was under the assumption that the visiting couple would stay in the master bedroom and the kids would take the living room, while we sleep in the guest room. AIBU for getting annoyed at the suggestion of my husband that we offer the guest room to the kids, and that I sleep on the couch if they agree? At 20 weeks pregnant, I’ve already started developing discomfort when sleeping and I’m just irked by the idea of my husband not considering my comfort over that of the guests. I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable, but does that mean I put my comfort aside? I don’t know if I’m wrong, but I need an outsider’s perspective. It is just one night, and I may be blowing things out of proportion. I haven’t voiced my concerns to my husband, because I don’t want to seem rude but it’s just internalised annoyance at the moment.

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Feelfreee · 20/08/2026 13:00

I wouldn’t even give up the master bedroom! The guests can share the guest room and the sofa. If they don’t like that then they can book a hotel.

Halafel · 20/08/2026 13:02

If the children are young with and earlier bedtime than the adults, they can't really have the living room.

For one night, I think. Dp's solution is what I'd do. For longer than that they'd be booking a hotel!

TheBayHorse · 20/08/2026 13:02

I wouldn't put the kids in the living room as you won't be able to use it when they've gone to bed. Put them on airbeds in the guest room.

Tuesdayschild50 · 20/08/2026 20:26

Kids ins the living room without a doubt he should voice that.. if i was a guest I would be mortified to take your room even if you wasn't 20 weeks pregnant .. surely he sees this .

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