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To ask her to STOP blowing your stupid fkn vape in my direction.

33 replies

DallazMajor · 06/08/2026 11:22

AIBU to ask my friend to stop vaping at inappropriate times.

We go on holidays together and she’s always surrounded by a cloud of vape smoke. (It’s like she’s just coming through the fucking reveal door on “Stars in their Eyes”

Vaping as soon as she wakes up (in bed) We share a twin room. Plus vaping in the room generally.
Vaping whilst we are dining in restaurants in-between courses.
Vaping just every fucking where and just blowing it into my face.

It stinks. Like sickly smells such as candy floss or bubble gum.

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 06/08/2026 11:42

In the room is unfair on you, you can’t escape. Of course YANBU.

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 10:43

Cherrysoup · 06/08/2026 11:42

In the room is unfair on you, you can’t escape. Of course YANBU.

It just stinks!

OP posts:
Flamingojune · 08/08/2026 10:46

How selfish of her

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

Mumdiva99 · 08/08/2026 10:47

Yuk a vape is as disgusting as a cigarette. Surely she can refrain from vaping in the apartment and at the dinner table.

x2boys · 08/08/2026 10:48

DallazMajor · 06/08/2026 11:22

AIBU to ask my friend to stop vaping at inappropriate times.

We go on holidays together and she’s always surrounded by a cloud of vape smoke. (It’s like she’s just coming through the fucking reveal door on “Stars in their Eyes”

Vaping as soon as she wakes up (in bed) We share a twin room. Plus vaping in the room generally.
Vaping whilst we are dining in restaurants in-between courses.
Vaping just every fucking where and just blowing it into my face.

It stinks. Like sickly smells such as candy floss or bubble gum.

You dont seem like the ideal holiday companions

Whatifitallgoesright · 08/08/2026 10:49

She should be going outside to smoke it as if it was a normal fag. In-between courses is horrible. Hasn't staff ever told her to take it outside?

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

x2boys · 08/08/2026 10:48

You dont seem like the ideal holiday companions

Don’t be ridiculous.

OP posts:
DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:46

Whatifitallgoesright · 08/08/2026 10:49

She should be going outside to smoke it as if it was a normal fag. In-between courses is horrible. Hasn't staff ever told her to take it outside?

No one seems to bat an eyelid.

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DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:47

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

BOAK

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Nereidd · 08/08/2026 23:50

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Gassylady · 08/08/2026 23:50

How about blowing it back at her with a handheld fan? Even better tell her it is disgusting and you will no longer be going on holiday with her if she doesn’t stop it

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

Mumdiva99 · 08/08/2026 10:47

Yuk a vape is as disgusting as a cigarette. Surely she can refrain from vaping in the apartment and at the dinner table.

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

Nearly50omg · 09/08/2026 00:20

I’d be throwing her vapes away if she has them in the shared room each and every time!

MrsOni · 09/08/2026 00:21

YANBU. I'd rather people smoked than use those stupid things.

They smell fucking horrible, you look fucking stupid using them and they are environmentally horrible.

flowersplease · 09/08/2026 00:25

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

I vape, respectfully unlike this individual, and I have never thought of it like this. Oddly intimate and gross.

I only vape in smoking areas and my garden though so I’m only sharing air with other smokers/vapers and pigeons.

NoWordForFluffy · 09/08/2026 00:29

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

It shouldn't be. Vaping is often banned in the same places as smoking is. People flouting that doesn't mean that it's allowed to do it everywhere.

gamerchick · 09/08/2026 00:33

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

Is it?

It's constant. Everyone holds them constantly and sucks on them constantly like a dummy. They all do the same dance if it isn't in their hand. 'stand up. Pat part twirl, pat part, scan the room'

It's bloody weird. Put it down for a bit.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 09/08/2026 00:34

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

Well you don’t
I wouldn’t tolerate this and you clearly aren’t happy @DallazMajor otherwise you wouldn’t have started this thread

MdmBovary · 09/08/2026 00:36

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

Like a sweet-smelling fart Grin

IStillHearTheWaves · 09/08/2026 00:37

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What's really awful is that these awful 'flavours' are blatantly aimed at teens to get them hooked.

CountessBinface · 09/08/2026 00:48

So tell her. And stop going on holiday with her FGS!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/08/2026 00:50

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

No!
I love the smell of a Strawberry Vape ( I;ve never smoked or vaped myself) , I actually followed a bloke who was vaping just to get his 2nd Hand Vapours . (Not in a weird stalker way , just a respectable distance ) .

Now I know just how 2nd hand this is , I am quitting !

Envy <Not Envy

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/08/2026 00:54

Could you pinch it while she's asleep .

"Have you seen my vape Dallaz ? "

"Oh , no -sorry (not sorry) , no clue" <Innocent Look>

Stinkybooks · 09/08/2026 00:59

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

@x2boys is right. You are not ideal holiday companions or even just friends really. You dont like the stink of vaping. She is happy to continue doing so regardless of how you feel about it.
However much else you've got in common and enjoy spending time together, her vaping habit isnt compatible with your dislike of it. Its gross anyway. Spending a holiday passively breathing in someone elses toxic fumes doesnt sound like fun or at all healthy.

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