Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be annoyed about this situation with neighbour and her dog?

828 replies

CantGetBackToSleep · 07/08/2026 06:37

I’m lying awake because I don’t know what to do about this situation.

On Sunday our neighbour came to see us visibly upset. Her mum had been taken into hospital and she had been told to get there asap. Her mum lives in Scotland and we are in the South of England so she was panicking about getting there on time and also about who would look after her dog. We helped her book a flight as she was in a state shaking and in no state to think properly. She asked if we could have her dog for a few days. Reluctantly we agreed but said we were leaving to go on holiday on Friday evening so she would need to make other arrangements by Friday morning for him. We went and collected the dog and he has been with us since. We have our own dogs and they are all getting on well.

Our neighbour text me on Monday to say her mum had died. We had a brief text conversation and obviously I said how sorry I was to hear about her mum.

I text her on Wednesday morning to say that I know she has a lot to deal with but we really need to know what she’s doing about her dog as we are due to go away. I didn’t hear anything so I text her again yesterday to ask what she wanted us to do with the dog and got a text from another of her relatives from her phone saying our neighbour is very upset and isn’t in the right place to sort this out. I replied to say I understood but that when we agreed to have the dog, it was on the condition that she made other arrangements for the dog by Friday morning as we are due to go on holiday. I didn’t get a reply. I tried to call last night but it went to voicemail. I had already called our nearest boarding kennels who do have space so I told her on the voicemail that I could drop him at kennels but she needs to give them her payment details. I still haven’t had a reply from my neighbour.

What do we do? I’ve asked other neighbours and they won’t have him. My parents are having our dogs while we are away but are not willing to take the neighbours dog as well.

A friend has suggested I drop him at our local vets which is the vet my neighbour uses but I don’t think they would be ok with that. Another friend said if it comes to it to call the rspca, explain the situation and say he’s basically been abandoned.

I’m so stressed. I know my neighbour has lost her mum but we are not missing our holiday.

OP posts:
Sasha07 · Today 20:28

Everything is sorted now.

Please may I cheekily request that we try not to fill the thread so I can selfishly hope OP comes back after having a fab holiday and updates us if there's anything worth updating? Hopefully neighbour has had the time by then to take care of herself and understands why OP had to do what she did, the dog is taken care of, not left abandoned or having a bill to pay from kennels... Neighbour hopefully will have the dog back with her and everyone moved on .. Best case scenario from a bad situation. I do feel sorry for the dog and hope this is just a temporary situation it's in. Hope that the neighbour too will be ok, but the thread is about the dog.

But I do really hope we get space left for OP to give a 'panic over nothing, neighbour is back and everything is fine, holiday was bliss,' update, instead of loads of advice and grumpy opinions days after it was resolved already...
Alas, I await to be told everyone is entitled to their opinion whether it's relevant or not and I'm not the thread police... Yarda, yarda, yarda... 😁

Floatlikeafeather2 · Today 20:35

Isinglass20 · Today 18:22

I’d leave the dog in her garden with water and phone dog warden to say dog abandoned and owner gone away , according to neighbours. What else can you do. Maybe the neighbours will take pity on the animal.

Or she could do what she did 2 and a half days ago when she wrote her final post!

SouthLondonMum22 · Today 21:17

HarshbutTrue2 · Today 19:57

Considering mumsnet is always banging on about mental health issues, Considering half of mumsnet kids have special needs and their feelings have to be considered by all and sundry, there's some awful, nasty, heartless posts.

Not one single poster has considered that the dogs owner has got issues.

Then the dog may not be safe in her care and should be rehomed anyway. It doesn't change the fact that she has abandoned her dog.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page