Not sure what to think of this photo caption

[Pleasenomorespiders]

A male colleague has posted a photo of his wife and their 4 young kids (all under 8 or so) he's put '4 kids, and she's still got a great figure!' Maybe I'm reading into too much but I find it a bit off?

Where was it posted, on a work channel or his own social media?

jfc - men really can do no right on here can they?! god forbid a husband finds his wife hot!

My god people can't say anything anymore

I'd find it gross (and embarrassing if I were his wife), but whatever. Some people wouldn't be bothered. Some would be flattered. I'd just roll my eyes and be glad I wasn't his wife.

Not really chauvinistic to pay his wife a compliment about her appearance, is it?

Mumsnet is always full of threads from people who feel really sad about the fact that their husbands never say they look nice or notice their appearance. This man is doing that. Social media isn't where I'd want my partner to do that as I just think it's a naff platform for it. I'd rather he just told me to my face. But I really don't find anything chauvinistic about the actual sentiment.

It doesn't imply it's the ONLY thing he likes about her. It implies that it's ONE OF the things he likes about her, which is hardly a crime given that she's his wife.

Do you that every time someone says something nice about their partner, they have to list all the other things as well for the sake of balance? And do genuinely think that that one social media caption is summarising every single nice thought he's ever had about his wife?

Christ alive, my DP is very much not chauvinistic in the least, but when he gives my bum a little squeeze and tells me I look nice in a new pair of jeans, I wouldn't expect him to add '...and of course, you also have a degree and are good at running.'

Why make any comment at all? There was no need to post a caption. Why talk about his views on his wife's body ?

I mean, talking about stuff that's on your mind is literally what social media is for.

And most people do caption their pictures because, again, that's what social media's for. People just caption a picture with whatever the picture makes them think of in the moment. And as photos are are visual medium, it's pretty reasonable and understandable that he looked at it and thought 'God, she looks great there, nobody would ever think she was a mum of four' and just fired off a caption to that effect. It's not my thing, but it's also not the deeply significant act that you think it is.

My mum once posted a picture of my dad on their wedding anniversary and captioned it something like '50 years married to Mike and he's still always the most handsome man in the room'. I don't think that's any different, really. I'm pretty sure nobody took that to mean his face was the only thing she valued about him.

Because it wasn’t about you, it was about them, and if they are both comfortable with the compliment thays all that matters.; not you deciding he’s not allowed.

Yes but she’s a woman so no one gets irate, when a man does it, then ifs heinous as you’re not allowed to compliment your wife’s figure,

How do you know his wife was comfortable about either him posting the photo- a lot of people now realise the dangers of posting photos of children on social media - or about him publicly commenting on her body.

I presume all the pp who are OK with him telling the world what he thinks of her body will also be OK with him publicly telling every body in the future what he thinks of her body if she happens to put on weight or similar?

Some things are best kept private and a man's thought on his partners body are one of them.

If you're not his wife then it's not up to you to be offended.