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BBQ party tonight

275 replies

Grumpynan · Today 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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Daskar · Today 11:27

KnittingOnEmpty · Today 08:39

Didn't you get the alert? Why do you think it doesn't apply to you? Do not have a BBQ, disposable or not!

The alert only mentioned disposable bbqs.

people virtue signalling to show who can comply with and follow the rules the most are very weird! Giving Covid mask monitors

just be sensible. Obviously don’t bbq on a very dry lawn, have extinguishers to hand etc

Cloudysky81 · Today 11:27

viques · Today 11:25

Congratulations. You get a 🏅for the most subtle boast post.

It’s only a silver, would have been a gold if you had pointed out that you could use the water from the swimming pool in the unlikely event of fire.😍

Our big green egg is actually next to the pool.

In the very unlikely event it erupts into an uncontrollable fire tonight, I'll push it into the pool. I hope that will satisfy the fire wardens on here.

Heronwatcher · Today 11:28

I think the risk is probably minimal but I wouldn’t take it myself.

The level of risk will also depend on how big your garden is and what it’s got in it at the moment. Even though charcoal has no naked flame I would worry that if the BBQ was tipped up, or some charcoal fell out and landed on the floor it might be incredibly difficult to stop a fire spreading at the moment in my own garden (which is dry as a bone). In Scotland last week though I probably would have been fine with it.

Anyahyacinth · Today 11:30

BlueMum16 · Today 10:58

This reminds me of COVID when people made up their own version of the rules.
The alert and news articles are about disposable BBQ. OP isn't using a disposable one

She's using a magical one with no heat or sparks

Heronwatcher · Today 11:30

Also depending on where you live you’ll
probably have neighbours knocking on the door and, at worst, calling the fire brigade which might spoil the party mood! We’ve had a few fires near me- we live very close to heathland- so we’re all on red alert at the moment.

Heronwatcher · Today 11:31

Honestly this once, could you not do some pulled pork in the oven or something?

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · Today 11:31

It takes a tiny bit of sparking on dry grass, bone dry fencing, bone dry trees to spread. The phrase ‘spreading like wildfire’ is a simile because nothing moves like it. You’d be mad.

Sherararara · Today 11:35

viques · Today 11:25

Congratulations. You get a 🏅for the most subtle boast post.

It’s only a silver, would have been a gold if you had pointed out that you could use the water from the swimming pool in the unlikely event of fire.😍

JFC. They have a bbq and pizza oven. Hardly unheard off.

Rpop · Today 11:35

Shmee1988 · Today 10:41

Have the damn bbq. Everyone saying not to is nuts. Straight after the alert our service 'Dorset Fire and Rescue' up dated all their socials with a message that basically said 'please do not call us to report someone having a controlled bbq. We do not have the power to intervene as tonights security message was a reminder of sensible behaviour surrounding fire'.
Bbqs are not banned. We had a bbq on the beach last night. A proper one not disposable. Beach security were happy enough and it was tended to by a group of responsible adults. Go ahead with the bbq. People are over reacting. If you were asking if you could use a disposable in the forest, then that would be different.

I just don’t trust the BBQ brigade to all act totally sensibly. En masse, if 10,000 people have garden bbqs at the moment, something somewhere could go badly wrong. As a collective, I think we have a duty of care to one another just to not bother having a bbq. I’m cancelling the one I was going to have tonight (even though it’s a large closed bbq and my husband always stays with it 100% of the time and we would have buckets of water and it’s even near our hose, and we’re really responsible people). However, as a collective we all need to pull together. Missing a burger is hardly a sacrifice. There was a lot of selfish behaviour in Covid which was theoretically ok, but common sense suggested the perpetrator was just a tad selfish.

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:35

I think the real question is whether you'd feel regretful if your house and entire street burned down because your husband was fussing on exactly how the food was cooked? Is it REALLY worth the risk? I can't believe people have to ask the internet for such simple life decisions

Sherararara · Today 11:36

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:35

I think the real question is whether you'd feel regretful if your house and entire street burned down because your husband was fussing on exactly how the food was cooked? Is it REALLY worth the risk? I can't believe people have to ask the internet for such simple life decisions

Jesus Christ.

Mintine · Today 11:36

SinisterGreenMan · Today 08:49

After seeing news footage of people's homes on fire, I wouldn't be lighting any kind of fire outside at the moment.

