Would you judge a middle aged quiet couple playing cards in a pub rather than bigly conversing?

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We're mid Fifties, been married together forever.

We're playing cards in a hotel lobby which we always do when we're away. Always happily but we don't really chat much.

If you were sitting chattingin a couple or bubbly in a group across from us, would you judge?

I feel a bit self-conscious that we're don't look as though we're having a companionable time.

We go away 2 or 3 times a month to nice places but don't sit and chatter, just sit in lobbies and pubs in the evening and get cards or backgammon out.

Lynn, these are quiet people.

Aibu to feel jusged?

Id think ,don't see that often these days
And go about my own day.

Me too. My partner is lovely but no interest in card or board games whatsoever. I would love to play a game now or again.

We sit and read our kindles in companionable silence on holiday.

Absolutely not, half of the fun is playing cards in a bar on a night when you’ve been out for your tea and you’re just winding down with a beverage or two

Lynn, these are quiet people.

Gave me a little chuckle. You know I read this in an Alan partridge voice 😂

Who is Lynn?

No judgement at all, my DC (early twenties) say they often play cards at the pub with their friends

I’d be sneaking glances and trying to listen to work out what game you were playing

I 100% would not judge and I wonder if people wonder ( or judge )me and dh.
Sometimes when we are in a pub we will be on our phones not talking to each other but we have been up and out of the house since 7am, hiking for miles, having our sandwiches at a lovely view and chatted to each other for the whole day. If we get to a pub we are just chilling. He doesn't mind, I dont mind so theres no problem!

Lynn was Alan partridges long suffering pa.

I've voted YABU just because you are being unreasonable for giving a toss what anyone else does or doesn't think.

You go away 2 or 3 times a month?
Blimey don't you like your own house 😂

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I somewhat judge someone using the made up word 'bigly'. Only a little bit though. 'Littley'. 😂

The only behavior I would judge in pubs would be people shouting, allowing their children to run riot unsupervised, making prejudiced remarks, abusing other customers, spilling drinks or being sick.

Otherwise they can do as they please!

I wouldn't even notice. Honestly, no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.

Nobody pays much attention to middle aged couples, OP.

Ahhhh bliss. Has your husband got an equally boring brother at all? If so, can you give me his number please? At this stage in life, that’s all I want.

Honestly, OP, nobody cares so crack on!

We’re younger than you and often do cryptic crosswords together if we’re in a pub or cafe.

Nobody will notice or care.

DH and I rarely play cards just us but if the kids are with us we always do as it is DS's favourite thing - I always have a pack of cards in my handbag! Wouldn't judge you at all

My parents sit and play cards, we sit and read our phones, I think cards beats phones! There’s a couple who play backgammon in our local pub (they bring a set with them) I think it’s sweet.

I wouldn't judge you, I'd think it's sweet that you play games together. You don't have to talk nonstop, it's nice to be able to be quiet together.

It’s better to be quiet people than sex people.

I would see you playing cards and think it very cool. My friends and i would play cards when interrailing. My teens play cards now.
We don't travel without a couple of packs.

I would think you were cool.

I think that’s a lovely way to while away your time in a pub.