Letting newborn cry for a little while - dealing with other children?

[JulMay6]

I have a beautiful 1 month old DD who I adore but (like most babies) she likes to be held and is in her cluster feeding phase. I am seriously struggling mentally with keeping up with her cues and needs whilst looking after my 3 year old DS who also is clingy and likes to be with me and needs my attention.

Although I do have her in the carrier sometimes, I can’t do this all day plus we are in a heatwave.

I have read it is absolutely OK to leave a newborn to cry for 5-10 mins as long as they are in a safe space. I honestly feel like if I did this a few times a day it would save my mentally. Hearing her cry breaks my heart but I’m finding things difficult

That's of you are happy to carry them around constantly. I certainly wasn't and needed time without a baby attached to me

I can't believe someone things is normal to hold a baby when having a poo. Mine never even came in the bathroom with me and if they cried for 5 minutes when I had a poo, they cried.

Holding, no - too tricky to wipe. In a sling, sure if I needed to. Not worth waking her etc by taking her out, but if her dad was around or she was awake and happy to chill that would be the preference. But absolutely I had her in the sling with me for the toilet innumerable times over the course of 2 babies.

One of my most miserable nights as a parent of a young baby was with a bottle refusing ebf baby when I had a D&V bug. Grim as anything, but still needed feeding, even though that was all I did. I'm sure I'm not alone in that experience 🤢.

Tampon changing with a baby strapped to my front. That was a whole new level of dexterity 😂.

Why not just put them in their cot when you need to get things done. They are safe and you can go to the toilet, have a shower, get dinner ready, have your cup of coffee etc.