Even if your husband is OK with it, other people (your guests and neighbours, for example) definitely won't be.

No one will be able to relax properly while the barbecue is lit, so ignore your husband and cook indoors. I'm sure your guests will be relieved.

Have a lovely time with your family.

Totally agree with this, people shouldnt be lighting any kind of fire outside, kettle barbecue, or anything of the sort. Last night at least two of my neighbours had barbeques and it really was disconcerting, worrying if they were safe or not.

moonraker0 · Today 11:38

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:35

I think the real question is whether you'd feel regretful if your house and entire street burned down because your husband was fussing on exactly how the food was cooked? Is it REALLY worth the risk? I can't believe people have to ask the internet for such simple life decisions

The street could burn down by cooking inside. I think OP should starve for the foreseeable just to be extra safe.

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:39

moonraker0 · Today 11:38

The street could burn down by cooking inside. I think OP should starve for the foreseeable just to be extra safe.

You're absolutely right. It's definitely the same thing.

moonraker0 · Today 11:42

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:39

You're absolutely right. It's definitely the same thing.

Better to be safe and starve than sorry.

Tortephant · Today 11:42

Ablondiebutagoody · Today 08:42

I'm with dh. Disposable bbqs are the bigger issue because people just put them on the ground in the middle of nowhere and/or leave them when they go home because they're hot and they can't be arsed to deal with it. Something on legs on your patio will be fine. Have the hose or a bucket of water nearby if you are worried.

The alert states BBqs, Firepits not just disposable bbqs.

ignoring it will likely invalidate your insurance so don’t be an idiot

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · Today 11:43

BlueMum16 · Today 10:58

This reminds me of COVID when people made up their own version of the rules.
The alert and news articles are about disposable BBQ. OP isn't using a disposable one

The alert was about anything that might pose a fire risk SUCH AS disposable bbqs

Whosthetabbynow · Today 11:44

99victoria · Today 11:17

On the contrary - it's the alert that has caused all the issues because it was incorrectly sent out as an 'emergency' when it could have been sent as a public information text and it could have been more specific and given more guidance so that people didn't end up insulting each other like they are doing on this thread. They could have simply said 'do not have bbqs' but they didn't. So now everyone is getting hysterical - surely banning smoking would be the most effective way to stop wildfires!

Just heard on the radio that the Fire Service have had to put out a message asking people not to ring 999 to report their neighbours having bbqs!

The alert was necessitated by the selfish stupidity of people. I doubt they’ll take any notice anyway. “I’ll do what I like and fuck everyone else”. It’s lack of consideration for others that’s damaging this country; that and lack of common courtesy.

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · Today 11:46

Whosthetabbynow · Today 11:44

The alert was necessitated by the selfish stupidity of people. I doubt they’ll take any notice anyway. “I’ll do what I like and fuck everyone else”. It’s lack of consideration for others that’s damaging this country; that and lack of common courtesy.

This is it basically - any sensible person wouldn’t be having a bbq at the moment anyway

Bluehouse14 · Today 11:47

moonraker0 · Today 11:42

Better to be safe and starve than sorry.

Good luck to you.

viques · Today 11:48

Cloudysky81 · Today 11:27

Our big green egg is actually next to the pool.

In the very unlikely event it erupts into an uncontrollable fire tonight, I'll push it into the pool. I hope that will satisfy the fire wardens on here.

Excellent!

Sherararara · Today 11:50

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · Today 11:43

The alert was about anything that might pose a fire risk SUCH AS disposable bbqs

Yes exactly - if they considered normal BBQs a significant risk they would have included it explicitly. But they made a conscious decision not to. Even the fire services are stating only disposable BBQs and are now emergency call centres are being swamped by people like you calling in reporting their neighbours.

viques · Today 11:50

Sherararara · Today 11:35

JFC. They have a bbq and pizza oven. Hardly unheard off.

And an outdoor kitchen with stainless steel fittings.😎

Sherararara · Today 11:51

viques · Today 11:50

And an outdoor kitchen with stainless steel fittings.😎

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Well I’ve got one. Don’t you?

hoptart · Today 11:55

NotMajorTom · Today 11:26

You are part of the problem

I’m fine with you and all the other moral police on here thinking that. I can assure you it won’t be my BBQ starting a fire. As an actual sensible adult I’m well able to manage to safely operate a BBQ in hot and dry weather (as millions in Australia and elsewhere do every summer without issue).