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Bum out in Aldi

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 16:21

Just out shopping in Aldi today and a woman (older) and husband shopping, she had her bikini bottoms on and a sort of short cover up
top (not covering her bum)
Aibu to not really want to be near this whilst reaching for my cheese?

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LejlaKapovic · 11/08/2026 22:36

Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 16:21

Just out shopping in Aldi today and a woman (older) and husband shopping, she had her bikini bottoms on and a sort of short cover up
top (not covering her bum)
Aibu to not really want to be near this whilst reaching for my cheese?

I personally think it's really sad that it's become so accepted to dress-down and dress inappropriately for occasions. It's become so accepted to wear swimwear and gym wear outside the beach and gym, and if you dare to indicate that this type of dress isn't appropriate in public you'll be told to "stop looking", woman-shaming/body-shaming, being controlling, etc.

Unless people gauge their eyes out, they are forced to look at other people they encounter in public. Even one millisecond is a look. You can't seriously ask people to walk around with blindfolds on in public in order to appease those dressing wrongly. Just like I can't start robbing people and tell them, "well, the problem isn't that I rob you - the problem is that carry your belongings with you. You should stop do that, because I'm not going to stop robbing you, and it's controlling of you to try and stop me".

There's a time and a place for everything, including various types of dress - or undress. Would you think it's normal if your colleague turned up to work in a wedding gown and veil? Or in a clown costume?

I personally think we should demand more decorum of one another.

swimlyn · 11/08/2026 23:09

Hubster went to Janesburys yesterday, and when trying to find our favourite wine was terribly distracted. There were ladies of all ages there very scantily clad.

He couldn’t find what he was looking for, got embarrassed and ended up with a Semillon.

Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 23:10

Dilemma999 · 11/08/2026 22:20

It’s the fashion at the moment. Very teeny shorts that only cover half of your bum cheeks. Not very flattering for most and definitely look uncomfortable.

They weren’t even shorts, actual bikini bottoms

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 23:18

swimlyn · 11/08/2026 23:09

Hubster went to Janesburys yesterday, and when trying to find our favourite wine was terribly distracted. There were ladies of all ages there very scantily clad.

He couldn’t find what he was looking for, got embarrassed and ended up with a Semillon.

😂

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Cleo65 · 11/08/2026 23:24

I live by the sea, hate summer when everyone suddenly thinks it's perfectly acceptable to strut around the tiny supermarket in basically their undercrackers. It's unhygienic, mostly unsightly & something that just shouldn't happen.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/08/2026 02:00

Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 19:49

Me neither!

Maybe i’m just a massive prude (but don’t think I am?)
I would just feel really uncomfortable walking around a supermarket in my pants

Well was her bum out as in it was a thong bikini or out as in she had pants covering her bum but nothing covering the pants? It's no different arguably than walking alone the seafront like that

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 02:02

Thank god that where I live you're more likely to see bare feet in shops than bare bums.

outdooryone · 12/08/2026 07:50

OneMentalBastard · 11/08/2026 17:16

It's worse in farmfoods. They get their fannies out there.

Reminds me of an Iron Bru advert...

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BEAchDays2 · 12/08/2026 08:10

It’s giving ick that you only think people can be jealous of younger women and the way they look. Your internal misogyny is showing…

Notyouthful · 12/08/2026 08:23

I agree some women in this weather dress badly. Working in a supermarket I saw it all.

. Strapless tops or dresses with a completely different colour strapped bra
. Low cut tops with top of the bra (again different colour to top) poking through the top.
. Wearing bras like they are bikini tops. Mainly a teen girl thing. You can tell the difference between a bra and a bikini top.
. Wearing short shorts, dress or skirt and the tampon string hangs below. That is gross
. Backless dress with a strapped bra

Ohgiveoverwillyou · 12/08/2026 16:00

SleepingStandingUp · 12/08/2026 02:00

Well was her bum out as in it was a thong bikini or out as in she had pants covering her bum but nothing covering the pants? It's no different arguably than walking alone the seafront like that

Its very different walking along the seafront on the beach in your bikini bottoms, to pushing a trolley around a crowded Aldi and leaning over bending over to reach the ham and cheese, surely?!

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 12/08/2026 16:01

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 02:02

Thank god that where I live you're more likely to see bare feet in shops than bare bums.

Bare feet are nowhere near as bad

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 12/08/2026 16:03

BEAchDays2 · 12/08/2026 08:10

It’s giving ick that you only think people can be jealous of younger women and the way they look. Your internal misogyny is showing…

Edited

Oh jesus 🙄 ok didn’t want to be rude, not necessarily younger but with an amazing figure, the lady was average, as am I and absolutely nothing wrong with that! It’s not really about what type of butt, just a butt in your face

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 12/08/2026 16:04

BEAchDays2 · 12/08/2026 08:10

It’s giving ick that you only think people can be jealous of younger women and the way they look. Your internal misogyny is showing…

Edited

Also…’It’s giving ick….’ 😬

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Ohgiveoverwillyou · 12/08/2026 16:05

Notyouthful · 12/08/2026 08:23

I agree some women in this weather dress badly. Working in a supermarket I saw it all.

. Strapless tops or dresses with a completely different colour strapped bra
. Low cut tops with top of the bra (again different colour to top) poking through the top.
. Wearing bras like they are bikini tops. Mainly a teen girl thing. You can tell the difference between a bra and a bikini top.
. Wearing short shorts, dress or skirt and the tampon string hangs below. That is gross
. Backless dress with a strapped bra

The tampon string hangs below?!! 😮

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StarCourt · 12/08/2026 16:10

Port1aCastis · 11/08/2026 17:37

Well I suppose arse out in Aldi is marginally better than tits out in Tesco.

Or willies out in Waitrose

Boomer55 · 12/08/2026 16:13

Ohgiveoverwillyou · 11/08/2026 16:21

Just out shopping in Aldi today and a woman (older) and husband shopping, she had her bikini bottoms on and a sort of short cover up
top (not covering her bum)
Aibu to not really want to be near this whilst reaching for my cheese?

It’s really grim, but unless the shops enforce anything, you’re on a hiding to nothing.

HelenaWaiting · 12/08/2026 16:15

NeverDropYourMooncup · 11/08/2026 17:15

August is Bumsnet, September is OMGIt'sTheBiggestSpiderInTheWorldNet. The latter is twinned with IKnewSomebodyWhoThoughtItWasJustASpider-HerArmFellOffAndSheDiedNet.

Edited

When is "ICanFeedAFamilyOfFourForAWeekWithOneSmallChickenNet"? That's my favourite.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/08/2026 16:37

HelenaWaiting · 12/08/2026 16:15

When is "ICanFeedAFamilyOfFourForAWeekWithOneSmallChickenNet"? That's my favourite.

It's better than We'veLostSightOfAHealthyWeightNet. That's every Sunday just after tea.

Notyouthful · 12/08/2026 16:54

Today, a woman with a large bust, wore a dress which wasn’t adequate for her on top. Dropped her keys and on picking up them up, one of the boobs popped out!

lindyloo57 · 12/08/2026 18:47

I was in norwich city yesterday a woman couldn't tell her age only saw her fanny, she was bending down looking for something in her bag with her partner helping, I had to look away, it looked like she didn't have her pants on🤣

cityliving99 · 12/08/2026 20:02

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 02:02

Thank god that where I live you're more likely to see bare feet in shops than bare bums.

What if they need the bathroom?

TheAnnoyingSatsuma · 12/08/2026 21:09

canuckup · 11/08/2026 20:46

'wet togs'

We have one of those amongst us, people

@canuckup huh?

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