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BBQ party tonight

157 replies

Grumpynan · Today 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

OP posts:
BitterTits · Today 09:27

The fact that you claim zero risk suggests that you don't understand risk.

sittingonabeach · Today 09:27

QuintadosMalvados · Today 09:23

Yeah. There's always going to be pearl clutching neighbours.

I think it would be OK from a safety perspective but who needs the hassle?

Plus some guests may be the anxious type.

Not worth it.

Pearl clutching neighbours! At a time when fires are spreading like ‘wildfire’ would you blame neighbours being worried

Those poor people in Stourbridge who lost their homes

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · Today 09:27

SinisterGreenMan · Today 09:23

Yes. Be sensible. Leave the fucking barbecue in the shed and cook indoors. FFS. 😡

Leave your bbq THE FUCK AT HOME 😡

😂😂

FreshAirandSunshine · Today 09:28

As a guest I’d be really uncomfortable attending a BBQ at the moment. Would be v relieved if host messaged to say there was a change of plan and food would be cooked indoors.

Sherararara · Today 09:28

A normal barbecue used sensibly is perfectly safe. Of course you can go ahead.

sittingonabeach · Today 09:28

MassiveOvaryaction · Today 09:19

I was nervous about dh lighting our (not gas, not disposable) barbecue a week ago, before the big fire started locally. We had the hosepipe close though and nowhere near wooden fences or the shed. I was relieved when it was out though.

If you're in a flagged/concrete back yard without wooden fences or dry vegetation then you'd probably be ok, otherwise I think you're better cooking indoors.

How many places don’t have dry vegetation at the moment

PinkHairbrushClub · Today 09:28

We had plans to BBQ tonight. Made a few weeks ago (optimists). We’ve flipped plans and I’m going out to get party food bits and pizzas and we’ll cook indoors and eat outside instead. We probably could safely cook outdoors because we have a large patio space but is it really worth risking it? I don’t think so. It only takes one flying ember on a breeze in the wrong direction.

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · Today 09:29

Ginmonkeyagain · Today 09:20

You have an oven I presume? A nice safe indoor electric oven? Use that.

Also what the actual fuck is wrong with people, it's been hotter than satan's jockstrap for the last few days and the air is like soup, why on earth would anyone want to be bent over burning coals for hours cooking?

Yes OP just have a nice salad. Maybe a packet of crisps.

Sereine · Today 09:29

We were going to have a barbecue this weekend but have changed over to cooking indoors. Even if it's safe, we reckoned that the smoke from the barbecue would freak out the neighbours, and they're entitled not to be terrified their house is about to burn down.

Muffsies · Today 09:29

Cook the food indoors, the food will probably turn out better and it will be easier for you anyway. BBQ food is so overrated.

If you have a BBQ the chance of you causing a fire is small, but what if a fire did start near to you and you unfairly get the blame? You also might end up really annoying your neighbours and falling out with them, it's not worth it. You know how judgy people like to take others down. The advice is no fires, just follow it, no one can critisize you if you cook the food indoors.

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:30

valadon68 · Today 09:24

It asked people not to do anything which could start a fire including but not limited to some common activities. Just because they didn't explicitly say you shouldn't leave cigarette ends in a dry field doesn't mean it's ok to do that. A BBQ involves a 'small flame', so...

The detailed guidance states that household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

Whaleandsnail6 · Today 09:31

I'd just cook indoors and eat outside.

HPP11 · Today 09:31

I question the intelligence of anyone asking this question. The vast majority of sensible people don't require advice from the government, a ban on disposable bbqs or a phone alert to understand that only a fool would light any form of naked flame - bbq, of any variety, bonfire, fire pit, brazier etc. Think, what might go wrong, what will your neighbours think of you.

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:32

SinisterGreenMan · Today 09:23

Yes. Be sensible. Leave the fucking barbecue in the shed and cook indoors. FFS. 😡

Just going on the government guidance which says household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

RhododendronFlowers · Today 09:33

sittingonabeach · Today 09:27

Pearl clutching neighbours! At a time when fires are spreading like ‘wildfire’ would you blame neighbours being worried

Those poor people in Stourbridge who lost their homes

I know, it must be absolutely devastating.
I really hate the term "pearl clutching" anyway. So stupid.

RhododendronFlowers · Today 09:34

HPP11 · Today 09:31

I question the intelligence of anyone asking this question. The vast majority of sensible people don't require advice from the government, a ban on disposable bbqs or a phone alert to understand that only a fool would light any form of naked flame - bbq, of any variety, bonfire, fire pit, brazier etc. Think, what might go wrong, what will your neighbours think of you.

This ⬆️. Everything is tinder dry, all it needs is a spark.

LoafofSellotape · Today 09:35

hamnish · Today 08:33

It’s been a long, hot week, full of shit news, and maybe I’m just tired, but for one weekend, can’t people just do what they’ve been asked to do, for the sake of the fire service and everyone around them?

People have been asked not to use a disposable bbq.

HoldMyWine · Today 09:36

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:32

Just going on the government guidance which says household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

Exactly, everyone is getting a bit hysterical here. We are having a bbq tomorrow using our gas one. Everyone needs to calm down.

Roaring111111 · Today 09:36

KnittingOnEmpty · Today 08:39

Didn't you get the alert? Why do you think it doesn't apply to you? Do not have a BBQ, disposable or not!

You might need to reread the alert!

LoafofSellotape · Today 09:37

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:32

Just going on the government guidance which says household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

Exactly. We'll be using one tonight,it's a gas one and the lid will be down and it's on patio ,not anywhere near anything dry.

ViciousCurrentBun · Today 09:37

Just cook it indoors, same people, same food, same drink.

Yoyokitten · Today 09:40

We've got a family 70th family birthday party tonight,and were planning a BBQ, everything planned.
We have changed it obviously....because we're not morons !!

Gizlotsmum · Today 09:40

If it is on hard standing away from anything flammable ( a good metre ) low wind and you keep the lid on as much as possible and ensure it is extinguished properly it should be fairly low risk. Disposable ones are more risk because they tend to be left in the ground and not put out properly

valadon68 · Today 09:40

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:30

The detailed guidance states that household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

From the last 24hrs? Happy to acknowledge what you're saying if true, but can't find this anywhere. Why would they issue guidance that conflicts with the alert?

GreaterCassowary · Today 09:41

NetZeroZealot · Today 09:30

The detailed guidance states that household barbecues should not be left unattended. Not that they shouldn’t be used.

Exactly this. Have people lost their minds? There is no ban on BBQs.